Recently I started dating a girl, however she felt she rushed into a relationship too quickly considering she just got out of a 4 year relationship and we're just friends. This really isn't an issue since we still do everything people who're dating do anyway [Hang out, fun conversations, cuddling, kissing, sex, massages, etc..]. There's just no title there.
SO, on facebook my "friend" Hayley [girl who's not my girlfriend but might as well be anyway] posted a status about a twisted ankle and how she's annoyed she can't play DDR. One of her female friends left a comment with a joke. I played off the same joke and this friend of Hayley's liked my comment and added me as a friend.
We're chatting, me and this friend [don't remember her name... let's go with Ashley for the hell of it]. She asks how if I know Hayley in real life or if she's just some facebook friend of mine. I'm slightly annoyed and respond by saying yes I did know her and she came over to my house for a movie and that I really like Hayley.
We chat a little more and she asks me something about Hayley again and I say that Hayley must be some sort of Sorcerer supreme cause she's cast a spell on me. I assume the ritual for the spell involved being a really nice, sweet, and genuinely caring person. She laughs and starts flirting with me.
She's telling me how she wants to run her hands through my hair and is throwing all sorts of IOI's my way. I'm being rather neutral. I don't say thank you as much as I just play it all off politely. I don't jump at her offers to hang out . It all feels familiar.
Later that night I remember something.
Ashley White.
I knew met her when I was in 12th grade, she was an 8th grader. She was on the wrestling team and the middle school practiced with the high school so we'd both have kids our on weight to practice against for matches. Ashley and I both weighed 135lbs. She was my partner and she was such a sweet girl. Always so kind to everyone and very funny too.
She ran track too. And skateboarded, and did pretty much everything I did. I saw this girl everywhere and she was always such a sweet caring girl and I was so shy. I was falling for her and too shy to tell her. Her, not other people.
My female friends would talk to me and sometimes I'd mention her and how much I liked this girl and she say things like "Awwww you're so in love with her. Ask her out."
They'd also say I seemed like such a sweet caring guy and ask if I wanted to go hang out sometime. Or ask me if they're the sort've girl I like. They'd tell me about their boy issues and I'd sincerely try to help saying things like "Don't date a guy who puts you don't all the time or treats you like shit." And then a lot of them would try to get me to sleep with them when we were alone. Back then all I could think of was Ashley and when they'd try to seduce me I'd say no and they'd give me a kiss on the cheek or a hug and ask me not to tell anyone else. And I wouldn't.
Then, I didn't understand it. I didn't know why all these girls were after me all of a sudden when we were just friends all through out high school. Or just friends for a few weeks.
There's also Liz, Ashley B., and Diedra.
These three girls knew me from Xanga. On Xanga I wrote blogs about my life, just a journal. They did the same and we left each other comments. Words of encouragement, funny comments, whatever.
Diedra would say that I seemed like a very passionate caring guy and she wanted to meet me sometime. She's strongly insinuated that we'd have sex if we did.
Liz openly said she wanted me to take her virginity. She knew I was the sweetest guy in the world and it was so sweet that I cared about Ashley White so much. [note: I did fuck the shit out of liz eventually... and she was a creepy clingy stalker. I broke up with her and she dated other guys but would never leave me alone and always said I was "perfect"]
Ashley B. said I seemed really sweet and that it was so cute that I was in love with Ashley White. She kept trying to convince me to come out to her school and have sex with her. I eventually did go out there and all we did was have sex. I felt bad about it cause I sincerely loved Ashley White.
The point.
I've noticed every time I like a girl and other girls know that I really like this girl they're after me. Even if I'm not with this girl or they've never met that girl.
So, for all they know said girl could be imaginary. Someone you work with. Someone you see at a coffee shop. Whatever.
However I feel like it has to be someone you actually talk to [as far as anyone knows] and you like something about their personality. In my life it's always been a real person that I actually like. And it's always cause they're the nicest person I know.
At work I had a picture of me and my friend Amy on my phone back ground. Other girls would ask who it was. I'd say it's my friend I had fallen in love with. How she lives in Cleveland and I occasionally go out to visit family there and will always spend a whole day with Amy going to the beach, wandering around the woods, and just enjoying each other's company. The girls at that job [who didn't strike my fancy] were always trying to get me to go hang out with them or watch a movie at their place or whatever. Sometimes trying to hook me up with their friends.
Hope this helps someone out.
Try to be classy with it. Don't be a scumbag. Though I can't stop anyone from telling a few white lies about some fictitious girl they're in love with
