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Author:  The Asian Don [ Mon Aug 20, 2012 1:59 pm ]
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Having some gay friends, will it lower my value or give off the wrong message to people/girls?

I don't agree with homosexuality(personal opinion) but I'm not homophobic and I treat everyone equally.

I sort of know this guy on facebook, we've got similar tastes in films so we talk every now and then on facebook about films. He seems like a cool guy and we have similar interests. He asked me if i wanna meet up sometime for a pint or two. Doesn't seem like he's trying to hit on me but I have my suspisions...

Do you think I should just be a friendly guy and just do it? I wanna increase my social circle and get to know more people, but I'm just scared he might be thinking of something else...

Say if he is just being friendly, would having gay friends make me look bad to girls? They might think I'm femenine or camp or something? It doesn't help that I have a babyface and I'm a bit of a pretty boy(I dress well and style my hair), I'm not the manliest guy there but I wanna give off a more manly vibe as suppose to a femenine one. I don't want people thinking I'm gay and shit.

What you guys think?
Author:  MagicM [ Mon Aug 20, 2012 2:37 pm ]
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From personal experience, it makes things easier.

They know what looks attractive on guys better than straight dudes do, so go shopping with them and have them help pick you out some clothes.

Never known it look bad to girls cause most girls these days have at least one gay best friend cause it means they are not going to be hit on all time , you might be surprised how many ladies you meet through him. On top of that it shows your a guy who gets along with all kinds of people (aka more sociable than others) and generally dont care as long as people are generally nice people, which is always DHV.

Its basically same deal as if you had a female wing except you just don't walk into nightclubs ect arm in arm.

Dont worry about if he is wanting more than just being a friend with you, if he does try something simply respond with I'm very flattered but I personally am not interested in men that way, but I do think your an awesome friend to have. Odds are before he actually tries anything he will have noticed your only interested in the ladies by then anyway and wont try anything.

Some of best wings I have had have been gay (granted not been out with a fellow PUA yet) and it works quiet well cause when we have walked into a set he has normally kept the guys occupied for me and I have kept the girls occupied for him.

but that's just from my personal experience.
Author:  Mozambiqua [ Tue Aug 21, 2012 3:25 am ]
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Having gay friends makes things so much easier. Don't discriminate towards sexual orientation, accept all types of people and treat everyone the same.
Author:  Victor_S [ Tue Aug 21, 2012 12:27 pm ]
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I find it a bit of an ego boost if a gay guy is into me!
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Say if he is just being friendly, would having gay friends make me look bad to girls? They might think I'm femenine or camp or something?
I would think this would be a bit of an advantage. You can go under the radar. You've temporarily disqualified yourself and you can then turn on the attraction switches.
Author:  Ilustrado [ Tue Aug 21, 2012 3:56 pm ]
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One of my very good friends is gay, and he usually give good advice when it comes to clothes and stuff like that. I don't think you should see your friend as just an asset for pickup though...

Gay guys also make good wingmen since there isn't really any chance of them picking up your target.
Author:  Hammerofdawn [ Thu Aug 23, 2012 12:13 pm ]
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There's nothing wrong with having a gay friend as long as he knows the score about your intentions (so he doesn’t think you’re leading him on).

Basically I've got a friend called Tony, grew up with him and he more camp than a row of pink tents (I even helped him come out the closet so to speak) but he is genuinely great guy, fun to be around, is good for drawing positive attention to our group and helps us DHV the place.

It also shows your comfortable with your sexuality and can socialise with people from different backgrounds and orientations, as long as he's not blatantly hitting on you in a HB peripheral vision it should never come across DLV.
Author:  Gadsen [ Thu Aug 23, 2012 3:45 pm ]
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My gay friends always make it easier to hook up with girls. I wish I had more gay friends.
Author:  Ilustrado [ Mon Aug 27, 2012 3:03 pm ]
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as long as he's not blatantly hitting on you in a HB peripheral vision it should never come across DLV.
I don't really think that's a DLV - if you're straight but guys are still hitting on you, you're doing pretty well. Also if it makes the HB think you might be gay it'll probably just lower her guard and make her easier to open/talk to
Author:  SOUL_FIGHTER [ Tue Aug 28, 2012 5:59 am ]
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Gay men aren't real men, so why voluntarily hang out with them? They'll only bring your game down and you might end up catching the gay.

I can understand if you live in a really gay area like SF or NYC, it's hard to avoid not to have at least a few homosexual friends. But all my gay friends are the macho gay guys and are mostly co-workers from the gym.
Author:  Pickwick [ Tue Aug 28, 2012 6:33 am ]
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One of my best friends is gay and I absolutely love going out with him. 8)



Not in that way. Besides having similar interests and similar views, this guy is the friendliest and most interesting guy you'll ever meet. No AA at all, especially when talking to women. Most girls want to just sit there and chat with him, whether it's a club, bar, party, mall, whatever. He just picks their brain apart, and his homosexuality always helps him find common language with them.

How he has helped me: I only approach two to three girls when I go out at night, mainly to select which one is better. Since I don't want to say bye to any of them, I tell him I'm going to go meet girl X over there, and he should keep girl Y around and talk to her. He is more than glad to. If I need to come back to girl Y because she's better, I tell X that I want her to meet somebody, bring over my friend, introduce, and come back to Y. He talks to X and everyone's happy. This same pattern has happened 12-13 times. But I usually just like going out with him to just chill and have a good time. :wink:
Author:  Hammerofdawn [ Tue Aug 28, 2012 9:32 am ]
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as long as he's not blatantly hitting on you in a HB peripheral vision it should never come across DLV.
I don't really think that's a DLV - if you're straight but guys are still hitting on you, you're doing pretty well. Also if it makes the HB think you might be gay it'll probably just lower her guard and make her easier to open/talk to
Absolutely, what I meant by "blatantly hitting on you" was escalating on you to a point where he would instantly disqualify you from HB's and they would assume that you were more than 'just friends' but to show your comfortable in your own skin and working to lower their guard would never be a bad thing.
Author:  puaninja [ Tue Aug 28, 2012 12:50 pm ]
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Gay guys can be a useful "tool" (no pun intended) in the pickup artist's arsenal, there's no doubt about it. They have an ability to develop rapport with women and get women to lower their guard in a way that most straight guys can't. And if you are winging with one, it's a built in false disqualifier because the women will think that you are gay too, or be confused and wondering if you are or not, thus putting them on tilt. And shit, let the gay friend do all the work and entertain the set the whole night. Then at the end you pull the hot one out of the set and take her home and fuck her. There, everyone wins.
Author:  Kubrik's [ Tue Aug 28, 2012 2:31 pm ]
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one of my best wingmans is bisexual, he have the two points of view, lol.
Author:  Chiasmata [ Tue Aug 28, 2012 6:46 pm ]
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My best wing was gay. I just wish he didn't move so far away.

Also, don't start hanging out with someone who's gay just because they're gay and will be useful to your social life. Make friends with a dude who you actually enjoy hanging out with because they're a cool, fun person who just happens to be gay.
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