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| Author: | Rambotito [ Sat Mar 17, 2012 9:31 pm ] |
| Post subject: | im sick of my friends |
i hope this is the appropriate place. anyway.. im 19.. i have social anxiety and my social skills are close to zero.. i have like 2-3 friends.. were not even good friends but still they are my only friends. now, the thing that made us become friends is that we are all socially outcasts.. all of us are the guys who didnt have many friends in school, the ones who never spoke in class, who never spoke to girls etc.. that made us become friends but still all of us are socially outcasts and have bad social skills.. this leading to us fighting alot.. i mean ALOT.. im sick of them but whenever i fight with them.. i always go back to being friends with them because if i dont go out with them.. im just stuck in my house 24/7.. we are friends for like 2-3 years and constantly fighting and making peace again.. few months ago one of them realy screwed me over bad and i decided that enough is enough and i stopped asnwering his phones, going out with him etc.. and since then he desperatly tries to make peace with me in all ways.. calling from hidden numbers.. sending other people to call me and ask me to talk to him.. but im sick of him being a shitty friend.. today my friend called me asking if i wanna go out with him and few others of his friends.. i said yes because as u may have guessed i had nothing to do.. so i got organazied, got in my car, drove extra 20 minutes to pick up a friend with his house.. and when we got to the place a bit early, i called him and he said that the friend i fought with is also comming.. i got fucking mad and asked him why didnt he tell me and he say: "we thought of a plan to make u guys become friends again, we decied not to tell u he is comming so u are forced to meet with him and become friends again". i yelled at him on the phone.. and drove back home.. im sick of my shitty friends.. but im forced to keep being their friend because otherwise.. il just have no friends at all.. seriously i have no idea what to do.. please dont tell me to just make other friends.. i have social anxiety.. i feel like shit when im in social situations.. going out to clubs and making friends isnt somthing i can do.. even when i do go out.. i just sit quietly or talking to my friends which are also shy and quiet. i dont realy ask for anything im just so fucking angry of them and writing here is the only thing that came to my mind to unload my bad feelings. |
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| Author: | JACKAL RONIN J000 [ Sun Mar 18, 2012 11:42 am ] |
| Post subject: | Hi |
Hey man, as friends, u must have some ground rules. If u stick to them, then this should prevent bad incidents from happening and escalating. The best way to get respect in life is to ask for it. There are problems from the beginning when we do not let people know our boundaires, but if your friends have a bad memory u must do your best to remind them, what offended u, but also provide a viable solution for them. Some people have no friends, u have two more thn them. U need to be more honest, you describe your friends as shitty, but apart from saying u r shy, u do not reveal any character flaws in yourself. U need to do this first, before you accept what needs improving about u. Write down, what is causing the fights. Give examples, of what causes u hurt. If u give examples I will give possible solutions. |
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| Author: | Shreds [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 2:46 am ] |
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1) Figure out what you do that makes you happy. 2) Figure out what you want to improve in your life that you can do on your own (study, get a better job, get in shape, learn to play an instrument) - things that will make you feel better about yourself, and that will raise your value to others as a person. 3) Your social anxiety will get better over time if your self esteem gets better as a result of 2) 4) If you have trouble with that, get a therapist to help you out with your issues also. |
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