Hey Deadly,

Here is my answer to your question. Emotions are real. They're not fake. You can't pretend to be happy if you're not truly happy. It will show through your voice, your body language, and through anything that you're trying to convey. The only way to express your emotions with congruency is that you have to learn how to face your emotions. What I mean is you experience it and then acknowledge and then do something with it. If you're happy embrace it. If you're sad, face the things that make you sad. If you're scared, know that you're scared and do something with your fears, don't hide or cover it up. Be a man and don't be afraid of your own emotions. Majority of the time, the reason why you're not congruent with your emotions is because you're either concealing it or you're pretending to do the things that your heart is telling you not to. It's like your brain is telling you to do this, but your gut feeling is like dude, it's not right, it's not right, but in your mind, you're logically trying to justify and analyze things. Over time, this becomes a habit, and whenever your emotions come up, you will shut them out habitually and act against your own emotions. The only way to congruently express your emotions, is t be honest with yourself. Learn to be honest with yourself first and know that it's okay to be honest with yourself and with others. That's all I gotta say. Good luck.


- Nelson