As a guy who's been in this thing for 7 years now, I needed a place to vent my thoughts on and experiences with natural game and dating in general, so I decided to create such a place. It's a way for me to monitor my own progress/thoughts, for me to give feedback on myself. Feel free to comment if you feel you must, but don't expect a reply as I'll do lots of ranting
First thing on my mind: your intentions... and how they relate to settling for less.
Most guys have such a low degree of understanding of women that they do anything to get a woman, ANY woman. They game one of their buddy's exes or family members who they swore to never try and attract, they ruin a conversation a guy's having in a club by acting drunk, a girl asks a friend of a guy about him and he never tells him, they screw up at their jobs and get fired just to get the girl. Stuff like that. I hear similar stuff all the time from people who ask me for advice: most guys assume the means justify the ends because of their scarcity mindset.
At some point though, the average guy realizes he can't get the type of girl he wants. That's when he starts to look for someone less pretty. Less interesting. Whatever. He settles for less, hoping it will make him happy but it does not. I'm willing to bet this is one of the biggest reasons why there are so many divorces.
Now this is all stuff most people on this forum know, but settling for less actually starts earlier. Way earlier. I mean, how many freaking guys meet a girl and end up befriending her while they had sexual intentions? More than anyone can count that's for damn sure. But isn't that settling for less too?
You WANT to be someone's lover, you become a friend though, and you stick with it. You perhaps hope to still get her some day. So you're accepting subpar circumstances. Circumstances below your expectations. You simply got less than you wanted out of it and accepted it. THAT'S what I call settling for less.
Why do so many guys lack the confidence, the self-respect, to think to themselves "Look honey, I have enough friends as it is already. I'm not looking for more friends. That's not what I intended so I'm moving on." Your intention was not to be friends, so why the hell did you become friends?
But there's more: you KNOW your friends dislike your success with women. After all, why else do they interrupt you when you talk to chicks? Try to steal your ex or whatever? In short, your friends are far from good wingmen. They HURT your chances with women you expected to have... and you accept... because they're your friends. Why? Why do you take BS from your friends. Is it your problem that they lack the confidence to get a girl without dirty tricks? Nope. By accepting them you're settling for less. Sure you can be friends if you want to, but only in non-dating situations. That means not going out with them, but doing other stuff. Accepting their presence in dating situations while you KNOW they want to limit you IS settling for less. Period. It's settling for less than a good chance of getting girls.
Last but not least: for the people who've come full circle. The experienced dudes. What I can't understand is how you can get a girl here and there, any girl you pretty much want, or you end up in the best relationship ever... and then you stop. Why? Don't you know you can improve the other areas of your life with the skills you learned? Don't you know, for example, that challenging the boss, being picky, teasing the guy and everything makes him like you more than the average person? Of course you don't want to date the guy, iel, but you can use the same principles you use in the dating game to get what you want in the game of life. To get a promotion. To get the kind of people into your circle of friends that help you realize your ambitions (if any). Isn't not evolving beyond the dating game settling for less?
Of course, most guys are blind to these facts. They don't know the opportunities that are within their grasp... getting more confidence, getting more out of life in general, be happier than ever because you do not settle. Just because you're blind doesn't mean there's nothing to see...
And some people retort to this argument of the game of life versus the dating game by saying "yeah dude, but I exist to get all the girls I can because I'm the next Hugh Hefner man." Really? So your life is about womanizing... hmm... therefore if there are no women, you're not living? You ARE not a pick up artist. That means if there's nothing to pick up you're dead and useless. You're busy with the pick up arts, just like you ARE not a lawyer. You practice law because if there is no law then...
Living life to the fullest, to me, is always growing. Always improving. Don't confuse it with never being happy or never being confident about what you have, no, it's simply always seeking out a challenge because it's fun. It's inspiring. It let's you learn, while you have and always were perfect. I'll stop ranting now.