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Author:  ImNaShitFool [ Fri Feb 18, 2011 5:59 pm ]
Post subject:  overcoming social awkwardness??
Ive started to better understand my social akwardness... Its a little unique from most people cuz since I already have a funny cocky personality & I wasnt a stranger to deep level comfort... Id consider myself somewhat of a natural... But I have a problem where... If Something makes me uncomfortable usually in the form of precieved judgement or criticism or the threat of it, my brain automatically focuses on how uncomfortable I am, rather than the moment... And I look lost and confused and im not able to focus enough to be my usual self..and the problem perpetuates itself, because even if people didnt criticize me, they will once I start acting that way, & the fear comes true, and the problem becomes worse.. Im not sure how to break this habbit... It seems to be wired into my brain... Ive noticed however that when a sense of urgency sets in, i usually tune it out till the urgency is no longer needed.. Can anyone think of things I can do to break this habbit?
Author:  Amadieus [ Fri Feb 18, 2011 8:23 pm ]
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Don't care about what people think of you!
You live this life for who? yourself? or those people that judge you?

You live for yourself and you do the things u want in this life!

Keep that in mind m8!

And if you do find yourself a bit lost then just accept it, when u accept it that u feel like shit the faster u feel good again!

Say: i feel like shit but hey i don't care.

i hope it helped.

PS: Blue print decoded from RSD tyler durden might be something for you, really helps with youre problem i think ;)
Author:  BrianFL2 [ Mon Feb 28, 2011 7:41 pm ]
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it could be an unrealistic expectation about how other people are going to act. you can't expect everyone to be polite and decent all the time. That way you are not shocked.

you also have to accept that most criticisms or judgments are just the other person talking sh*t. Like sports fans of rival teams, they are not being fair and balanced, its all ego.
Author:  Kupid [ Mon Feb 28, 2011 8:26 pm ]
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Quote:
Blue print decoded from RSD tyler durden might be something for you, really helps with youre problem i think ;)
Agreed, try also from RSD:
- Transformations
- The Jeffy show


BTW when I go out I have 3 mindsets in my head (and if I repeat them in my head long enough I start to believe in them):

1. My game is a 10
2. I do not give a damn about what other people think of you
3. I'm just gonna fuck around

Hope it helps
Cheers :D
Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Mon Feb 28, 2011 10:57 pm ]
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The only way to make yourself comfortable in social situations is to PUT YOURSELF IN SOCIAL SITUATIONS. No amount of reading or tapping or thinking or praying will do it for you.

The BEST way to make yourself comfortable is to purposely CREATE awkwardness and bask in the ensuing hilarity of the situation. This is our method for helping guys get over their AA and it pretty much works with 90% of guys within a few hours!

The easiest and most fun way to create social awkwardness and have fun with it, is to grab a friend and go around playing pranks on shopkeepers, charity workers, and anyone else who's paid to be nice to you and listen to you, however retarded you are being. As a next step, try saying purposely retarded-ass chat up lines to women, and see how long you can keep the interaction going. If you have a friend there, it's easy to take it in turns to push each other to doing even more outlandish stuff. By the end of it, going up to a pretty girl and telling her she's hot seems like NOTHING by comparison.

(If you check out the video series in my sig, video 3 is all about fun pranks you can play to help you get rid of social anxiety)
Author:  First-Rate [ Sat Mar 05, 2011 7:30 am ]
Post subject:  Re: overcoming social awkwardness??
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If Something makes me uncomfortable usually in the form of precieved judgement or criticism or the threat of it, my brain automatically focuses on how uncomfortable
It is best to tell yourself over and over again that you can handle judgments and criticisms....say it in the morning, in the car on the way to work, before bed. Keep telling yourself this over and over and over again.

ALSO....get out there and put yourself in these situations. The reason your brain shuts down is because it hasnt handled it before. When I say "handled" i dont mean that it doesnt happen to you----i mean that you havent been in a situation, and gotten past it. The more times you put yourself in those situations (no matter how many times you DONT get through it)...the more likley you are able to find ways to get past it....and after you get past it a few times (even if you dont get past it 100s of times), soon you will not even think about it and not worry about it.
The best way to learn anything is practice. It isnt easy to practice something where you put yourself in an embarrassing type situation -- but its the best way to kick this habbit. make sure you come back and share with us all when you DO get over this minor bump. best of luck.
Cheers.
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