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| Author: | THunter [ Thu Sep 30, 2010 11:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | A Newb's take on inner/natural game |
Here's the biggest mistake I ever made in my life: I started to derive my self-esteem from external factors, the biggest of those being the fact that I was in a long term relationship with a HB 9.5 At first it was an incredible rush, I felt amazing about myself because I was having ridiculous amounts of sex with the girl of my dreams. But after a while, the reality set in that I needed the girl in order to feel good about myself. It may then surprise you to find out that I was the one who ended things, but I did not want to live my life that way. I hadn't realized how much of my self-esteem I had been getting from her until I split. That's when I really became a chump, I tried to get her back, unsuccessfully. But the universe has a dark sense of humor, because now that I don't want to be with the girl, she wants me back. I know, I know, it makes perfect sense looking at the situation now, but I was blind to what was going on for a very long time. So maybe I'm a bit different, but these are my priorities. First Priority: Reclaim my self-esteem Second Priority: Get women Don't get me wrong, I'd love to be getting laid on a regular basis again, but it's more important for me to be happy with myself. The really nice thing about this approach is that not only is it a lot of fun, but the better I feel, the easier interacting becomes. I've been finding that just by focusing on having fun and playing around, my social skills have improved dramatically. I'm not worrying about using routines, though learning some has given me an extra boost of confidence. The ironies of life, right? I think I'm learning routines to not use them, but to have that safety net. If all else fails, I can do the X routine. -Dean |
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