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| Author: | Sticksie [ Mon Jul 05, 2010 1:39 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How do you get good conversation with a super shy girl? |
Ive only recently started to play more direct styles of daygame. Ive noticed some of the girls go super shy and it gets to hard to get the conversation flowing. So I'll lead and say "you can sit over here if you want" or what ever and they tend to follow or shitest me or something so I know it's not disinterest. Just having trouble getting rapport. Any ideas? |
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| Author: | Keyzz [ Wed Jul 07, 2010 10:40 pm ] |
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Rapport building can be pretty hard sometimes; the trick is to get them to open up while still keeping the conversation fun, direct, and interesting (in my opinion). So while you are going to want to act cool, higher value, etc. try and be honestly interested in who the girl is. Be perceptive, notice if she's becoming more interested in the topic, and try to let her talk. Everyone loves to feel important, to be listened to, etc., and to me that's what builds comfort. Good luck! |
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| Author: | poeticlyskuac [ Fri Jul 09, 2010 6:52 pm ] |
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Compliment their jewelry and apparel(if it has an interesting phrase or picture ask for further details), shy girls aren't ever giving you a shit test they simply are shy, nothing more. Music is a great topic if you can find a way to shift he conversation, oh that reminds me of a song I like bla bla bla, have you ever heard it? If she says no you can elaborate if she says yeah that you just tell her why they are great to you and ask what she feels that way about. If she doesn't like it tell them why you like it, most of us have songs that remind of us memories or whatever. If she does well now you have auto rapport, just don't screw it up. The key to everything is being natural with rapport. Some people here are trying to force themselves into being natural(irony maybe), learning to ask questions and build rapport is one of the biggest tools in natural game. Learn to probe for her passion, something will set her off and you can listen to her get passionate. After that is said in done she will associate her passion and how it feels with you. You can identify with her by tossing in little comments, your right I feel that way to. Your right is one of the most powerful phrases to get them on your side. |
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| Author: | Daytime artist [ Sat Jul 10, 2010 1:56 pm ] |
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I deffinitely agree with complimenting her. Shy girls are often insecure and feel inadequate. By praising her you'll make her feel more comfortable Smile at her. That's key. Nothing like a smile to break the ice and loose any tension. Show interest in her. Like I said shy girls usually feel worthless. Show her you're honestly interested in her. Aske her about herself. She's probably not used to the interest so she'll feel liberated, and there's nothing women like more than talking about themselves. They love feeling understood and liestened to. |
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| Author: | Sticksie [ Sun Jul 11, 2010 12:55 am ] |
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Hey thanks guy's, you're golden, so simple I never would have thought of it. I think I was just being a little to value conciouse. -Cheer's |
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| Author: | Owinover [ Wed Jul 14, 2010 12:11 pm ] |
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Shy girls are all about building comfort! But before you can build their comfort, you have to show them you are comfortable. Hold out your hand as if you want to hold hers, dance around her a little bit, do whatever it takes to show her you're fun and she can feel comfortable sharing that fun with you. |
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| Author: | Daytime artist [ Thu Jul 15, 2010 7:37 pm ] |
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One more thing: don't be pushy; be gentle. None of that motormouth victory-by-exhaustion shit. |
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| Author: | Mississauga [ Sat Jul 17, 2010 11:14 pm ] |
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I like to point out the obvious when speaking to a shy girl "Hey you are quite talkative, thats what I like about you. You know just when to say things"... Don't ever ask her "Are you okay...Your so shy...Don't point out anything that would make her defensive or think maybe something is wrong with her." Shy girls suck to speak to, but when they open up its like you can't shut them the hell up again. They are so freaking talkative you would be surprised, they are only shy at first as a defensive measure. |
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