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| Author: | Mindwarp [ Thu Apr 22, 2010 6:30 pm ] |
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1.) There is no such thing as "small talk". When small talk happens, turn it into something real. If shes talking about the weather, tell her a story about a time when you were in really bad weather, or about a vacation you took where the weather was really beautiful. You can even tell her about weather patterns if you're so inclined and informed, I bet she doesn't know what the barometric pressure is or what it means! 2.) Don't play 20 questions! Only ask questions you genuinely want to know the answers to. If you don't care if shes in school, don't ask her, if you don't care if she has pets, don't ask her. Only ask her about things you want to know about her, that way your interest is genuine and she will be able to tell that you not only care, but that your actually listening. Of course, playing the actual game 20 questions can be a good way to have some fun and get a flow of communication going! 3.) If shes quiet, talk about yourself- and don't force the topic. Don't just sit there in silence. While silence is golden, if you want to show her how awesome you are, demonstrate how awesome you are by telling her about yourself. Just talk about whatever comes into your head, the experience with your first bike, or a movie you saw, or an article you read, or a thing you want to do, a subject you enjoy. Don't worry about boring her when you talk to her about string theory which she might not actually care about or understand, because shes already bored! 4.) If shes talking about herself, listen and kino, but don't burden her. People like to talk about themselves, but what you want to avoid is that moment of self consciousness where she realizes she has been talking about herself as that will tend to shut down communication entirely unless you remedy the situation. Thus as she talks about herself listen genuinely, put yourself in her reality and her story. You don't have to say anything, communicate by touching her when you laugh at her jokes. Lean in as she explains something or approaches a punchline. Nudge her when she makes a bad joke or pun. Shes giving you the opportunity to engage her in a non-verbal way, so take it! Don't burden her by sitting there stonefaced and appearing uninterested. 5.) The Five Senses: Conversation is your foundation. Sight: She sees you, you see her, there is some level of attraction. Hearing: You talk to her, she talks to you, this builds that attraction and is essentially the foundation upon which everything else that follows relies upon, without which you will likely never k-close. Touch: You kino her, lean in, and get closer through physical communication. Smell: This is both on the level of pheromones which are unconsciously detected at these close levels, but also that if either if you smells to the other, the attraction will unravel at this point. Taste: This is the k-close, and while its not exactly "taste" again bad breath or eating weird foods without brushing your teeth afterwards before going out, or not having gum, can unravel attraction. Notice how this pattern is repeated in the f-close, as you first see each other naked for the first time, then speak to each other but now in a sexual way. You touch each other, smell each other, and again taste each other, in a much more literal way. Again speech is your foundation, if you say nothing that is fine but if you want to build a higher level of comfort and have better sex, you should be talking at least a little. Either asking her what she likes, if she likes what your doing, telling her shes beautiful, telling her that you like what shes doing or talking dirty to her. |
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| Author: | Tal0n [ Thu Apr 22, 2010 10:05 pm ] |
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Excellent. I realy liked this post. I'm terrible with small-talk because I hate meaningless ocnversation. It was almost as if points 1-3 geave me the permission I need to create real conversation. Nice job. |
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| Author: | Afrikaner [ Thu Apr 29, 2010 9:50 pm ] |
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Well structured conversation ideas. I really like this, even though I allways did it this way, it is never bad to overthink the basic ideas about dating. Congrats!!! |
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| Author: | SSN [ Thu May 06, 2010 6:36 pm ] |
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Great post! Very helpful... Thank you. |
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