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Author:  *Dazed* [ Wed Jan 20, 2010 1:47 am ]
Post subject:  tried using natural game for a text convo need help
(I don't know if this belongs here but I'll go ahead anyway)
OK so today I made my first number close ever, and I am very excited about just doing that. I decided when I number closed on her I wouldn't giver her my number and instead use that as a way to text her the same day. (It was in class that I got her number so I couldn't just text her right away). Any way here's the conversation I had with her.

Me: Hey this is *Dazed* figure I txt u my number
Her: Heyyyy whatcha up to
Me: Hmmm other than being smexy? Nothin much just got back from wrestling u?
Her:Haha being smexy? funnyyy joke and at work :( Blah
Me: Oh don't b jealous u know that I am. And that sucks were do u work?
Her: Ha loser and lifetime
Me: Ha if im a loser then u must be a huge one for talking to me and kool let me in for free sometime
(long pause)
Me: Lol and now ur giving me the silent SPAM.
-END-

Ok so I know that the last text I sent to her after the conversation died off was really bad, though I think it didn't destroy my chances with her. Other than that could anyone tell me why she just cut off like that? Also any other constructive criticism is fine. The second question to all this would be how much should i text her in a week? I was thinking only two times so she doesn't think I'm a stalker or anything.
Author:  lax [ Wed Jan 20, 2010 2:30 am ]
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U cock blocked urself by saying she is a loser for talking to you... hmmmmmmmm
Author:  *Dazed* [ Wed Jan 20, 2010 2:39 am ]
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damn....it feels like the minute I take a step forward I take to steps back, does that mean that I might as well give up or is there still a chance?
Author:  Mississauga [ Wed Jan 20, 2010 2:42 am ]
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U cock blocked urself by saying she is a loser for talking to you... hmmmmmmmm
Agreed.

You went a little too far on the cocky, and when texting on the first day of even getting the number you should of kept it short. Maybe say "I saw or thought of something that reminded me of you, oh and by the way I forgot to give you my number XXX-XXX-XXXX." If she responds, tell her you are busy and will call her in 2 or 3 days.

You showed her you had no life, and nothing going for yourself; basically and aren't busy at all with texting the way you did. :P
Author:  Qlass [ Thu Jan 21, 2010 6:38 am ]
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LoL man you guys are hard on this dude. Listen don't beat yourself up over it. There's a whole dynamic to texting which, from this snippet you've provided, you have yet to tune in to. She cut off because she's 1) Busy at work or 2) Her phone died or 3) Lost interest or 4) Got hit by a bus or 5) Has nothing to respond with or 6) Basically another billion reasons in the world. The first thing is to NOT WORRY ABOUT IT. Give it a break. Try it again. But please, please, PLEASE do not get caught up in texting over-time. What that means is that you end up using text messaging as a substitute for the actual phone call. Often - unless the girl predominantly wants to text - this is a very difficult way to get a day2.

A few tips:

My first text would probably have been something like "Hahaha I just made you open your phone for no reason!" or "So... you wanna have text tonight?" Use google to find others.

Don't text her to tell her you're TEXTING YOUR NUMBER! That's a waste of a text. Other wastes of text messages are replying with "Cool" or "OK" or other one-word messages. Texting is supposed to be light, fun and playful.

As far as you being "smexy"... I don't even know what to say to that lol. It seemed to get a good response out of her, you could have used it again - if she calls you a loser you could've been like "Hell yeah... a smexy loser". Anyway whatever works or feels right to you.

Try not to respond to everything in her text. Pick one thing and stick with that. You're having two conversations at the same time... Picking one thing to respond to allows you to maintain flow of the conversation. Don't ignore things outright, but try and motivate the conversation in a direction you want.

Your last text was your end-game. You texting her "You're giving me the silent SPAM" was what probably killed it for you. Whenever possible, leave the convo on a HIGH note. Let HER be the last one to text you. Take heart in the old adage, "Quit while you're ahead." Drop off for a while, and either YOU start a new convo, or she will - bearing in mind that for the first few interactions, it'll be you that takes the initiative.

And FINALLY - all the rules I have just provided you with are guidelines. I have probably broken EVERY single rule I just stated above. But you should know WHEN to break them and under what circumstance. This understanding will come with time.

Remember - texting is just for fun. You CAN set up dates through them but they should NOT be a substitute for real conversations. And as with all things, practice makes perfect.

Q.
Author:  tbrady10 [ Mon Feb 22, 2010 3:58 am ]
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great post!!
Author:  Nr2 [ Sat Feb 27, 2010 3:08 pm ]
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I found these guidelines from gambler the other day.

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