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Author:  londonfire [ Mon Dec 21, 2009 1:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Has anyone got any suggestions on how to make female friends
This is part of the plan to take my Game to the next level and I am also developing a business idea that involves promoting parties in London, so I literately need to have an army of girls that I can invite to parties and to use as pivots to get other HBs… I want to be surrounded of cool attractive and interesting women, Problem is that I instinctively try to game every girl that comes across my way and they are obviously noticing therefore I can’t really make friendships with anyone from the opposite sex.

Has anyone else got this problem or knows how to get around this issue?

Cheers all!!
Author:  Jakester [ Mon Dec 21, 2009 2:04 pm ]
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What you have to do is just make an intention to find some female friends. Then on top of that make the decision that you will never get physical with these female friends. It's just a decision, but an important one. If you have it in the back of your mind that you want to get with them, in my experience the friendship isn't going to be a true friendship. Just be clear in who you are and what you are about.

Then go out, meet these women, exchange numbers or whatever. Then build up a list. Now when you go to these parties, just say hey we're having a party at such and such and your invited!

OK, now when you interact with them, talk to them the say way you talk to guys. Also remember your intention of only being friends with them, this is important so that you don't confuse them with what's going on. The more relaxed you are about your goal and the more honest you are with what's going on, the easier it's going to be.

Women are people too, everyone wants more friends, everyone is bored and needs something to do. So this is going to be super easy.

Also you could make an affirmation on it. "I have an army of super hot female friends that love to go to parties with me!" Accept that as true and as if you are already that type of person and the faster it will happen. Also if you notice any restistance to accepting this as who you are, you'll need to let that go, as in release on any resistance so that you can fully accept that this is who you are right now. BE it ;) The sooner you decide to be it instead of trying to become it, the faster you'll reach the goal. Good luck and remember if you believe it's easy, then it will be easy
Author:  londonfire [ Mon Dec 21, 2009 2:14 pm ]
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That's quality advice Jackester, thanks a lot!

Believing first that is!
Author:  SimpleTwist [ Mon Dec 21, 2009 4:50 pm ]
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and once you have this army of super hot babes constantly surrounding you, how do we become your friend? ;)
Author:  londonfire [ Mon Dec 21, 2009 5:26 pm ]
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and once you have this army of super hot babes constantly surrounding you, how do we become your friend? ;)
Haha, good try :-) I'll let you know as soon as this happens.
Author:  Ius [ Wed Dec 23, 2009 3:47 pm ]
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Maybe I'm reading this worng but it is worth menioning that these women are never going to be your pawns. They will decide wether or not they are going to a certain party, and you will have to provide them with a good enough drive to go.

In regard to the title, I'm going to go with the generic; go to classes where chicks are generally located, yoga etc and try and attempt to be Mr Sociable/ Comfort and try and leave Mr Seduction at home.

Ps. From my experience Mr Seduction is also no much of a pawn, especially when you are getting a considerable amount of attention from a hb 8+ :lol:
Author:  abstracted [ Sun Dec 27, 2009 5:33 am ]
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I've identified this to be a weakness in my game. 3 of my best friends are girls, but I only see them alone and don't network through them. They all think I'm wonderful, so I think I am missing a good opportunity.

I am planning on making it more clear I would like to go out with them etc. and meet their friends. The complication is that I have slept with these 3, though I think the expectations are well managed and it is clear they are FWBs only. I just don't want them to feel like I'm using them for social proof to pick up other girls when that is exactly what I am doing. I think I have to offer something else to them, but haven't figured out what that is.
Author:  SimpleTwist [ Sun Dec 27, 2009 10:57 am ]
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I am planning on making it more clear I would like to go out with them etc. and meet their friends. The complication is that I have slept with these 3, though I think the expectations are well managed and it is clear they are FWBs only. I just don't want them to feel like I'm using them for social proof to pick up other girls when that is exactly what I am doing. I think I have to offer something else to them, but haven't figured out what that is.
I think this firmly belongs in the category of... problems most guys would love to have :D
Author:  fatalclaw [ Sun Dec 27, 2009 12:58 pm ]
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I've identified this to be a weakness in my game. 3 of my best friends are girls, but I only see them alone and don't network through them. They all think I'm wonderful, so I think I am missing a good opportunity.

I am planning on making it more clear I would like to go out with them etc. and meet their friends. The complication is that I have slept with these 3, though I think the expectations are well managed and it is clear they are FWBs only. I just don't want them to feel like I'm using them for social proof to pick up other girls when that is exactly what I am doing. I think I have to offer something else to them, but haven't figured out what that is.
Did u try to be real friend to them?
Author:  abstracted [ Sun Dec 27, 2009 4:15 pm ]
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Yeah, I am a good friend to all of them. The issue is that 2 are 7/12 years older than me and the other is an EX, so I could never date any of them. I wonder if they dont think to help me network since Im sleeping with them...
Author:  kasabi [ Mon Dec 28, 2009 11:57 am ]
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NOT the same as making male friends. You can't just simply chat with them as if they're one of the guys . . . they are not. You can't just chat with them as if you are not attracted to them sexually . . . because often times, you are. You can't tell yourself that you will NEVER fuck them because this is just a blatant lie to yourself and others. We're men. Every women in our lives are fuckable. We just find that some women are "more" fuckable than others.

Regardless of the type of relationship between a man and a woman, whether it be social, business, loving, etc . . . IT IS ALWAYS based on a SEXUAL ATTRACTION. Always, always, always. The only difference is that we express this sexual attraction in different ways. How often do you see terribly unattractive but highly successful people? (At least in endeavors that involve interaction with other people)

What these people do(whether they realize it or not) is create a business channel for others to express their sexual attraction for them. Guys with a ton of female friends create a social channel for girls to express their sexual energy towards them. Want to know the real reason why friendships and business doesn't work out well between sexual partners? It's because they are expressing their sexual energy towards one another through sex. The immature male "fantasy" is that those super hot high class female brokers (yachts, real estate, etc . . .) FUCK their customers for sales. The truth is EXACTLY the opposite. If they spread their legs, their customer wouldn't feel the need to buy anything.

So . . . in order to befriend women, YOU NEED TO GAME THEM to a certainly extent. You don't go up to women and make them feel like un-sexy, unattractive tom-boys. This is like telling them, "My intention is to befriend you and then leverage you for my business." You need to SPARK their sexual energy. This is what makes them smile. This is what draws them near. . . then you'll need to channel that energy towards friendship.

Lastly, toss the idea, "I'll make a few female friends to make more female friends" out the window. Although visually and to a certain extent, functionally this is what happens, you'll still need to share that "sexual energy" with each and every friend. You'll need to keep up with everybody and you'll have to also offer your energy to each and every friendship. You'd expect the same from all of them. This can be exhausting . . . unless of course this is what you truly want.
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