| PUA Forum https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/ |
|
| getting a friend to be a GF https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=135&t=53978 |
Page 1 of 1 |
| Author: | rootbit [ Sun Oct 18, 2009 3:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | getting a friend to be a GF |
Hello, I have this girl that i want to be my GF now, for now she is only my friend, and we have been friends for about 5-6 months. We have really good talk and also alot of kinno, atleast from my side. so anyway, as i said, i want her to be my GF, and i want to know whats the best way of letting her know this. I once had a talk with her telling her that if she wants to be just another friend then its OK, but that its not what i want and that i want more, but i guess she didnt get the hint. So what do you say? i need a direct method of getting her to be my girl friend. Would love to get any advice that you can give me. |
|
| Author: | mattarama [ Sun Oct 18, 2009 4:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | |
This is one-itis. Stop befriending girls THEN wanting to build attraction. Build attraction first. How old are you? If it's like highschool or something you could probably just ask her, you might get rejected, but whatever, you need to move on anyway. However, this works for both in and outside of highschool: AT LEAST k-close (f-close would be better) then continue to see her at least every week (try for more, hard to find a balance though because you may come off as needy), just you and her. If she wants to date you, she wont really say no. Then, later on in your life, just be like "We haven't really talked about this, but I want to be serious in this relationship blah blah blah, and i wasn't sure if i should be seeing other people blah blah blah' if she says no, then she's practically your girlfriend, then you can be official whatever or you can just leave it. or you could get over your one-itis and find someone you haven't been friends with for months. |
|
| Author: | Reo [ Sun Oct 18, 2009 4:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: getting a friend to be a GF |
Quote:
I once had a talk with her telling her that if she wants to be just another friend then its OK, but that its not what i want and that i want more, but i guess she didnt get the hint.
Your fear of rejection made you lie to her in the first place. Just realize this might not go how you want it go. You made the choice to pose as her friend so if you get rejected its your own fault.Read this and pay close attention to case B your situations is on that path this-is-how-to-get-out-the-friend-zone- ... highlight= You're going to have flat out tell her you like her this is no other way |
|
| Author: | rootbit [ Sun Oct 18, 2009 4:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | |
I'm not in high school and i never told her i wanted to be just friends, and didnt try to act like that i even told her i want to be more then just friends, but i dont think she got the idea. So your saying just tell her? |
|
| Author: | Reo [ Sun Oct 18, 2009 4:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | |
Quote: I'm not in high school
Well that wasn't very clear in your post sounds like you've already been rejected by this girl. move on
and i never told her i wanted to be just friends, and didnt try to act like that i even told her i want to be more then just friends, but i dont think she got the idea. So your saying just tell her? |
|
| Author: | mattarama [ Sun Oct 18, 2009 5:09 pm ] |
| Post subject: | |
Quote: I'm not in high school
Sometimes girl pretend like they didn't understand what you were saying, because they want to reap the rewards of having a nice-guy to boost their confidence, spend money for them, etc.and i never told her i wanted to be just friends, and didnt try to act like that i even told her i want to be more then just friends, but i dont think she got the idea. So your saying just tell her? i'm gonna have to agree with reo, and say you're better off moving on. next time, build more attraction from the start. |
|
| Author: | Manda Chuva [ Sun Oct 18, 2009 8:07 pm ] |
| Post subject: | |
Next time you c her giver a hug, while hugging slowly release and make out. |
|
| Author: | Qlass [ Tue Oct 20, 2009 3:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
Haha oh man reading these stories nearly break my heart. Look - the reason why most people will tell you not to bother is because 1) The more you want something the more your mind will work against you and 2) It is not impossible but it is VERY difficult. In fact, it is far more worth it to move on and find someone new since your brain has (probably) tainted your perception of this girl and made her to be more than she actually is. All this being said if you really want her, you need shock value. Consider this, if she's already put you in the friend zone, then you need to SHOCK her, and break free of it. Use the element of surprise. Once you've accomplished this you have a limited time before you can make your move. How do you gain that shock value? Like I said, it isn't easy. You need to change. Push yourself beyond your limits. Try new things. Picking her up and spinning her around is an example. You must act in ways that surprise you as much as it surprises others. OR - you could just go for broke and tell her straight up. Most people have terrible experience with this approach, but it does work once in a blue moon. Personally I don't recommend it - not because of the potentiality of a train-wreck, but more because you don't learn to improve yourself if you simply pour your heart out and get everything you want. My $0.02. Q. |
|
| Author: | Kieran Black [ Tue Oct 20, 2009 6:26 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
Hmm dude. My honest to god unscrupulous advice to you would be to get her really drunk then stick your tongue down her throat. fail that... 1. bring her around to your place when no-one else is around and start watching tv. Then after watching tv for a bit, ask her in a joke like manner if she wants to watch a porno and make fun of the people in it with her. Then when it starts getting really hot (believe it or not girls get off on it as much as guys so she'll no doubt be getting a bit horny) turn to her with your best 'James Dean' and say, 'hmm looks like fun... wanna fool around?'. or 2. Rather than suggesting she be your 'Girlfriend' ask her if she wants to be 'Friends with extras'. or 3. Just kino her to the point the ST (sexual tension) between you becomes so undefined that the line of too far becomes impossible to determine and before you know it a friendly massage becomes a sexual massage and a sexual massage becomes foreplay and I'm sure if you ever studied sex ed in highschool you know what comes next. Good luck |
|
| Author: | Dream_Lover [ Sun Oct 25, 2009 7:12 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
I don't think you should just go ahead and ask her...I've seen plenty of guys crash and burn doing that. The best thing to do in my opinion is to keep up the kino, and let her see you in a more sexual light rather than as a friend. game other girls in front of her, start using more sexual language, etc Once you've done that for a while, slowly escalate, and eventually k-close hope this helps 
|
|
| Author: | magnum45 [ Sun Oct 25, 2009 10:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
Dude you made a mistake. You shouldn't of told her how you felt about her. Now forever you are going to have to worship her. Sucks dude. Maybe you can tell her that you are getting back with your ex-girlfriend. She might go for that, and start to want you. Then pounce. Grrrr.... Tiger |
|
| Author: | cambria [ Tue Dec 08, 2009 12:11 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
Quote: Haha oh man reading these stories nearly break my heart.
I am so in this zone with a girl, and its because of number one above! I am emotionally affected by thie girl! In this situation it is incredibly hard to break out! Ultimately we should just move on but i'll be gutted if me and this girl never hook up lol! Expecially after spending this time learning how to pick up girls! I wish I hadn't got emotionally attached to her! :7Look - the reason why most people will tell you not to bother is because 1) The more you want something the more your mind will work against you and 2) It is not impossible but it is VERY difficult. In fact, it is far more worth it to move on and find someone new since your brain has (probably) tainted your perception of this girl and made her to be more than she actually is. All this being said if you really want her, you need shock value. Consider this, if she's already put you in the friend zone, then you need to SHOCK her, and break free of it. Use the element of surprise. Once you've accomplished this you have a limited time before you can make your move. How do you gain that shock value? Like I said, it isn't easy. You need to change. Push yourself beyond your limits. Try new things. Picking her up and spinning her around is an example. You must act in ways that surprise you as much as it surprises others. OR - you could just go for broke and tell her straight up. Most people have terrible experience with this approach, but it does work once in a blue moon. Personally I don't recommend it - not because of the potentiality of a train-wreck, but more because you don't learn to improve yourself if you simply pour your heart out and get everything you want. My $0.02. Q. Move on dude, seems like the only thing we can do! Unless you canreally get to the stage of 'Not giving a fuck!' I still give a fuck and its a bitch! :7 Cambria |
|
| Page 1 of 1 | All times are UTC |
| Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group http://www.phpbb.com/ |
|