great posts people. if anyone could post a real life example that I could see and reference too, that'd be super sweet. real life stories are always good
i totally get what you guys are saying, but would like to see something from real life.
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| Author: | frostedbutts [ Thu Apr 23, 2009 5:01 am ] |
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I find myself struggling to come up with topics when talking to random girls that I meet. I can come up with easy topics like school, homework, talking about other people (creating conflict), movies, concerts I am playing in, etc. But sometimes, I go blank. As I make statements and lean into asking questions, with most of the responses given, I struggle to say something else afterwards. I guess the over all question is, whats the best statements/questions you guys have used and found use full when it came to creating conversation on the spot without blanking out? |
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| Author: | Maf-PbC [ Thu Apr 23, 2009 2:37 pm ] |
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Thats when you search for other things to talk about, maybe things around you/environment wise. Or take route 2, ask her some questions and "get interested" in what she has to say. Make her do the talking until you figure out your next move....Or just chill and be quiet...You do not always have to be talking. |
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| Author: | smooth_lad [ Fri Apr 24, 2009 3:59 am ] |
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I agree, if you are dead set blank then quickly focus on something around you and get her interested in it by making a C & F remark then backing it up with a story. Dont go in with planned things to talk about (excluding routines) like hw and school anyone can talk about that stuff a pua is meant to be the one exception. Say whatever comes into your head the focus should be on you having fun. You will always be thinking something and the more interesting topic of conversation is the more likely you will create rapport. Hope this helps |
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| Author: | frostedbutts [ Fri Apr 24, 2009 6:49 am ] |
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ya i agree. i am going to try creating situation stories and back that up with real life stuff. IE: kareoke, concerts i have been playing in, vacations, etc. |
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| Author: | Whoopie [ Sat Apr 25, 2009 1:02 am ] |
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Well here is the best advice for when your brain shits the bed....What I do if I need to come up with a Topic I just pick a random letter in the Alphabet, Which ever one comes first and tell a story or ask a question about it. I-Ice Cream...I dunno why but I been craving Ice Cream lately, Do you like Ice Cream? Then you can talk about Ice cream for a little bit making fun of the ice cream she likes etc. B- Betting which is one of my favorite topic because it can break the ice and make multiple topics. "Hey I bet you a dollar that, That guy right there is 25" You can do any type of bet and wagers but usually gotta start off small and work your way big. I have place bets on winner gets a Massage but thats because we were playing Putt-Putt. So Just think of letters A-Z and come up with a topic YOU ARE interested in not her. Talk about it show her some passion with some randomness. |
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| Author: | Grape [ Sat Apr 25, 2009 1:21 am ] |
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Usually when two people are both contributing to the conversation with interest, the thread will branch off to many other threads. "So I met this girl at the mall the other day and balblablablablabla>" "Hha that's cool. Ohh and what kind of stores do you like?" "blablabalbalbabla, hbu?" "I like this, but I really love this store." "Ohh they have nice cologne." "Oh I hate cologne." "blablabla, do you wear perfume??" "Yeah, sometimes." Went from the mall to wearing perfume just like that. You really gotta give a shit about the convo instead just "i wanna fuck, let's speed this damn process up" If you really try to picture yourself in the conversation topic, you'll find there's so many other thing you can branch off of, just keep your ears open and be interested!! |
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| Author: | frostedbutts [ Sat Apr 25, 2009 5:24 am ] |
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great posts people. if anyone could post a real life example that I could see and reference too, that'd be super sweet. real life stories are always good i totally get what you guys are saying, but would like to see something from real life.
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| Author: | Grape [ Sat Apr 25, 2009 12:19 pm ] |
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..are you asking for canned material?? |
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| Author: | frostedbutts [ Sun Apr 26, 2009 2:22 am ] |
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nope |
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| Author: | V3nu [ Sun Apr 26, 2009 4:44 am ] |
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Quote: What I do if I need to come up with a Topic I just pick a random letter in the Alphabet, Which ever one comes first and tell a story or ask a question about it.
If you think about it, that's actually brilliant !!!, If you use A-Z you NEVER will run out of things to say, wow, that actually BLEW MY MIND, tnx lol V3nu 
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| Author: | Sebastian V [ Sun Apr 26, 2009 5:38 am ] |
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after branching off into other topics, maybe try branching INTO topics u have lots to talk about. eg if u play football say: omg look at ur massive bi-cepts tease her about it and then lead into i bet u play lots of sports (talk about sports for a while) if u like cars: neg her about being high maintance and then say: I bet you like guys with nice cars (then u can talk about cars for a while) |
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| Author: | Whoopie [ Mon Apr 27, 2009 6:13 am ] |
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Yeah I enjoy branching off into sub topics like Sebastian said...If you bring up something like..For me for instance...I enjoy shopping I use to go shopping with 3 girls all the time and I would watch them try on things and pick stuff out for them. So say if Shopping was my topic, I have that story to tell but I go into way more details, I can ask her if she ever goes shopping with guys, I can neg her about her taste in clothing....See what I am going with this....One topic broke into many sub topics...If you get into a sub topic your next main topic will be easy....Remember listening is just as important as talking though...Don't control the entire conversation. |
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| Author: | Kalel [ Sat May 09, 2009 6:45 am ] |
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Perhaps instead of looking for topics that she would like to talk about, maybe you should talk about things you want to talk about. When you talk to your friends, you can talk for hours because you aren't worried about impressing them. If you just relax and stop worrying about how you come across to her, you will naturally find things to talk about. I think that if you are just meeting a woman, and you have nothing to talk about, you should talk about one of two things, you or her. You're trying to get to know her and you want her to get to know you. So talk about your life or ask questions about hers. If you're not worried about what she thinks of you or what you're going to say next, you will always find something to talk about. Be curious. Don't like her just because she's hot and she's there. Find out what's she's about. Let her reveal her self to you. Sometimes you hardly have to say anything and they will talk their heads off, and they will enjoy doing it. |
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