Well duh I understand not to give them any attention - I was asking how. But these are coworkers that are used to a certain level of attention and I don't know the best way to stop the attention and what I should say in the event any of them ask. You can't go from having long chats and them touching your abs and/or arms (I work out a lot) to ignoring them. So I'm not sure of the best way to transition from allowing them the privilege of my attention as a HV male and being allowed into my personal space to "hi" and goodbye. Like what do you say to someone you used to allow to feel your arms that you no longer want that type of interaction. And before anyone writes "tell them you no longer want them to feel your arms" please don't state the unhelpful and obvious.

Well duh I understand not to give them any attention - I was asking how. But these are coworkers that are used to a certain level of attention and I don't know the best way to stop the attention and what I should say in the event any of them ask. You can't go from having long chats and them touching your abs and/or arms (I work out a lot) to ignoring them. So I'm not sure of the best way to transition from allowing them the privilege of my attention as a HV male and being allowed into my personal space to "hi" and goodbye. Like what do you say to someone you used to allow to feel your arms that you no longer want that type of interaction. And before anyone writes "tell them you no longer want them to feel your arms" please don't state the unhelpful and obvious.

Here's the thing - this probably wasn't a good question for this community. PU community is more of a "if they aren't suiting your needs then NEXT". It's very easy to completely cut off ppl you can easily never see again. But when it comes to ppl you have to see everyday then there is a certain way it has to be done. You just can't go from text convos and face to face convos with mild kino on their part to just ignoring them out of the blue. There's a calibrated way to gradually distance yourself and I thought this place would have the answer. It's possible to be HV and not know the best way to handle every situation. It's not your faults if you don't know the answer, just say "good question- wish I could help you". Stating the obvious ("just ignore them") is as useless as a cockless sailor in a whore house.

I'd hate to get on the wrong side of Jackzero lol. Even when you're right (you're not, at all - don't get me wrong) you still end up wrong

Here's the thing - this probably wasn't a good question for this community. PU community is more of a "if they aren't suiting your needs then NEXT". It's very easy to completely cut off ppl you can easily never see again. But when it comes to ppl you have to see everyday then there is a certain way it has to be done. You just can't go from text convos and face to face convos with mild kino on their part to just ignoring them out of the blue. There's a calibrated way to gradually distance yourself and I thought this place would have the answer. It's possible to be HV and not know the best way to handle every situation. It's not your faults if you don't know the answer, just say "good question- wish I could help you". Stating the obvious ("just ignore them") is as useless as a cockless sailor in a whore house.