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| Author: | Chris Bale [ Wed Jun 10, 2015 3:30 pm ] |
| Post subject: | All You Need For Seduction & Success – Part 2 |
If you have not done so yet…I urge you to read PART 1 in this forum before continuing... Your walking down the street and see a guy walking towards you. His shoulders are dropped forward with his chest concaved. He is leaning slightly forward as he shuffles along quickly with his hands in his pockets. His eyes are positioned down to the floor, and he is a little sweaty. There’s a certain vibe to him. Immediately you label him in your head as being a very nervous person. This is nothing you had to really think about. It was an instant realization in your mind. Did this guy have to approach you and open you to state the fact he is nervous? No of course not. The same applies to anytime you have been out, and you crossed the street upon seeing a questionable looking character walking towards you. His chest cocked, arms out to the side, with the vibe and presence of a guy who wants to fight someone. Does this person have to approach you and open you with a direct verbal comment on how he wants to fight? NO, because his overall feeling is being picked up very clearly by everyone around him, and sends the warning. Now…what about someone who is the sex guy? The guy who is sexually comfortable and probably has or still does sleep with many women naturally. The guy who walks down the street or into a room, and everyone notices him as the sexy guy, regardless of physical beauty. This is the secret that separates the effortlessly seductive and successful men, from those who run pick-up lines, routines and structures. The secret: Seduction…IS A FEELING! When men come to me and tell me they have approach anxiety…I ask them what they are thinking about? Any response other than how it might feel to have sex with her, or his desire and appreciation for her…is the reason he feels fear. Men with approach anxiety, focus on what? The fact they have anxiety! This increases the feelings, and your mind goes into over-drive, now depicting the guy with the nervous vibe. You MUST understand how important your vibe is. Whether you realize it or not, you pick up how people are feeling every second you are seeing people. It’s a constant feedback loop. As human beings we are innately sensitive to the feelings other people give off, and we respond to accordingly, whether it is consciously or unconsciously. If you are thinking about how to pick her up, or the correct things to say, or asking yourself if she likes you, then you have already lost. You are not in your most powerfully charismatic, and sexually present state. This is why copying lines other men use (because they succeeded) is utterly useless. It is not the words, ever, but where they are coming from. I could walk up to a girl and say ham sandwich as my “opener”, but still be in the toilet with her 10 minutes later. The popularity placed in structure based game, is why the majority of guys suck. I was there also. It is hell, and as I outlined in part 1, it is constant work. Seduction is a FEELING. If right now you feel swamped by all the material you must use, please, give up, and be happy about this. Once I started to focus on generating my seductive vibe, it did not matter what type of game I ran. I could have ran Mystery Method successfully, or Daygame structures, beside a bus stop game successfully, or what I now do most of the time…which is opening without words, just eye contact. All that really matters is what I am feeling. You see, the biggest joke in the pick-up industry is that the only real part that matters…is avoided completely by most systems. The reason for this, is because it is much more abstract and complicated to explain. Coaches find it difficult to sell a bootcamp with the concept of “just feel sexy”. While simultaneously, the majority of coaches are a direct manifestation of the older guys who they trained under, all teaching the same surface level bullshit. Designed for mass content, to generate mass income. This is why it will work for guy A(who has his sexuality somewhat handled), but falls completely flat for guy B. When you begin to explore, generate, and build your sexual presence, you can do or say anything you want, it won’t matter. Direct is how you are feeling. NOT what you are saying. Now, lets look at how you can begin to tap into this natural and powerful element of your masculinity. Focus and Trust: This is the first thing to understand. You are the thoughts you focus on. Most people are on autopilot throughout their day, at the whim of the random chatter that comes into their mind. The fighter guy we spoke of…he has chosen a very specific set of thoughts. These thoughts filter through him and are then projected to the outside world. He is most likely singularly focused, keeping his intention strong and clear. He is not ashamed of the fact he wants to knock motherfuckers out. He is passionate about this archetype and it shows. The nervous guy on the other hand, has no control over his thought process, usually stemming from a lack of understanding about how we work. I remember when I was a nervous wreck all the time. My thoughts were unfocused and would bounce all over my head to different negative patterns. The day I grasped this concept and focused on single intentions consciously in each moment…my life changed! Think of the power of your vibe this way: Imagine you have a garden hose with 2 connections. The first has 500 little holes, and sprays the water out in multiple directions, dribbling, weak, and messy. The second connection is ONE small pinhole. The water SHOOTS out of this with great power and accuracy in a singularly focused way. This is the difference between having a clouded un-chosen vibe that is half assed and confused (resulting in you feeling nervous), and one singular intention…which when focused on consciously, blazes out of you in a supremely powerful way. In seduction terms, your eyes are the hole, and the level of focus and feeling is the pressure in the hose. Now, I can understand if all this seems like it would be complicated to achieve, but it really is not. All it takes is some re-aligning of focus (which is super fun), in the moments you would otherwise be anxious. Anxiety and fear only exist if you allow space for them. Putting all your focus into one intention, results in fear ceasing to exist. It stops even being a thing. Be happy in the knowing that if you have EVER had an erection, or felt attraction towards a female, then you have the exact same ability as every other man in accessing this level of sexual magnetism. As an example, right now I am typing this in a beautiful library courtyard in Barcelona city, surrounded by sun and green trees. There is a woman sitting to the left of me, wearing a white blouse, denim skirt and flip-flops. She looks eastern European. It’s all irrelevant. When I saw her first, I got lost in my own sexual magnetism that SHE inspired in me. I allowed myself to enjoy her. The curves of her body, her energy, how soft her skin looks, and I started to quickly feel how it might feel to have sex with her. She looked up, we locked eyes, and BOOM! That thing happened. She giggled and said hi, I smirked, and went back to writing this. I got work to do, but I will say hi when I am finished, or if she leaves before me. I am very aware while I am typing, in my peripheral vision, she keeps checking me out. That is it! I completely own my sexuality through consistent practical application, which at this point is pretty automatic. I adore how beautiful and intoxicating women make me feel. I allow myself sit in it, and they feel that back. To the point of feeling myself getting aroused, feeling what it might feel like to be inside her physically and emotionally. I realized that this is not and should never be forced. It comes in different strengths, depending on the effect and presence of the woman. So leave that responsibility up to her. Where pick-up material and thinking in general fucks this power up, is it immediately cuts it off, and puts you up in your head with tasks to do. You approach her in an analytical and tense way. When I approach like hot butter…she feels it. When I feel sexy, she feels sexy. If you try to pick her up…she feels like she is trying to be picked up. Like something is being DONE to her. Coming from your sexual connectedness, your presence is inspiring her to want more. Which is when they chase you, because you never go in looking for anything. You don’t have the time to think about anything, you are too busy focusing on the feeling and looking her in the eye. In a room fully of guys trying to DO…you are the exception, as you just BE. There is an awesome scene in the 40-year Old Virgin movie, where we speaks with a girl in the bookshop. Yes, this is fictional, and a comedy…but he fucking NAILS what I’m talking about. [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fa1IN1GN4Q4[/youtube] He says literally nothing, but everything is established. An exercise I get students to do, is to go somewhere with high volumes of women, and start to practice tapping into their sexual core, by looking at women they find attractive, and not imagining, but FEELING what it might feel like to be deep inside her. Really allow yourself to get into it. The level of deepness you go will be a direct reflection of your sexual comfort levels in yourself. Many guys suddenly realize that they were never really being direct, and are in fact ashamed and embarrassed about their sexual energy. Telling a girl you want to fuck her, is not direct, if inside you are not fully feeling that. If this happens, keep connecting to this throughout your entire day, without any pressure to “approach” ever. Just stop doing it, and focus on this instead. I can promise you, you will suddenly find yourself smack bang in the middle of super charged sexual interactions that effortlessly unfold, as long as you stay focused on this feeling, which is natural to you. You will also notice being checked out a hell of a lot more, as you will be emitting “that thing”. I see this feeling as a gift. When a woman makes me feel SO incredibly overwhelmed with vitality, I like to thank her for this. It is nourishing and beautiful. Combining this sexual connectedness with solid eye contact, and it becomes intoxicating to women. The FIRST assumptions guys jump to is usually…”eh…I don’t want to come across as creepy”.(you cannot be creepy once you continue to respect women’s boundaries in a respectful way) If you feel this way…you are not yet at ease with your sexuality and you see it as a potentially negative thing. As long as this block is in place, you will never reach your full potential. Keep practicing the process of accessing these feelings and internal trust will soon be built. But, like everything in life, you will have good days and bad days. It all depends on how you relate to them. This way of focusing is choosing a way of life. It’s not a pick-up technique. There is so much more I could say on this subject, but I do not want to saturate you with too much. It is not needed, as you have the most important step. All I advise, is you trust yourself. You are not as broken as you are being told you are by pick-up gurus or big money hungry companies. Your only issue…is a lack of focus. Stop listening to coaches where the doctor is sicker than the patient. Build this simple foundation, and your world will change. Or don’t. I’m not fussed. Chris Bale |
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| Author: | Noone [ Wed Jun 10, 2015 3:45 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: All You Need For Seduction & Success – Part 2 |
Where's the like button? |
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| Author: | Crystalyst [ Wed Jun 10, 2015 5:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: All You Need For Seduction & Success – Part 2 |
I had this revelation a few months back and even wrote a bit about it here on the forums. I was always so worried about looking like the "try-hard overly smooth guy", but with that whole mindset you wrote about, it kept me from being cheesy with it and had me hit it right on the head. Love it brotha. I LOVE NATURAL GAME  Thanks again for posting! Really enjoying your stuff. |
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| Author: | Chris Bale [ Wed Jun 10, 2015 5:47 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: All You Need For Seduction & Success – Part 2 |
Thanks man, glad you can relate and resonate with it. |
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| Author: | darkie_jackal [ Fri Oct 23, 2015 6:30 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: All You Need For Seduction & Success – Part 2 |
Quote: Thanks man, glad you can relate and resonate with it.
I reviewed your videos on youtube, I see they are all of you talking to the camera......would you be able to actually have a video demonstrating you talking to a girl in a public place |
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