How can I be more aggressive without making myself seem socially weird?

I have been having this problem, it's probably my biggest problem: I'm not aggressive enough. Most girls think I am attractive but I never know how to truly be aggressive unless they are taking all the steps for me, basically flinging themselves at me.

i think my fear is being socially awkward because a lot of times, my options are girls from my own social group. With that being said, i take more fear into being denied.

Has anyone every broken through anything like this? I know i need to be more aggressive, i just don't know how

I had a similar sticking point as you. The good news is that you know that your not aggressive enough. I suspect that you also know how to fix your problems, but want confirmation. In my humble opinion, you need to force yourself to escalate kino and to implement PUA tactics throughout your interaction( Ex: disqualifications, DHV stories, push and pull, disqualifications, you get the picture). The most important advice I have for you is to always assume she wants you and that everything is an IOI. This will help you maintain a frame cohesive to being more aggressive. Im pretty new at this, and I hope this helped. Good luck


Also stop worrying that you have gone to far. In fact, only in going to far, will you realize the perfect medium. You need to fail before you succeed.

How can I be more aggressive without making myself seem socially weird?

I have been having this problem, it's probably my biggest problem: I'm not aggressive enough. Most girls think I am attractive but I never know how to truly be aggressive unless they are taking all the steps for me, basically flinging themselves at me.

i think my fear is being socially awkward because a lot of times, my options are girls from my own social group. With that being said, i take more fear into being denied.

Has anyone every broken through anything like this? I know i need to be more aggressive, i just don't know how

Change your language!

Can't you see that the way you speak to yourself determines the quality of the life you live?
I hate this word; 'seem'. How can you not seem socially weird? To whom? Can you control the way other people think about you? No. So why bother yourself worrying about it?

Next; aggressive?
What does that mean? Are you preparing for battle or something? Seduction is a dance - it's light, and fun! If you aren't having fun, you arent doing this right.

Now, that being said, do you have trouble going for what you want? That's a better question to ask. I mean, if you find that girl attractive, why are you asking where the nearest starbucks is? If you feel an overwhelming urge to kiss her, why are your eyes darting around nervously? If you want her in your bed, right now, why are you walking home alone while she is laughing on the arm of another man?

The first and foremost question to ask is: What do I want?
Vague goals breed vague results. Clarity always precedes mastery. Find out exactly what it is you want - for yourself, for women, for your life! This is fun! This is exciting! Life becomes like your magazine. The next thing is to go for it, fearlessly and relentlessly. And you can never live that way without relinquishing control.

You need to let go of trying to control other people's perceptions of you. Let go of controlling how she will react to you. Better still; let go of controlling yourself. Let your desire burn through you and consume you until you have no idea how you got there but you are already in front of her, making her laugh nervously while looking deep into her eyes.

Gentlemen: Women wish to be desired. Not conquered, desired.

With love and respect
Mack

“I will act now. I will act now. I will act now. Henceforth, I will repeat these words each hour, each day, everyday, until the words become as much a habit as my breathing, and the action which follows becomes as instinctive as the blinking of my eyelids. With these words I can condition my mind to perform every action necessary for my success. I will act now. I will repeat these words again and again and again. I will walk where failures fear to walk. I will work when failures seek rest. I will act now for now is all I have. Tomorrow is the day reserved for the labor of the lazy. I am not lazy. Tomorrow is the day when the failure will succeed. I am not a failure. I will act now. Success will not wait. If I delay, success will become wed to another and lost to me forever. This is the time. This is the place. I am the person.”


― Og Mandino