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Author:  aidihpa [ Tue Jun 10, 2014 1:31 pm ]
Post subject:  Girl visits me, we are close but she don't want relationship
I met this girl in Canada. She is smart, super cool, good spirit, everything I like in a girl. I want her as my girlfriend.

When I was in Canada, we travelled together to another city staying with friends.

Now she's come to Europe and spent a week with me. We had lots of fun together, did drugs, travel around, party.
We sleep in the same bed multiple times but nothing happens. She's always very closed off sexually.

The closest I got was when massaging her, had her down to panties + bra, making her moan, slipped a finger down the front (but only a little).

I know she's been in LTRs most of her life, and she says she wants time to herself now. So she's closing off her heart and she's been hurt a few times before. I'm trying to do the ethical thing and treat her as an individual (she's a good person) but I'm really attracted to her loads. We could be great together.

I grope her ass / slap it many times, and kino her often. It's mostly not returned though. She become more warmer when she was sad/crying (wanting to be held) but I'm not a bitch's wet-blanket (although with balance, I'm ok doing this for girls).

She's going to visit me again in a week (a different city), and we'll have fun for sure. Anyway I want to have sex with this girl without it bordering on rape or making things awkward between us (she is a great friend to me). I hope to get something longer out of this without being strung along before she gets bored.

Any tips for seduction? I try to live life and dive into feelings. I'm passionate and with energy, but other times just completely quiet and self absorbed.
Around her, I try to be genuine and dive into her mind / personality. I could be more light-hearted though (sometimes I'm intense).
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Jun 10, 2014 1:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl visits me, we are close but she don't want relation
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The closest I got was when massaging her, had her down to panties + bra, making her moan, slipped a finger down the front (but only a little).
Why did you stop?
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She's always very closed off sexually.
No. Your not escalating! It's your job to make her horny.

Go for the pussy, not the heart.

Let on that your drawn to her sexually, not emotionally.
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I'm trying to do the ethical thing and treat her as an individual
Treat her like a girl you are going to bang.
Author:  aidihpa [ Tue Jun 10, 2014 4:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl visits me, we are close but she don't want relation
thx, i didn't stop was working to it but she broke it off, got up, put her clothes back on.

each time is the same, I'm escalating kino and she backs off.

she slept next to me a few times, but always back turned. I'd massage her hair, kiss/nibble neck, rub body.
are you saying i should more aggressively and directly aim for her pussy?
we never kissed btw

she also said she cares for me, and has always been attentive.
but i want to break through this barrier, the rest will work. we have a lot going.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Jun 10, 2014 5:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl visits me, we are close but she don't want relation
I get the feeling your chickening out soon as your faced with LMR.
Author:  Dymond [ Tue Jun 17, 2014 2:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl visits me, we are close but she don't want relation
I was in the same situation! If you love this girl, DO NOT GO NO CONTACT OR TRY TO FREEZE HER OUT. It gives her the easy option of "not making it hard on you" and you'll never here from her again. I promise . Find a new girl. There's plenty of fish in the sea, just get out there. She's not into you. You already fucked up
Author:  In$tinct [ Tue Jun 17, 2014 8:31 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl visits me, we are close but she don't want relation
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I get the feeling your chickening out soon as your faced with LMR.
My sentiments too. Also, I think you are failing to create the appropriate circumstances(aka arouse her enough, and shut her stupid logic down). If a girl starts dressing up when your hand is in her panties then you're definitely doing something wrong and it has absolutely nothing to do with her not wanting a relationship, her wanting some time, her wanting to wait where this is going, (insert other golden plate bullshit women say instead of "I don't want to fuck you").
Author:  Mr K [ Sat Jul 05, 2014 11:13 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl visits me, we are close but she don't want relation
Tell her you don't want a relationship either, sounds like she doesn't want to miss-lead you.
Hopefully escalate to a bang, stay as casual and chilled as possible afterwards, try and initiate it as much as you can, make it a frequent thing. Then see if girl can picture herself with someone else after you've earned so much man rep.

But I know those feels though brah...

I've brought a hot girl back to a hotel with me and after a bit of toying around I went down on her for probably a good 20 minutes, then as I came up and went to stick it in she was like "No no" and got up and put her jeans back on and fell asleep next to me. Next morning drove her home and gave her a good bye hug lol still got her on FB although she's been in a long term relationship way before me meeting her lol

I felt used! Haha

I gave her one of my 3 for £5 alcopops to win her heart. :lol:
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