Quick Test - What is the most common advice women always give to men who are not successful sexually?
"Just be yourself"
Just be your fucking self....
There are no more men on this planet anymore, 99% percent of this planet's men boys are extinct and have been replaced by something I call 'worm FUCKING faggots'.
The reason I call most guys worm faggots is because these guys only come to take fucking value, they want to take it and leech it from women instead of focusing on offering more by actually being a valuable person who is legitimately higher statues than her.
Guys on the one hand expect not to do anything towards actually getting the girl (ie - taking fucking responsibility). On the other hand these guys are over-entitled fucking pricks who can't understand why girls are not attracted to them nor seek their approval, then they complain and blame society, fucking pathetic.
The most common denominator at the cause of this is that most guys are not doing what they want to do, not being themselves, and not being clear in what they want, that's the same reason most guys are depressed and lonely and can't get laid for their fucking life.
Guys (worm faggot) can only focus on their external environment and stuff that holds them back, they change their personality CONSTANTLY in order for other people to like them, on one instance they will be assholes because their friends think it's cool and five minutes later they will be the nicest guys because a girl told them she likes gentlemen.
There are only 4 major thoughts going through the heads of guys who are little bitches, with the 4th one being the most important:
- How do I look to the people around me?
- What would other people think?
- Might someone disapprove if I do this?
- How can I act/manipulate in order to get what I want?
When you come from a frame of trying to please people, the reactions you're going to get are going to be quite similar to what you originally intended to do - people generally think you're nice/OK. This may sound nice on paper but in reality - nobody really remembers you.
You see, the problem is that people only remember other people who have impacted them in a strong positive or negative emotional way, that means that for anyone to remember you, you have to embody certain characteristics or own certain qualities that other people desire, these can be in the form of money, they can be in the form of girls, or they can (most likely) simply be in the form of "being yourself", because people simply can not express themselves.
OK so first of all let's start with a little diagram, this is a communication diagram for the ping-pong style communication that goes between a girl and a guy who are friends:
Friend to Friend Communication, BORING
As you can see this is quite boring, you both share mutual topics and react to each other. This is as exciting for girls as sewing is for guys.
What I have devised is an amazing technique that forces you to zone-in on what YOU want to do and literally have NO CHOICE but to do it.
It's quite simple actually, and it's deadly effective! It's the single, most powerful tool of self-development and growth I have ever found.
1 last thing before I reveal it, basically the reason I've had to come-up with a method for interacting with girls effectively is because when guys (myself included) were approaching girls our communication style was something more in this sense:
Little Bitch to Woman Communication, Even Worse
The girl says or does something, the guy recycles it and throws it back at her, this is because the guy is afraid to take initiative so that there will be no chance of her not liking what he said or did, so what he chooses to do instead is constantly react to her instead of being at the cause end of things. This is a defense mechanism meant to avoid rejection and avoid taking responsibility as a MAN (so that your little whiny ego won't be hurt).
Nowadays when I'm with a girl or out to meet women I tend to use a very strict method of communicating, I use this technique (more precisely strategy) to attract girls EXTREMELY fast and start having much more fun (and obviously GROWTH as a person, which is your ultimate goal in pickup and in life).
The technique I've developed quite simple, on the other hand it is one of the harder things to do when you are out or with a girl.
Why?
Because in order to develop reflexes and fortitude to always be at the cause-end of things and to take full responsibility you will have to handle much harsher rejections and 100 FUCKING PERCENT responsibility so that if you failed, you are the only person to fucking blame, so no whining please, OK?
Are you ready?
Alright, so whenever I notice I'm not doing 100% what I want to do, I immediately stop whatever I'm doing and ask myself the following question:
"What do I want to do at this exact moment?"
The answer will always be clear, maybe I want to interrupt the girl to say something, maybe I want to physically grab the girl and hug/kiss her, maybe I want to slam my fist onto the table - WHATEVER!
Once I ask myself what I want to do I immediately put ALL of my focus on the thing that grabs my attention, and I don't let go of the attention until I actually make myself do it.
Basically once I've put my attention on something I want to do I've started a process of shifting the dynamic of the interaction from 1-sided communication (only reacting, not taking initiative, not being attractive), to effective 2 sided communication with me at the cause (leading, taking initiative, taking responsibility, being extremely attractive), the moment my mind finds something which I desire to do I immediately imagine a gun being pulled to the back of my head, with a deep-internal voice telling me:
"I will shoot you dead if you fail to do what you want to do"
This might sound a bit weird but I actually think this is the key to life.
What I'm basically doing is forcing myself to be myself, that means that if no thought actually comes up to my head I will literally be stationary and focus on the floor or the girl's eyes or something, not taking any initiative yet not giving a single fuck, completely still yet the opposite of passive (similar to a rock).
This method basically makes me more than just a man, it makes me a litteral constant manifestation of desire:
I WILL NOT LET MY ATTENTION FOCUS ON ANYTHING OTHER THAN MY WANT AND DESIRES.
I WILL BE ATTENTIVE AND CALIBRATE BASED ON HOW SHE REACTS BUT I WILL NOT CHANGE MY COURSE OF ACTION NO MATTER WHAT.
A very big part of this exercise is being a bit rude and allowing yourself to completely interrupt the flow of the conversation and emotions for the favor of doing what YOU want, this will very quickly base the fact that you are the high-value person in this interaction and that you are the leader AND CREATOR OF THE MOMENT, and of course, that your desires matter most.
Once you start using this method you will actually see girls react to you extremely differently than ever before, something in their eyes will change (you will see a glow in their eyes, as if they're looking at the biggest dick (literally, as in, penis) they've ever seen), and suddenly the girl will become much more quiet and attentive and look completely absorbed in you and your actions.
(read the previous sentence twice)
Doing only what YOU want to do, while not caring how the girl will react; And simultaneously NOT trying to prove anything nor entertain her when you DON'T have anything to do or say - is pretty much the holy grail of game and self-development in general.
What this exercise forces you to do is truly zone-in on your desires and interests as a man, it forces you to let the women experience you (and a lot of you) in a VERY short period of time.
This is the most important change you can make when communicating with a girl, remember the ping-pong communication module I showed you earlier? when you act as a MAN and take full responsibility (100%, remember?) it looks a lot more like this:
How an alpha male communicates with a girl
This way the women is constantly experiencing you, now of course, this doesn't mean that you need to become a blabbering idiot who won't shut up, what this does in practice is condensing what YOU TRULY WANT TO DO and WHO YOU ARE into a VERY short period of time, thus allowing her to extremely-quickly establish what type of man you are and whether or not she want to sleep with you.
This is the reason I've said earlier that to be a fucking man and get laid you have to take 100% responsibility and get ready for much harsher rejections, this is completely fine though because as long as you come from a place of positive intentions you can be sure that the girl will not be hurt by your actions and would literally forget you 5 minutes from now no matter how harsh the rejection was (I've found that women remember creeps who they rejected 1000 times better than alpha males who acted like dicks, yelled at the girls, cursed them and got rejected. Think about that for a moment).
Another very big benefit of this is that by taking so much initiative in such a short period of time the women will also get a sense that you are a man of action and initiative, this is the opposite of 99% of guys that are waiting to be "put on" instead of taking responsibility, in my mind this is one of the single most important traits a man can have because when you are a man of initiative you are not waiting for the environment to tell you when you can do what you want and how long you have to wait in order to shape your reality, this means that you are potentially infinitely exciting because you are spontaneous and follow no obvious pattern!
By placing your focus on nothing but what you want to do, you are grounding yourself to the moment and helping yourself become present to the moment and "in the interaction" rather than in your head, even more bonus points for yourself.
This taking of initiative shows the girl 2 very important things:
- Who you are as a person
- That you are not afraid of being yourself
This combination is literally THE single, most important aspect of being attractive.
Whenever I force myself to do this exercise with a girl my comfort zone is immediately pushed and I'm immediately having more and more fun, the interesting thing about this is that the more I break out of my comfort zone and risk the girl not liking me, the more fun I'm having and the less I actually care about her liking me (extremely attractive to women), this means that I start drawing my good emotions from inside and not letting the environment dictate how I should feel, this in-turn makes me INSTANTLY attractive, because I am no longer affected by other people's opinions.
As a guy, your role in the interaction is to quickly and decisively take fucking action and be very fucking clear about it. The woman's role is to let you absorb her in YOUR reality and inspire you to keep taking initiative and challenge yourself as a man, this is why women flirt and dress all nice before EVER going out if there's potential to meet a cool guy.
By using this exercise and taking full commitment to be yourself on steroids you are basically developing the deepest and most rewarding side of your personality as a man which is the side of you that loves to lead and create, this is your nature's true calling and you can always see this manifest all-throughout any life form's lifespan.
To sum this up, I want you to start truly taking responsibility for yourself, your happiness and your desires as a man, there is literally nothing more fulfilling than being with a beaut full girl and truly feeling like the man, like the leader, seducer and lover.
Realize too that, when you're with a girl and you have sex, you are the one fucking her, this is the way nature has built men - you were designed as a proactive creatures of initiative, this is why you approach women and draw women-in instead of being drawn by them.
This is why attraction towards a women INSPIRES YOU to take action and be the best man you can be.
Thank GOD for women!
Once you start getting a hang of the exercise and you start really doing what you want to do your life will change dramatically, every time you experience not dying (surviving) a slightly (or very) stressful experience that forced you to break outside your comfort zone you have just expanded as a person and gained more value and more charisma.
There is nothing more satisfying than being with a girl and truly doing what you want and not giving a fuck about it. There is literally nothing more important in your journey of personal development, this is exactly the reason why I'm addicted to pickup and how I've stopped looking to woman and other people to make me happy, instead I've started drawing my state from within and started getting what I want MYSELF (not waiting for other people or the environment to do it for me).
What you truly need to realize is that as a MAN, it is your responsibility to take care of yourself in every aspect of your life:
- You're responsible for getting the women you've always wanted instead of waiting for this to happen to yourself on a passive basis "luck" or "true love" paradigm, will you approach her?
- You're responsible for being happy when you're with girls.
- You are responsible to actually manage to handle the logistics despite hardships and challenges and actually fucking the girl
So go out, take fucking responsibility, use the method I've described here to continually break out of your comfort zone and be your best-self, and start getting laid like an alpha male!
Hope you liked the article, Robby.