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Sometimes I'll do what's called planting the seed. Walk by her and be like "Oooh, I like that scarf!" then just keep walking as though the scarf itself was your only interest. She'll say thanks and probably not put much thought into it aside from remembering that you are the guy who commented on her scarf.

You have now planted the seed. She knows your voice and face. Now, at some later time, you can then make a follow up comment to her and officially open her. The next time you see her be like "You must have a huge collection of scarves or something. I always notice you wearing a new one every day." It doesn't really matter if she has more than one or two scarves, you just want to get her to respond to your comment. She'll be smile and be like "Not really, I only have this and one other one." Then you start transitioning away from scarf talk and tell her your name and ask hers.

Author:	sc00p [ Wed Jan 23, 2013 7:59 pm ]
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I wouldn't say that I have AA necessarily but I am currently studying abroad in Oslo and people are a little bit more introverted and I have to start the conversation(unless they are drinking). So I guess what I need some advice on is the direct approach, I know I should compliment them in some sort of way because there really aren't ugly chicks here (It's fucking awesome), but I am unsure of what I should be complementing them on. Like for example, almost every girl here wears a scarf in the winter because it is so fucking cold and windy, and most of them wear them during classes. They are extremely into fashion here compared to back home in the states, so I figured they put a lot of time into what they are gonna wear. So I was wondering how I could incorporate something about what they are wearing into the direct approach of something like "Hey you're really cute, I just wanted to come over and meet you" without coming off as a creep. I know rejection happens and I laugh at it so I am not to worried about getting shot down. Any suggestions are more than welcome, I am open to suggestions for club scenarios and just out in public(like at college). Both would be really helpful!

Author:	puaninja [ Wed Jan 23, 2013 8:29 pm ]
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Tell them you think they have a really unique style, and ask them about their clothes. But don't keep going on and on about the clothes. Transition quickly to biographical information. "Oh, you got that scarf at the mall....cool. So, do you live around here? Where are you from orginally? yadda yadda yadda...."

Author:	sc00p [ Wed Jan 23, 2013 9:26 pm ]
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Ya I would only use the clothing as an opening, and I know she is an exchange because all of the classes that were offered are only taught in English and usually only exchange students take them. But obviously I would still do those simple follow up questions. I am reading poeticlyskuac post about body language, and I was wondering how big of a deal it would be if I didn't approach her from the front if I wasn't given the opportunity to. I don't wanna make it look like I am stalking her hahaha, so would it be bad to say like excuse me(or pardon) if I make sure she is aware of me first. Example, like be walking in front of her after classes ended and do like a double take then turn around and say something.

Author:	puaninja [ Thu Jan 24, 2013 1:23 pm ]
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Sometimes I'll do what's called planting the seed. Walk by her and be like "Oooh, I like that scarf!" then just keep walking as though the scarf itself was your only interest. She'll say thanks and probably not put much thought into it aside from remembering that you are the guy who commented on her scarf. You have now planted the seed. She knows your voice and face. Now, at some later time, you can then make a follow up comment to her and officially open her. The next time you see her be like "You must have a huge collection of scarves or something. I always notice you wearing a new one every day." It doesn't really matter if she has more than one or two scarves, you just want to get her to respond to your comment. She'll be smile and be like "Not really, I only have this and one other one." Then you start transitioning away from scarf talk and tell her your name and ask hers.

Author:	7000 [ Thu Jan 24, 2013 11:21 pm ]
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Quote: Sometimes I'll do what's called planting the seed. Walk by her and be like "Oooh, I like that scarf!" then just keep walking as though the scarf itself was your only interest. She'll say thanks and probably not put much thought into it aside from remembering that you are the guy who commented on her scarf. You have now planted the seed. She knows your voice and face. Now, at some later time, you can then make a follow up comment to her and officially open her. The next time you see her be like "You must have a huge collection of scarves or something. I always notice you wearing a new one every day." It doesn't really matter if she has more than one or two scarves, you just want to get her to respond to your comment. She'll be smile and be like "Not really, I only have this and one other one." Then you start transitioning away from scarf talk and tell her your name and ask hers. I like this ninj! Decent little idea for a college/uni type situation.

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Author:	sc00p [ Sat Jan 26, 2013 12:38 pm ]
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That is pretty fucking good, and when I was in the club I was just walking around try shit out. And I thought of this when I saw a girl not smiling and looking bored. I would just kinda walk up to her and be like oh you're to pretty to not be smiling, (I had a 100% success rate on it, they all smiled and started talking right away) talk for a minute then leave. And then would remember me for the rest of the night.

Author:	MoBWifeFreaK [ Thu Jan 31, 2013 1:15 pm ]
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I suggest saying with a smile " Do you always wear that thing around your neck?"

Author:	MavenPhaseshift [ Fri Feb 01, 2013 8:55 pm ]
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A compliment is not going direct. Going direct is showing interest in the girl as a women that you want to sleep with. "you are to cut to just walk by, whats your name?" thats direct. interest interest, is she going to show interest back? The only real time you should go direct is when she is showing interest in you already. good strong eye contact touching you ect. if you just go up direct it is a coin tos if not sure if she is interested. Other wise do what you are doing. Go indirect with the scarf. "thats an amazing scarf, did you get it at macy's?" i don't know oslo stores sorry. If you think that is direct you are lying to yourself. Any questions PM me. (\/)aven

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