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| Author: | Own [ Sat Jan 12, 2013 5:45 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Girls are afraid of me, how to change that? |
Hi I have a problem with my hmm aura, i am myself and every girl say to me that they are afraid of me, how to change that? the problem is bigger when we connect with eyes and i dominating, after that i feel most of them want just to fu ck with me, but from time to time i want to have normal conversation... |
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| Author: | themaincola [ Sat Jan 12, 2013 8:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girls are afraid of me, how to change that? |
smile more, don't lean in, lean back. break eye contact when she says something you don't like. i sometimes scare girls too, im 6'5" so i can understand. |
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| Author: | Own [ Sat Jan 12, 2013 8:28 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girls are afraid of me, how to change that? |
u are right it happen many times when i lean in. I am smiling, so this is not a problem but it can be connected in some way that i feel like i am monster inside or that have no influence? And many times i have different problem, i don't wont do talk with girl so i am creating in man, logic way negative energy that i don't want so speak with her but it make opposite result, she always want to speak with me, when i am positive she still want to speak with me so how i to break that ;D i am 190 cm and muscle too, but i think this is not so important. |
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| Author: | Sh4rp [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 5:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girls are afraid of me, how to change that? |
Quote: some way that i feel like i am monster inside or that have no influence?
This is an inner-game issue, and should be addressed as such. Try to keep your mind blank or positive, otherwise your choice of wording and body language may hamper the interaction.Additionally, bring up positive topics. Talk about things that make you happy and chances are she won't be afraid. |
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| Author: | andyredsox [ Wed Jan 23, 2013 3:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girls are afraid of me, how to change that? |
It helps if you think differently about yourself. By that, I mean projecting the kind of personality you want to be. You'll become it as the time pass. Practice and you will be good to go. |
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| Author: | Matthew_Shaw [ Sun Feb 24, 2013 4:18 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girls are afraid of me, how to change that? |
be normal and talk with a little smile in your face |
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| Author: | budfox15 [ Sun Feb 24, 2013 2:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girls are afraid of me, how to change that? |
Simple solution: as this seems to be a comfort issue more than anything just tell the girl a minor flaw about yourself like: My thumbs are so long, I am really insecure about them! This will show her you softer than you look and you're opening up. Simple as pie  (TESTED+WORKS)
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| Author: | scottbeckstead [ Mon Feb 25, 2013 7:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girls are afraid of me, how to change that? |
Just be confident, smile and let you natural personality shine through. Sounds simplistic, but it works! -Scott |
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| Author: | treu [ Tue Feb 26, 2013 9:13 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girls are afraid of me, how to change that? |
Your situation sounds a lot like mine, plus not only being afraid but misunderstood. Women are delicate creatures I guess but once they know me they know they can control me, with their (functional) expectations. I don't know, maybe just try get attuned to them, on their wavelength, maybe take a softer approach, with soft voice, like whispering, etc. Hope you find solutions |
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| Author: | changetzu [ Fri Mar 01, 2013 3:23 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girls are afraid of me, how to change that? |
same problem here. they have not told me but i have seen it in their eyes , a couple of girls recently told me that i have the face of a crazy person. my body is kind of big and stand tall compared to them. |
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| Author: | Jay (Majik) [ Tue Mar 05, 2013 7:47 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girls are afraid of me, how to change that? |
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i am 190 cm and muscle too, but i think this is not so important.
This was something that impacted me pretty hard. I'll elaborate. I used to hit the gym HARD so I was all "muscle" and it does a few different things cause I think I can relate pretty well to how you are feeling1. You develop fat girl syndrome. You become very self conscious of your own appearance and seeking approval through compliments from others. Learn not to do that and learn to be happy in your own skin whether you weigh 150 pounds or 250 pounds. When guys start working out, we set goals for ourselves to give ourselves a sense of accomplishment. Be it how much we lift, our weight, whatever. What you have to realize... are you working out to stay healthy or are you working out so you can do lat raises like Ronnie Coleman? Girls can see right through someone who is not happy with themselves and feels no self worth. There is only so much muscle you can physically pack under your skin. Be happy with yourself. I'm not saying stop working out or lifting... But don't take it so seriously. No reason to impress anyone at the gym and it scares girls away. Activate. Don't annihilate. 2. Because you are a beast in the gym... You don't have to act like that when you are out. With the explosion of guys who want to develop lean, muscular builds now, the abundance of lame Affliction t-shirts and tough guy attitudes is almost annoying. There is no reason to be or even present yourself like a tough guy in public. Women want someone they can feel comfortable around. And if you are walking around the bar with a look on your face like you want to fight everyone, not only will it show that you lack confidence because you can't seem to let your guard down in a non-threatening environment, it will also send across negative emotions, which in turn will scare any girl away from you. Don't base your masculinity on your muscularity. (Nobody really cares how big your arms are besides you  ) Let your guard down when you are out and that will show that you are truly a person who feels confident in yourself and not someone who walks around with their chest out trying to look the part. You can't fake shit with girls. They are too good at reading people.
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| Author: | Ashley.V [ Sat Mar 09, 2013 4:14 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girls are afraid of me, how to change that? |
Don't be intense. It freaks girls out when they don't know you yet. Act calm as if you don't care what she thinks of you you know. Like you are hesitating if you should like her or not. When she feels like you are kinda liking her but may lose interest any time, she actually goes out to earn your interest. No girls like the feeling of being dismissed by guys as long as the guy is not totally gross and everything. That's how you get her out of her niche and reach out to you. I once knew someone with a huge scar on his jaw, which may well terrify a lot of people. But he still get girls being cool and amicable. I think he gets points for that scar by looking like a cool gangster lol. Girls do like guys with a little thrill and dangerous. I have long nails (like the white part is longer than the red part) which may be scary when she first sees it, but so far no girl can resist me when I scratch their skin with those nails. Not even one. Actually a little bit of scary is not that bad with girls. It gives you a little bit authority and make them look up to you when you handle it right. She might think you're powerful when she starts to trust you and feel safe around you. The big thing is, don't let this scary thing scare you and stop you from talking to girls. One more thing. Girls are always somewhat skeptical and take a long time to "get to know you". If you're tall and big, it is easy for them to think that you're a beast. So for one little tip, don't move to much. Stay still. It helps to build a peaceful image. Don't touch her or grab her too much. I'm 6'0" and 150lbs. Slim and agile. I have skillful hands and knows how to control my stroke and touch girls in a nice and comfy way. I know that for big guys it's harder to do so. Sometimes I just look at those 200lb people and wonder how they maneuver that body. Even if it's just a light grab for you, it might be rough for her. (I once asked a big guy to try pulling the hook under one of those scale you see next to the vegies in a grocery store and make it exactly 1 ounce and stay there. He can't.) So be careful when you touch her. If you could, practice a little. It helps more than just approaching her. It helps even when you get her in bed. |
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