Hi, ive been reading this forum for a long time and generally been learning and doing pick up for some time now. I've read lots of stuff, like how to be alpha, how to behave around women, how to have a sexual frame etc etc, but recently, especially after having had a relationship for about 6 months, i've started to have some regret about learning pick up. I just read 60 years of challenge, where it says that women will do things for you and be affectionate, but only if you jump through their hoops, meaning following their agenda. Few hours after that i called my girlfriend, she told me she wanted to see me, i told her i couldnt at that moment, and she never asked if she could see me later, she just went out with her friends. It's not that i want her to stay in and wait for me forever and dont do things if i cant be with her... but it just killed me.
I started thinking, what if i never read about this stuff? I would have said i couldn't see you right now, she'd say ok, and i'd be happy going out and doing whatever. Now, i'm sitting and thinking, she didn't care, it's true that if i leave her now, she's gonna be with some other guy reaaal soon. What i'm saying is, it's nice that i now know so much stuff about people and i can get a girl or have fun with some stranger without feeling awkward or shy, but what's the price? I sit all day thinking, i couldn't ever be with a woman and be truly open with her. Not when some girl is sucking me while talking to her boyfriend, not while they're saying they've only been with 2 guys and i know it's lies. Previously, i'd say, maybe she's telling the truth, maybe not, who knows. Now, i know for a fact she's lying, i can even tell by her body language. Sure it is fun going out and having fun and playing around with lots of girls, but is the cost of learning pickup, that you cannot trust women and not be able to have a long-term relationship, while being secure with your feelings?