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| Author: | Dr. Spargenator [ Thu Dec 06, 2012 1:10 am ] |
| Post subject: | Is it bad to not show a lot of emotion? |
Ok, so when I talk to girls I talk slowly and calmly, to show confidence. But just a few minutes ago j got a comment saying that I have no emotion in my voice. Is this good or bad? And ya it's defiantly true, I don't show emotion in my voice. How do I show more emotion? Should I show more emotion? Thanks guys. |
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| Author: | AFC AzA [ Thu Dec 06, 2012 5:42 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it bad to not show a lot of emotion? |
I just found out showing so much emotion and attacking/playing on their EMOTION is best and fastest way. its just beautiful man. but be real, faking emotion wont get you far. |
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| Author: | Andre2807 [ Thu Dec 06, 2012 5:45 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it bad to not show a lot of emotion? |
Speaking slow and calmly is best used in the right SPAM. If everyone is upbeat and happy (club/party environment) you can actually go about speaking loudly, happily and like you're having fun. When you're in a setting with the just the two of you, lowering your voice and speaking more slower just makes more sense. Also, smiling while you are speaking will naturally adjust the way you sound. Hope this helps. |
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| Author: | AFC AzA [ Thu Dec 06, 2012 6:11 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it bad to not show a lot of emotion? |
Quote: Speaking slow and calmly is best used in the right SPAM. If everyone is upbeat and happy (club/party environment) you can actually go about speaking loudly, happily and like you're having fun. When you're in a setting with the just the two of you, lowering your voice and speaking more slower just makes more sense. Also, smiling while you are speaking will naturally adjust the way you sound. Hope this helps.
yes. my emotion thing goes to approaching girls in CLUB/lounge/bar... its best to slow down get sexual in time.
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| Author: | puaninja [ Thu Dec 06, 2012 1:53 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it bad to not show a lot of emotion? |
Emotion= high energy, not being monotone It doesn't necessarily mean getting happy, angry, or sad about things. |
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| Author: | andyredsox [ Sat Dec 08, 2012 8:57 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it bad to not show a lot of emotion? |
Showing emotion doesn't necessarily mean you feel it. So yeah, let's all practice this emotion thing for these girls to be more comfortable. Girls love to be around men they feel comfortable with. Men who can somehow relate to them. |
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| Author: | chrltnz88ssn [ Mon Dec 10, 2012 6:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it bad to not show a lot of emotion? |
Talking slowly and calmly is really important. But expressing emotions is a must. If you don't show your emotions, then how will she realize your affection to her ? So, express your emotions to her when it's needed. |
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| Author: | AFC AzA [ Mon Dec 10, 2012 7:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it bad to not show a lot of emotion? |
okay I'm having belief crises guys... 1. being cold. confident, body language and vocal pitch is slow, not affected by any emotion, centered 2. showing emotion expressing myself carefree goofy you know... talking all kinds of shit. having fun not serious im not sure which one is great for who/what... when im just going to club have fun I just become no2... and sometimes when I wanna hook up I become no1... they both seem works. its like Ying and Yang... so weird. |
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| Author: | andyredsox [ Mon Dec 10, 2012 9:11 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it bad to not show a lot of emotion? |
It doesn't really depend on where you are at. It's who you are with. Some girls react positively with you being cold even. But it always depend on what type of person she is. Learn to analyze the type of girl you're talking to then use your technique. |
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| Author: | romesvonwolf [ Thu Dec 13, 2012 12:36 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it bad to not show a lot of emotion? |
You can remain calm and still show emotion. Showing emotion isn't really about having high energy or being hyper. It's actually a lot about tonality. Think about Morgan Freeman, the actor, and how he speaks. Does he sound high energy? Goofy? Not at all. Does he sound emotionless? Not at all. Why? it's his tonality. When you speak - the same as when you sing, it's all about the sound range, pitch, bass, octave. You can absolutely retain a calm, cool and collected persona whist still stimulating a lot of emotion in your listener. Because really, what communication comes down to, is, is it a pleasure to listen to you? Are you evoking emotion? We are emotionally based creatures (women even more so) and they love to feel emotion. Music, for example - is a pure expression of emotion which directly stimulates emotion and it's all due to the tonality. When you express yourself, try to be like music. Don't worry about your energy levels so much as your octave and tonality. I'm not saying that you should be calm, cool and collected, because being high energy and goofy can work too, but if calm is your goal - it doesn't have to be at the expense of emotion. |
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| Author: | JJoj [ Mon Dec 17, 2012 8:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it bad to not show a lot of emotion? |
There is nothing wrong with not showing emotion, and you should never show emotion that you don't feel. |
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| Author: | Chime [ Fri Dec 21, 2012 1:49 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it bad to not show a lot of emotion? |
Quote: Ok, so when I talk to girls I talk slowly and calmly, to show confidence. But just a few minutes ago j got a comment saying that I have no emotion in my voice. Is this good or bad? And ya it's defiantly true, I don't show emotion in my voice. How do I show more emotion? Should I show more emotion? Thanks guys.
I'm very monotone and naturally speak slowly and calm. I've been given compliments about it like "you should be a radio host." or light hearted jokes like "you sound like a golf announcer.". I just either joke along with them or just play it cool.I do however notice that when making a conscious effort to pace your speech rate with theirs as well as reach your vocal tone closer to theirs it makes people like you and feel more comfortable around you. Generally I only make a real effort with this when I'm at a job interview. Basically if you speak at 130 bpm while you're talking to someone who speaks at 180bpm then you should go up to [180 minus... divide by 2... add to... ] 155bpm. If your vocal range is in the middle octave and theirs is 3 octaves lower than you should drop roughly an octave and a half. It's almost instantly noticeable how much more relaxed they are while talking to you when you do this. You don't go all the way to where they are. Same with things like mumbling, slang, speaking clearly, use of metaphorical phrases, [insert speech pattern/characteristic], etc.. If you come closer to how they talk they not only understand you more while feeling as if you understand them more but they feel more comfortable around you as well. e.g. Someone who speaks a bit of skater slang with a mix of stoner slang, mumbles a bit, uses physical metaphores [e.g. "I FEEL you.", "That's SOLID, man.", "You're keeping it REAL."], speaks at a slow pace, has a robotic emotionless monotone, and a small vocabulary is NOT going to feel comfortable talking to a Harvard Law student who minored in music [that will most likely use Audio metaphores (e.g. "SOUNDS like a good idea.", "Screw that NOISE.", "I went to school and all that JAZZ."), have a larger vocabulary, speaks clearly and understandable, quick thinker with a faster rate of speech and more animated, etc..). However if both compromise and pay attention and use "trance words" and/or phrases the other uses they'll ease off the tension and feel more comfortable and as if they can relate better. Personally I don't care that much. I talk how I talk and do just fine making friends, talking to girls, and other social issue. Feeling relaxed and comfortable also helps you out [keep it in your mind that the girls you're talking to don't matter in a sense that you don't care if you date them, kiss them, fuck them, whatever and just enjoy the conversation and get to know them and you'll be more likeable since you don't care and aren't pressuring anything or acting unnartural or forced. Acting forced and unnatural is "trying too hard"] |
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| Author: | Playboi_ [ Fri Jul 26, 2013 12:31 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it bad to not show a lot of emotion? |
Quote: okay I'm having belief crises guys...
A mix of the both...but you are thinking into it too much. Be a carefree, relaxed individual but do not fake anything. For example, I work in a high paced retail environment so my pace needs to be up but do not increase my rate of speech, always smiling slightly and stay light at heart through anything.
1. being cold. confident, body language and vocal pitch is slow, not affected by any emotion, centered 2. showing emotion expressing myself carefree goofy you know... talking all kinds of shit. having fun not serious im not sure which one is great for who/what... when im just going to club have fun I just become no2... and sometimes when I wanna hook up I become no1... they both seem works. its like Ying and Yang... so weird. |
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| Author: | driftwood [ Mon Jul 29, 2013 8:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it bad to not show a lot of emotion? |
I was at an Adam Lyons bootcamp and pretty much his entire technique is to show a lot of excitement and emotion when talking at girls. And yes, he pretty much just talks AT girls rather than with them. The girls just stand there in rapt awe. |
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