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Author:  Dr. Spargenator [ Thu Sep 20, 2012 5:46 pm ]
Post subject:  how do i get her to qualify herself without being an asshole
Ok so im doing the mystery method on this girl at school. i already have female to male interest so now im trying to get male to female interest. and it looks like i need to get her to qualify herself, so it doesnt look like im a low value man throwing my self at every cute girl who shows me an ioi. anyway, ive been looking at the bhrr routine. but it kinda sounds like id be being an asshole at the end, when i criticize her to get her to qualify herself. so, how do you guys get a girl to qualify herself without being an asshole. any natural ways to do it that dont require a canned routine? if not, what is the best routine to use? thanks guys.
Author:  puaninja [ Thu Sep 20, 2012 7:09 pm ]
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You need to be an authority on something, or a subject matter expert. She'll then have to seek validation from you in order to qualify herself.

Guys will do this all the time to DLV you or tool you. Say you start talking about football. Some dudes spend lots of time on the web and doing fantasy football and absorb stats and news about teams and athletes and then regurgitate what they've learned as though they are experts on football. Unless you have done the same, you simply won't be able to keep up. But you'll be inclined to try, because you don't want to look like a loser for not knowing what the wildcat formation is.
Author:  Klauss [ Fri Sep 21, 2012 2:13 am ]
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bro you just have to notice qualification is much more simple then you think.
i can tell you that woman qualify themselves all the time.
just listen and never ignore.
Author:  pumpington [ Fri Sep 21, 2012 7:35 am ]
Post subject:  Re: how do i get her to qualify herself without being an asshole
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I already have female to male interest so now im trying to get male to female interest.
U wot mate?
trying to get male to female?

MM a3 is pretty simple man, here is a breif explanation
qualify = let someone know they posses a quality
qualifier = question or statement that baits person into revealing a quality about themselves

also, you don't even need to get a girl to take the bait on a qualifier, for you to qualify her, getting her to do so is just a little smoother because you can bait reasons to qualify her on beyond her looks, but girls will give you plenty of things you can qualify them off of, just in regular conversation, and if you have nothing you can cold read some bullshit and qualify them off that

the premisis for A3, is a process that mystery coined, BAIT, HOOK, REEL, RELEASE, or... you can think of this like

qualifier, she invests, qualify, dis-qualify (if she doesn't invest, or ''hook'', then you go back to a2 work for a few threads, then lower the investment required in the next qualifier)

so example,

you: ahhh, cool, well the other day my buddies and I were making this epic meal, it was blah blah blah blah, are you a good cook?
(BAIT)
her: yes, I love cooking, I blah blah blah blah
(HOOK)
you: wow, that sounds amazing, you just went up like 20 sexy points on my sexy scale,(REEL) but then again, you're probably a food burner so nevermind *said in a playful way* (RELEASE)

this is the format of A3 and how to ''qualify'' but realistically, you can just say ''I LIKE YOU'' and you have just qualified her, or you can say ''YOU'RE CUTE'' and you just qualified her, ''YOU'RE AWESOME'' you just qualified her, etc. etc.

you don't ''get'' male to female interest, you show it

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and it looks like i need to get her to qualify herself, so it doesnt look like im a low value man throwing my self at every cute girl who shows me an ioi
mystery method is not the bible, you don't need to do this at all, although you can practise doing this and get good at it
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how do you guys get a girl to qualify herself without being an asshole. any natural ways to do it that dont require a canned routine? if not, what is the best routine to use? thanks guys.
lead her into it, set out your personal standards in reguards to women, let her descide if she wants to qualify herself or not, let her know before hand what is the ''right answer''

example,

you: blah blah blah, working out, blah blah blah, I love girls that do sports and stuff, do you like that stuff?
her: blah blah blah yes or no blah blah blah
you: qualify


that or you can just be present and non reactive, don't seek approval, when girls really get a feel that you have value and their self esteem is not so high around you because of you not reacting to them, they will just qualify themselves to try to gain your approval, when they do, give them that approval

it would look something similar to this

you: hey becky, how was your weekend

becky: blah blah blah, you?

you: cool, my buddy dave and I put on pink speedos and tried to look as gay as possible and rented out two mopeds, and rode around downtown... the looks were fucking incredible, it was so awesome

her: lol, you guys are crazy, one time me and my friends blah blah blah (tries to qualify for you, to gain your approval that she is also on your level)

you: *reward behavior by ''qualifying her''*
Author:  mother_fucker_2000 [ Tue Oct 02, 2012 3:43 am ]
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[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A0SS9loGs7A[/youtube]
Author:  Souvenir [ Wed Oct 03, 2012 7:56 pm ]
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After getting attraction, stop talking all the time. Give her lazer eye contact, smile, let the silence breathe, then wait for her to snap under the pressure, and she'll start talking and contributing to the interaction more.
Author:  Aspiring [ Fri Oct 05, 2012 3:33 am ]
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I'll give you the same advice I gave another guy, don't be offended that this is a copy/paste, I just can't say it any better.

I like to use Gambler's "Three things I look for in a woman are [a quality], passionate about [a passion], and the third one I'm not telling. I wouldn't want you to lie to impress me."

And of course coming off like an asshole or not is all about delivery. There are plenty of things I've said to women that I never should have gotten away with but did because of facial expressions and delivery.

It might be a good idea to use the rule of mirroring when qualifying. That means whatever she gives you, you reflect. If she's being a bitch you can neg her, if she's being sweet, be sweet. So don't act all conceded unless she is acting too good for you also.[/u]
Author:  ImNaShitFool [ Sun Oct 07, 2012 10:14 pm ]
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be the party.. if your the source of fun & ur not looking to her for validation she'll qualify
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