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Author:  camel [ Sun May 27, 2012 11:12 pm ]
Post subject:  I think she is friendzoning me

Hi,

Long time ago I met a girl. We've had one date and from that time, we were only chatting. She met a boy before me on the internet and that is her crush. She has a date with him next week, but she has never met him in person.
Two weeks ago she told me it would be better to stop and stop with chatting each other. She told me that 10 times and I was really frustrated about that. But next day she started talking to me again.
Yesterday I sent her a birthdaycard. I gave that to a friend of us who was invited to her party. She thinks that was really sweet and she thanked me for that and asked me if I want to go to some fair in our place with a friend of us.
Ik thought about it a long time and I can't figure it out. The only thing I don't want is to end up in the friendzone. How should I act this week? Should I contact her as much as possible? Or leave her alone? How should I act next week on the fair? Should I ask her how her date was? Or avoid that topic? Should I tease her or should I be as sweet as possible for her? Last week she told me "you are mean. I am looking for some sweet boy." But I don't know whether she meant it or not. How can I figure out what her feeling is? Or should I avoid that? How can I let her think of me en let her like me?

Regards,
Camel

Author:  jacklei [ Mon May 28, 2012 12:41 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I think she is friendzoning me

dude... you now what your problem is here....
you think too much...
dont think so much for a girl that you are not even sure likes you as much or not....!!

just play your normal game and if your game is tight, you would get her no matter how many guys try out.

just remember to escalate and be direct in your intentions.. this does not mean you go whining that you love her so much.. its just that she knows you desire her.. but she should also realize that -- As much as you desire her and want her... you dont need her....
you shall keep her off-balance for a bit. Play the push and pull properly,.. give her some value and then take some back from her....remember, if she becomes sure of your feelings too much, she would take you for granted or would side-line you for that douchebag. and if she thinks you dont like her at all, then that is also not what you want. you need to make a balance into this.
just behave the normal funny/cocky usual happy-go-lucky guy who is alpha and is confident that you would get her... she would sense the confidence and would put more value in you than that guy... be the leader and keep the frame control.

and let me know how it goes..

Author:  camel [ Mon May 28, 2012 8:21 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I think she is friendzoning me

Quote:
dude... you now what your problem is here....
you think too much...
dont think so much for a girl that you are not even sure likes you as much or not....!!

just play your normal game and if your game is tight, you would get her no matter how many guys try out.

just remember to escalate and be direct in your intentions.. this does not mean you go whining that you love her so much.. its just that she knows you desire her.. but she should also realize that -- As much as you desire her and want her... you dont need her....
you shall keep her off-balance for a bit. Play the push and pull properly,.. give her some value and then take some back from her....remember, if she becomes sure of your feelings too much, she would take you for granted or would side-line you for that douchebag. and if she thinks you dont like her at all, then that is also not what you want. you need to make a balance into this.
just behave the normal funny/cocky usual happy-go-lucky guy who is alpha and is confident that you would get her... she would sense the confidence and would put more value in you than that guy... be the leader and keep the frame control.

and let me know how it goes..
Thanks. I am fairly new to this kind of stuff, so can someone give me some concrete examples of those techniques you showed me? I will give you a report after this week.

Author:  MsNoca [ Wed May 30, 2012 7:15 am ]
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Call her a hour before the fair and tell her you can't make it. If she is a friend on Facebook-delete her. Next wait for her to call and or text to see what is going on. BINGO! She has an interest in you again!

Author:  camel [ Wed May 30, 2012 8:14 am ]
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Quote:
Call her a hour before the fair and tell her you can't make it. If she is a friend on Facebook-delete her. Next wait for her to call and or text to see what is going on. BINGO! She has an interest in you again!
Hmm, thanks :), interesting. I know she's got some interest in me. Some things are changed and this is what I think.
Monday, we had a long conversation about nothing and that evening she texted me, out of the blue :). I was really happy with that, because she normally doesn't do something like that.
Yesterday she added a new friend on Facebook. I guess that's her date. She liked his profile photo. She met him on the internet and I think he is also doing some tricks so he is totally on her mind on Saturday. Since that time I haven't talked to her, but I guess she will not be talking like Monday or yesterday. What I think is that she thought it was over between her and the date and now things are changed.
What can I do now? My friends told me to NEVER EVER talk about her date, that would be desperate. Should I warn her for him? What can I do to let her think of me on that date? Or should I just wait? Should I just talk to her? Or neglect her untill her date?

Author:  MsNoca [ Wed May 30, 2012 9:41 am ]
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Neglect her.

Author:  TXkrush [ Fri Jun 01, 2012 6:59 am ]
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I have been in the friend zone many times. I think I am understanding it a bit more. If she invites you to go somewhere dont decline but say you have plans and tell her to meet up with you again at another time but for her to call you when she is free. Dont tell her what your plans are, even if she asks. Make her chase you. It sounds like you got one-itis bro. Let it go and she will come to you. She liked how nice you are too her. Give her compliments as usual but in small doses.

This one girl I was talking to I told her. You have to much love and beauty for one man, and I congratulate the lucky bastard that you win over. I didnt tell her that I was that lucky bastard or that I wanted her. It was more of an indirect compliment. After I do a a compliment like that I wont give one or even talk to her for like a day or two then I get a reaction when I text or call... seemed to work for this one girl I got a date with Sunday. Make sure to drop some DHV's and let her know you might have a date or be seeing women other women. I swear women seem to be like what ... the nice guy might get taken.... I once played my ex and this girl that put me in the friend zone against each other. I felt devious but women are so competitive. If you have another female friend then spend more time with her.

Author:  Versalis [ Mon Jun 04, 2012 9:26 pm ]
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^ Listen to this man.

My view is that this girl does like you to some extent. Why else does she think she needs to stop talking to you? If she thinks of you in a purely platonic sense, then she would not do this.

Her internet boy is most likely not going to work out. So I wouldn't worry too much about it. As for asking her about it? I wouldn't. If things really go well with this guy, she'll be gushing over him and you can't help but find out. At which point you also have your answer on where you stand. Otherwise, you still have the chance to replace him.
Try to get her out with you and some friends soon, get her alone and get her interested in you again.

Oh and don't delete her off FB. Emo crap does not make you look good.

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