I've met this HB8 at an event which was not a club or bar recently. She's shy and her Fridays and Saturdays are usually empty and she is frank about it and her fb doesn't get much activity, so I would expect that she would be a great catch and I would hopefully not have to jump through a ton of s*** tests and related complexities. As some background info, we are both in our early 30s and I'm actually looking for long term. I'm not much of a pua, so I thought I'd get some advice here.
Anyhow, my first date wasn't really a date, at least it was not setup as such, so I didn't kino her at all. We did some shopping and had dinner and chatted both our ears off and we ended with a hug at the end of the night. Good conversation, much in common and some definite chemistry.
The second date was me asking her to come over to my place for a movie+cooked dinner. She accepted easily. I don't know if it is because she is trustworthy of me, or a bit naive because a girl to coming alone to a guys house means many things to the guy, but maybe not so much for the the girl, haha. I really wasn't trying to f-close her anyways because I mean if I'm after her for long term, there will be enough of that down the road and I don't want to give her the wrong vibe. She gave me a few "i think I like you" stares.
During the second date, I messed around with some of the ingredients and put it on her and after she got her revenge, I escalated by running after her and holding her waist so she couldn't run away and got her back. She didn't re-escalate at that point, so I left it alone. During the movie, while sitting beside her I tried for compliance by making sure my arm and hip was in contact with hers. She asked me a few things about her hair, so I used that cue to run my hand through her hair not once but a few times while contacting her neck at the same time. Then at some conversation later, she showed me a healing wound on her arm, so I held her arm and ran my thumb over her wound slowly back and forth and a bit on the sensual side hopefully making sure she got the message that I was interested in her way more than just normal friends. I was about 6-10 inches from her face all through these events while still in direct contact with her body. I think her voice became softer as well as time progressed and she never moved away. Funny thing is, during that conversation, she started to mention the things like "the few most important things for her out of someone in a relationship" which she had never brought up before and asked me the same question about what was important for me in a relationship with someone. I'm hitting myself for not going for a k-close at that point, because I feel that I probably could have, but for whatever reason, I didn't.
That's when it started to turn a bit awkward.
We went out for drinks that same night, but it got a little bit weird though and for some reason, it started to become a bit like an interview, like we didn't have much to say to each other. When she had to go, she looked at me a bit weird too before we had our goodbye hug. We did spend 8 hours that day together, so I'm not sure if it was too much time together, lowering interest level because she wants to ljbf, or awkwardness due to my escalation and then reluctance to carry through. In any case, because of the previous kino earlier during the day, as I opened up doors, it felt easy to place my hand on her back guiding her through it and the goodbye hug with my hand pulling her into me again on her lower back.
One red flag is that she sometimes will look around the room when people are coming in when we are at a restaurant. Sometimes even at a waitress or at a table of people sitting down. She doesn't text or check her phone though during our outings, but I find it a bit offputting nonetheless.
So, the third date is coming up this weekend, and I'm trying to figure out what the heck to do next. I've been trying to control my interest level by not texting or calling between dates and leaving it to at least mid-week or letting a few days go by before re-inviting her to a next date. But at this point, I must be in the mid nineties with my interest level, so I need some help before I totally ef this up!
This weekend is a party with a live show, so I figure that I would at some point hold her hand and bring her closer to the stage, and stand to her side slightly behind her and actually hold her waist and pull her into me. After she gets comfortable, I should be able to look at her, k-close and let the evening happen at that point.. but after that strange awkwardness ending the 2nd date, I'm kinda stuck as to what I should do next!
I have no idea if I'm even doing any of this properly, so any advice would be appreciated to help me close this!
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