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not call or text her for a few days. I don't want to let it go because I know she's really into me, just freaking out a little.

Help! I really want to know...since she said she was really into me but wasn't sure if i was into her for anything more than sex...should I like try to prove to her that I'm into her and really do like her? Or just wait for her to contact me?

I met this girl on an internet dating site, she contacted me there three weeks ago. We hit it off immediately, had major attraction, good communication, felt great being with her, the sex was great, and we really liked each other.

Two weeks go by, she tells me she didn't want me to date anyone else, so I make her my girlfriend.

Two nights later I admittedly acted like a selfish jerk and a douchebag. The next day she dumped me, said she didn't think it would work out for one reason...she didn't think she could keep up with my sex drive.

Three days later we talked again. She said she wanted someone perfect for her, that she didn't know if I was perfect for her. Said she didn't think she was supposed to be with me. Said even more reasons why we shouldn't get back together.

She even told me she was into me but wasn't sure I was into her for anything more than sex. I really want to make this work out, just put last weekend behind us and move forward.

We left off the conversation that I just wanted her to spend one hour with me in person and then make her decision. She said "not tonight" and I said ok, thanks for talking to me and have a good night, talk to you soon".

What should I do next? I wrote a nice letter and was going to mail it to her, not call or text her for a few days. I don't want to let it go because I know she's really into me, just freaking out a little.

Just gonna go cold on this one, chalk it up to a learning expeience.

I said fuck it. I decided - last week - that I was going to be myself 100% and do and say whatever felt natural with this one, since that is how our entire relationship evolved from the beginning. We last talked over the phone Tuesday. Wednesday and Thursday nothing. Friday I sent her this text in the morning before (I knew) she woke up:

Like a gummi bear in your underwear,
I'm stuck on you babe, stuck right there.

No reply. Call her in the afternoon, no answer, I left this message - "Hey...lets do something this weekend. Dinner or a drink or a movie or we can just hang out"

*No reply*

Saturday morning call, did not leave message. 5 minutes later I text : "I miss you."

*No reply*

Sunday morning (this morning) I send text: "Coffee and a cigarette w/me? Arabica?"

Call 5 minutes later, no answer - did not leave a message.

Send text 5 minutes later: "Can't say I didn't try! I wish you good luck _____..."

*No reply*

No more contact from me anymore...I'm sick of trying.

Fuck dudes dont kick a man while hes down.

plenty of other girls out there learn from this and keep moving

Author:	mrjericho [ Wed Apr 18, 2012 11:32 am ]
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I met this girl on an internet dating site, she contacted me there three weeks ago. We hit it off immediately, had major attraction, good communication, felt great being with her, the sex was great, and we really liked each other. Two weeks go by, she tells me she didn't want me to date anyone else, so I make her my girlfriend. Two nights later I admittedly acted like a selfish jerk and a douchebag. The next day she dumped me, said she didn't think it would work out for one reason...she didn't think she could keep up with my sex drive. Three days later we talked again. She said she wanted someone perfect for her, that she didn't know if I was perfect for her. Said she didn't think she was supposed to be with me. Said even more reasons why we shouldn't get back together. She even told me she was into me but wasn't sure I was into her for anything more than sex. I really want to make this work out, just put last weekend behind us and move forward. We left off the conversation that I just wanted her to spend one hour with me in person and then make her decision. She said "not tonight" and I said ok, thanks for talking to me and have a good night, talk to you soon". What should I do next? I wrote a nice letter and was going to mail it to her, not call or text her for a few days. I don't want to let it go because I know she's really into me, just freaking out a little. Help! I really want to know...since she said she was really into me but wasn't sure if i was into her for anything more than sex...should I like try to prove to her that I'm into her and really do like her? Or just wait for her to contact me?

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Apr 18, 2012 2:29 pm ]
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Quote: not call or text her for a few days. I don't want to let it go because I know she's really into me, just freaking out a little. Help! I really want to know...since she said she was really into me but wasn't sure if i was into her for anything more than sex...should I like try to prove to her that I'm into her and really do like her? Or just wait for her to contact me? You gave your own best answer! What women SAY and what they DO, are not very often the same! Chill her out a few days, rough to hear I know.

Author:	skills360 [ Wed Apr 18, 2012 3:49 pm ]
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Quote: I met this girl on an internet dating site, she contacted me there three weeks ago. We hit it off immediately, had major attraction, good communication, felt great being with her, the sex was great, and we really liked each other. so you are in dude! Quote: Two weeks go by, she tells me she didn't want me to date anyone else, so I make her my girlfriend. You say i would love that, but we are going to fast lets get to know each other lets no rush things! DUDE YOU NEED LEAD AND HAVE CONTROL she is testing your manhood, you are acting like a pussy that is why she wants to dump you...She needs a man, so she is testing, huge shit test.. Quote: Two nights later I admittedly acted like a selfish jerk and a douchebag. The next day she dumped me, said she didn't think it would work out for one reason...she didn't think she could keep up with my sex drive. you admitted to being a softy omg! she is testing your manhood... You should have say ok, i understand. Quote: Three days later we talked again. She said she wanted someone perfect for her, that she didn't know if I was perfect for her. Said she didn't think she was supposed to be with me. Said even more reasons why we shouldn't get back together. Fucking with you, shit testing, you are too needy... Go along you are right maybe i am not perfect for you, but have you stop and think, you may not be perfect for me, lets' just see other people and be friends, whatever happens happens, or some other type of take away.. Quote: She even told me she was into me but wasn't sure I was into her for anything more than sex. I really want to make this work out, just put last weekend behind us and move forward. Dude she is looking for security, you need to learn game... She is scare of getting hurt. Quote: We left off the conversation that I just wanted her to spend one hour with me in person and then make her decision. She said "not tonight" and I said ok, thanks for talking to me and have a good night, talk to you soon". Too needy and a pussy=turn off to her.. you will lose her with this type of behavior. To get a girl you must be willing to lose a girl. Quote: What should I do next? I wrote a nice letter and was going to mail it to her, not call or text her for a few days. I don't want to let it go because I know she's really into me, just freaking out a little. NOOOOOOOOOOO dude, you are acting like a pussy afc, do you want to push her away?? Help! I really want to know...since she said she was really into me but wasn't sure if i was into her for anything more than sex...should I like try to prove to her that I'm into her and really do like her? Or just wait for her to contact me? watch this video, learn game: [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YNovswAlmio[/youtube]

Author:	mrjericho [ Thu Apr 19, 2012 2:59 am ]
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Slick, great reply...but the guy in that video was a douche and I learned nothing from him. Just gonna go cold on this one, chalk it up to a learning expeience.

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Apr 19, 2012 12:33 pm ]
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Quote: Just gonna go cold on this one, chalk it up to a learning expeience. Good thinking Bro!

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Author:	sika [ Sun Apr 22, 2012 6:01 am ]
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dude you know this suituation better than anyone. do what you feel and communicate from the core. be genuine. just tone back the needy. show your intent. I rekin plan somthing fun that she would make even better by bieng there. basically make an excuse to be together, if she blows you off do it any way. It will give you somthing great to talk about later. The worst thing is letting someone go that is amazing from doing nothing. do somthing just dont let it come from a needy place Best of luck brother - let us know how it goes

Author:	mrjericho [ Sun Apr 22, 2012 11:12 pm ]
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I said fuck it. I decided - last week - that I was going to be myself 100% and do and say whatever felt natural with this one, since that is how our entire relationship evolved from the beginning. We last talked over the phone Tuesday. Wednesday and Thursday nothing. Friday I sent her this text in the morning before (I knew) she woke up: Like a gummi bear in your underwear, I'm stuck on you babe, stuck right there. No reply. Call her in the afternoon, no answer, I left this message - "Hey...lets do something this weekend. Dinner or a drink or a movie or we can just hang out" No reply Saturday morning call, did not leave message. 5 minutes later I text : "I miss you." No reply Sunday morning (this morning) I send text: "Coffee and a cigarette w/me? Arabica?" Call 5 minutes later, no answer - did not leave a message. Send text 5 minutes later: "Can't say I didn't try! I wish you good luck _____..." No reply No more contact from me anymore...I'm sick of trying.

Author:	mrjericho [ Sun Apr 22, 2012 11:23 pm ]
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Lessons learned: 1.) I was too easy. I provided no challenge. 2.) I lost control. I let her decide the course. 3.) I displayed weakness and insecurity. (She's a strong woman) 4.) I didn't pay attention to her subtle signals. 5.) I'm very rusty and out of practice. I do believe she will contact me again, sometime down the road. Just a gut feeling I have, though I can't explain it.

Author:	sika [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 3:08 am ]
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Sux dude. not everything is a success story.

Author:	skills360 [ Tue Apr 24, 2012 7:05 am ]
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Quote: I said fuck it. I decided - last week - that I was going to be myself 100% and do and say whatever felt natural with this one, since that is how our entire relationship evolved from the beginning. We last talked over the phone Tuesday. Wednesday and Thursday nothing. Friday I sent her this text in the morning before (I knew) she woke up: Like a gummi bear in your underwear, I'm stuck on you babe, stuck right there. No reply. Call her in the afternoon, no answer, I left this message - "Hey...lets do something this weekend. Dinner or a drink or a movie or we can just hang out" No reply Saturday morning call, did not leave message. 5 minutes later I text : "I miss you." No reply Sunday morning (this morning) I send text: "Coffee and a cigarette w/me? Arabica?" Call 5 minutes later, no answer - did not leave a message. Send text 5 minutes later: "Can't say I didn't try! I wish you good luck _____..." No reply No more contact from me anymore...I'm sick of trying. I just read this, i do not get it, you did exactly the opposite of what everybody here told you, you are too needy, then you disregard the video, the video addresses your problem, again you DID NOT LISTEN, now you fucked it up... Women do not reward needy dudes, or weak dudes(they are not meant to reproduce) women like men, real men, that are clear in their intentions, and are solid, strong, not wimpy... And why did you text, then text, then text, when it was not mutual, that is psycho i hate when women do that to me, when you text a woman she does not text back she is hinting, i am not that into you. Texting should be 50/50 not one sided...

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Apr 24, 2012 12:47 pm ]
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Quote: I said fuck it. I decided - last week - that I was going to be myself 100% and do and say whatever felt natural with this one, since that is how our entire relationship evolved from the beginning. We last talked over the phone Tuesday. Wednesday and Thursday nothing. Friday I sent her this text in the morning before (I knew) she woke up: Like a gummi bear in your underwear, I'm stuck on you babe, stuck right there. No reply. Call her in the afternoon, no answer, I left this message - "Hey...lets do something this weekend. Dinner or a drink or a movie or we can just hang out" No reply Saturday morning call, did not leave message. 5 minutes later I text : "I miss you." No reply Sunday morning (this morning) I send text: "Coffee and a cigarette w/me? Arabica?" Call 5 minutes later, no answer - did not leave a message. Send text 5 minutes later: "Can't say I didn't try! I wish you good luck _____..." No reply No more contact from me anymore...I'm sick of trying. I can't believe you did that, she probably called the stalker cops!

Author:	sika [ Thu Apr 26, 2012 10:46 pm ]
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Fuck dudes dont kick a man while hes down. plenty of other girls out there learn from this and keep moving

Author:	hawksterG [ Thu Apr 26, 2012 11:14 pm ]
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Quote: Fuck dudes dont kick a man while hes down. plenty of other girls out there learn from this and keep moving No. This was just stupid. Why ask for advice if you don't take it. If you don't see the mistakes you make when people point them out, you'll never learn. Bad response OP.

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