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Author:  titanman [ Thu Feb 23, 2012 11:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Shit tests
What specifically about inner game do I need to improve to automatically pass shit tests? The Attraction Code says to act unaffected emotionally and basically ignore it until you can develop enough skill to come back with something that'll pass the test.

Now I realise the following isn't really a shit test but advice on situations like this is also wanted


Some random girl mocked my accent, I had no idea what to do except ignore it but ignoring felt like the wrong thing given that situation. I thought of saying jokingly "are you always this mean to people you meet" but then would this be adopting her frame? Perhaps "do you always hit on guys like that" would have been better?

Looking for feedback + some advice to overcome shit tests in the future without just ignoring.

Thanks.
Author:  Jambi [ Fri Feb 24, 2012 12:45 am ]
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I would just say "Cute" and leave it at that.

Kinda bypasses the test yet keeps you in control
Author:  poeticlyskuac [ Fri Feb 24, 2012 10:04 am ]
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Embrace it. Whenever someone gives me shit I just roll with it. I would have laughed at her and sarcastically said "I'm a really sensitive guy and that really hurts my feelings." Roll with it. I mean seriously, who cares what they say.

Show the confidence to embrace whatever they say. You know how hard it is to get to someone that simply doesn't give a fuck about what you say? Their opinion doesn't appear to influence how you feel about yourself. If you let them do that to you are in their control and you should never let anyone control you emotionally.

It is up to you to keep your Frame, no one but you has the option to change how you feel. When you are angry, you have the choice to change it, when you are scared you change it. When someone asks how I am, my rebuttal is almost always, ALWAYS GOOD. It is up to you to keep your frame, demeanor, and emotional control, the minute you allow anyone to change that you are owned by them.

That is why the best way to take insult is to thank them and agree even exaggerate how right they are. Why? Because how they feel about you doesn't change how you feel about you. When someone comes at me I smother them with thanks and your right. There is a difference between taking someone else' statement and using it to critique yourself and letting it influence how you feel about yourself.

I guess the key is gaining the confidence and that "coolness" to just embrace shit tests to the point they realize you don't care about it.
Author:  Suriyel [ Tue Feb 28, 2012 6:46 am ]
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To the more agressive ones "oooo fiesty, I like that" and start a new topic

another I've used is "You got spunk, I like that"

if in a group I turn to them and say it "This one's got spunk" turn back to her "I like that" and smile.

Depends on the shit test too~
Author:  AFC AzA [ Tue Feb 28, 2012 7:18 am ]
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mostly i say "yeah i know" (with big cheeky smile)


sometimes I tactically fail to their shit tests. (cute negs or some questions, not can u stuffs) like I have no idea but know what they doing... facial and tonal express.
Author:  pumpington [ Tue Feb 28, 2012 12:14 pm ]
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shit tests are a test of your congruence, you are being tested on who you are, what sort of person you are,

if you have been cool social ''high value'' type of guy, exuding confidence and security, and that is persona you are congruently trying to portrait as yourself (hopefully it really is yourself), then the best way to pass that test is simply, not EMOTIONALLY react to the test, note that it is your emotions you must keep in control, not nessicarily the content of what you are saying, but obviously there is a degree of social intelligence you must display to not seem socially retarded,

the easiest way by far to pass shit tests, is simply be congruent, if you are just yourself, but your true self without fear or need for approval, then you will confidently and congruently just express yourself and act in a way that expresses your intent without the need to filter yourself

when you have an instinct to just blurt something out and you are not having an EMOTIONAL reaction to what has been said, and what you are saying is not a reaction to that EMOTION then what you say will most likely naturally just pass that test, as you have remained congruent, unless what you are saying completely contradicts the person you have been viewed as

(in other words a confident secure person, will be sure of himself and who he is, and if someone tests how sure of himself he is, he simply remains sure of himself and doesn't get mad or irritated or anything, because it doesn't matter, he knows who he is and has a strong idea of this)

the other way to pass tests is just to not take them, or completely dismiss her frame

either way what is important is that you don't care about what the test is and don't react to it, she mocks your accent, you respond in a way congruent to what you have been doing,

for example your accent thing, almost any answer will do as long as it does not have an emotional undertone of, I AM BUTTHURT AND THAT REALLY HURT MY FEELINGS, the answer should just either ring with, ya, why would you say that?, or haha cute, depending on what action you want her to take, you want to encourage it or dissmiss it as it doesn't bother you?, passive or agressive really depends on your own personality, but being a butthurt crybaby is a good way to fail tests and create dis-interest rather then interest, you have to learn to control your emotions, if you get irritated or angry over female emotional outbursts and you can't handle them, you are failing shit tests before they are even answered

keep in mind there is a difference between saying

WHY DON'T YOU GO SUCK A BIG HAIRY DOG DICK!, when you are mad, and saying it when you are happy, or saying it when you are simply calm, being emotionally non reactive also has little to do with being stoic, it does not mean be emotionless, it simply means control your emotions and be active in generating your own emotional state rather then reacting to others and basing what emotional state you are in on external stimulation (like pretty much every girl does)
Author:  Donston [ Wed Feb 29, 2012 4:13 am ]
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Jeffy's come back for everything ... "your mama ... [insert her insult here]" ...

Basically, just don't let it affect you ... you can even go into her frame ... as long as you don't think that it's a big deal or take it seriously then you pass. Make it amusing for you that she is doing this and laugh at it. As long what ever she says doesn't affect your personality and you continue to be your awesome self then you pass the tests ^_^.

Sincerely,

Donston
Author:  titanman [ Wed Feb 29, 2012 6:25 pm ]
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Thanks guys, great replies.
Author:  seph89 [ Wed Feb 29, 2012 10:34 pm ]
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I don't really bother with reading other posts since I'm only interested in helping the OP and answering his question/concern.

But it does appear that lots of good info has been said so I'm probably not contributing anything new at this point.

Big Picture view on shit tests
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1) You get shit-tested because the girl DOES want you. She needs to now see if you have the value she thinks you have by testing your emotions.

2) Be cool...smile and have fun. It helps to be witty.

3) Touching on the above point, you need to have the frame that everything you do IS right and VALID. You are the King. So if she brings up your accent you smile and playfully say something like "Accent? What accent...in fact YOU'RE the one who talks funny, I just didn't want to hurt your feelings so I kept it to myself." You catch my drift. I guarantee if she is a "normal" girl, she will laugh and find you even more attractive afterward.
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