PUA Forum
https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/

Asked her out. Did she say no?
https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=135&t=125429		 Page 1 of 1
Author:  Dr. Mooney [ Tue Jan 10, 2012 8:19 am ]
Post subject:  Asked her out. Did she say no?
Been texting a girl for about a week..Texted her tonight asking her out for the weekend. Dinner on me. She kept saying "mmm idk or i didnt say i would haha" so I told her all she had to bring was herself. "Ehhh" so then I told her well, you arent saying no "haha true" so after a few more texts, no replies...so after about 30 mins. I said youre a lame and no reply.

So was it a flat no, or she just fucking with my head
Author:  FCgame [ Tue Jan 10, 2012 8:58 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Asked her out. Did she say no?
Quote:
Been texting a girl for about a week..Texted her tonight asking her out for the weekend. Dinner on me. She kept saying "mmm idk or i didnt say i would haha" so I told her all she had to bring was herself. "Ehhh" so then I told her well, you arent saying no "haha true" so after a few more texts, no replies...so after about 30 mins. I said youre a lame and no reply.

So was it a flat no, or she just fucking with my head
I really don't know why you guys never call! What's wrong with calling? NOTHING
if you sent her a text message asking her to go out and she doesn't reply just wait, never send a text message complaining or saying " You are lame" You should CALL her and apologise for saying that, I can assure you if you do it right yout chances of going out with her would increase dramatically
Author:  Dr. Mooney [ Tue Jan 10, 2012 9:05 am ]
Post subject: 
Thanks for your input. I won't say anything for a few days. I'll definitely keep the calling part in mind and to add a small apology..
Author:  FCgame [ Tue Jan 10, 2012 9:30 am ]
Post subject: 
Your welcome, I think you shouldn't wait. What's the point of waiting? Remember that you are also calling her to apologise. Think what you are going to say and call her.

Glad I can help, of you any more doubts you can send me an email at fcgame007@gmail.com

You can also read this to know what I am about.
seduction-without-bullshit-if-you-reall ... 25352.html
Author:  Klaxon [ Tue Jan 10, 2012 9:35 am ]
Post subject: 
I agree on what FC has said.

HOWEVER, it is very AFC to call and apologise for something you said. You should definitely call and frame the apology as if its her fault:

"Hey, sorry if you took that the wrong way - i was only kidding." So ensure she feels like you have made an effort to apologise but also calling her out on the cause of that text.
Author:  FCgame [ Tue Jan 10, 2012 9:41 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
I agree on what FC has said.

HOWEVER, it is very AFC to call and apologise for something you said. You should definitely call and frame the apology as if its her fault:

"Hey, sorry if you took that the wrong way - i was only kidding." So ensure she feels like you have made an effort to apologise but also calling her out on the cause of that text.
Hey! I like that. The thing is that depends on your personality, depends on how you want to play it
Author:  NickStar [ Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:19 am ]
Post subject: 
don't ask her out more than once in a day - makes you needy. and if she sais no don't make a big deal out of it ... most girls wouldn't agree on the first try anyway so don't feel bad about it

only text once and wait for her response. in fact try not to text her as soon as she texts you i mean if you have something going on or doing something don't stop it just to text her. Except if it is a escalating convo..

her ignoring you certainly doesn't mean she's not attracted to you but you really fucked it up with this "ur lame". try text her in a few days time maybe even a week
Author:  Dr. Mooney [ Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:23 am ]
Post subject: 
Good point..I just think a text is easier, faster, and others have said she has pretty much said no already, so it makes me more optimistic..
I don't want to seem like a creep for getting ahold of her the day after. To me, that just seems to be too much too soon imo.
Author:  FCgame [ Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:26 am ]
Post subject: 
Good but remember something, the only thing worse than getting rejected is not trying.
Author:  Dr. Mooney [ Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:27 am ]
Post subject: 
That was a huge coincidence, Nick..We posted at the same time and then everything that was said was in accordance to each other-ha!

I won't get ahold of her till Friday and ill just say "If you want to go out, let me know. If not, you'll miss a good time but its alright" maybe throw in the mixed apology and just leave it at that..
Author:  poeticlyskuac [ Tue Jan 10, 2012 4:53 pm ]
Post subject: 
I disagree with just calling, everything is person to person. I have friends that don't text at all, I have friends that don't call at all. I know a girl that once left a message on her voice mail saying if you want to talk to her text her. Some girls won't pick up and if you call you just annoy the shit out of her.

So there is no rule to calling or texting, it is person to person. Some girls will NOT pick up. Do not just say I'll only call, or I'll only text. Find out where she is in regards to calls or texts. Some girls won't pick up if she doesn't know the number, so how does it help if you are calling? I say listen in, most girls if there is an attraction present will say, text me or call me. You'll find out which way with ease.

The other thing is if you aren't quick on your feet and you make a call and there is an awkward moment you just hurt your attraction, texting is easy because you have time to think up a witty response. So it all has to be calibrated to two people you, and the person you are communicating with which method is best.
Author:  Dr. Mooney [ Tue Jan 10, 2012 8:53 pm ]
Post subject: 
Good point. With a phone call, it might make her feel like shes on the spot. I'm just going to send that text and leave it at that..
Page 1 of 1 All times are UTC
Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group
http://www.phpbb.com/