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Author:  CocaColaFanboy [ Wed Dec 21, 2011 12:33 am ]
Post subject:  Nice guy + dry spell: going on a date -> closing advice?
Hey, I'm brand new to all this stuff, so I'm looking for an opinion/advice/anything.
Basically, I've been chatting up this chick (via FB, not my preferred way of getting dates but no alternative) and basically, this girl just broke up with her BF.

Convo went like this:
me: ";)"
-5 minutes later, no reply-
me: I guess you're not used to talking to handsome guys.. I don't blame you
she: no, Im not...
me: oh great, i was just having a laugh but great to know you're attracted to me ;)
-random bullshit talk-
me: enough about me, how are you feeling right now?
she: not so good, blablabla, im so sad, i wanna hug him and cry myself to sleep blabla i dont know what to do with myself
-me giving expert advice on how to deal with this particular type of break up (had a semi-same experience as she did)-
me: but if you're looking to ease the pain quickly, you're gonna need 1 thing
she: and whats that?
me: very, very good sex
she: what was that? (translated from dutch, she basically means that I'm full of shit)
me: sadly its the truth
she: are you sure thats gonna work? I have phenomenal sex with him...
me: oh... ever had a 1-hour-orgasm?
she: no... he never made me cum
me: what? are you serious?
she: yes...
me: i cant accept that...
-2 minute silence-
me: when are you coming to -city where i live- again?
she: going there tomorrow, blablabla, do you have my number? u gave me some great advice
me: no i dont, i'd love to have it :)

she gives me her number and I tell her I'll send her a text so she'll have my number as well. Something like this:
"Hey, was gonna send you a text. Look, I'll be forward for you. I think you're cute and sexy but I don't know you well enough, I'd love to change that. How do you think we should handle this? :)"

She replied we should meet up sometime, I say "sure, you name the time, I'll choose the place"

Basically, almost every time I met with a girl (at my house) things eventually escalated. Now I'm gonna have to take this girl for a drink probably and I'm not that experienced doing that + I haven't seen this girl in ages... Oh, and I'm under quite a bit of a dry spell.

The reason I posted this on this category is because I'm looking for more 'Natural'-game experience, I'm not huge on 'lying' or 'routines' and I would seem pretty fake and full of shit very fast.

The goal is to nail her of course, although I'm more interested in making her cum because she'd be an awesome f-buddy.

Thanks for reading!
Author:  hahaxiao [ Wed Dec 21, 2011 2:38 pm ]
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thans you

I like this kind of dialogue
Author:  supermaneric [ Wed Dec 21, 2011 3:10 pm ]
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well i see you will have alot of opportunities for kino whenever your date happens, namely when you give her advice or comfort her for her unfortunate events that landed her in your arms ;)

but i think you have to be ready for LMR as the fact remains that she just broke up, and just be ready to back off. two steps forward 1 step back. it will also be good for you to take her somewhere where she could take her mind off and be in the moment.
Author:  CocaColaFanboy [ Wed Dec 21, 2011 11:46 pm ]
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Quote:
well i see you will have alot of opportunities for kino whenever your date happens, namely when you give her advice or comfort her for her unfortunate events that landed her in your arms ;)

but i think you have to be ready for LMR as the fact remains that she just broke up, and just be ready to back off. two steps forward 1 step back. it will also be good for you to take her somewhere where she could take her mind off and be in the moment.
Yeah, I know a great place I can take her.
btw: should I back-off with the sex-talk in that case? I have a feeling there's a whole (orgasmic-)world she isn't familiar with + if I get friendzoned I'm gonna punch myself in the face
Author:  Ch1mera [ Thu Dec 22, 2011 2:50 am ]
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Ease of the sex-talk, the aim is to plant that idea into her mind and you don't need to press the issue by constantly bringing it up, that will only make you come across as a needy pervert!
Pretty sure you are close to being friend zoned/already friend zoned but definitely nothing you can't salvage..
As for natural game advice, there is no such thing.. Natural game is built upon a solid Inner Game, basically, the genuine and unwavering belief (backed up by personal experiences) in your value as a human being - a PRIZE, someone that women queue up for a chance to date, someone that girls are LUCKY to even speak to. If you want to get laid, you have to not care about getting laid because you know you can get that any time you want. You cannot fake this kind of self-confidence, nor can I give you it overnight - you either believe it or you don't yet.
Author:  JamesTRN [ Thu Dec 22, 2011 11:56 am ]
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plan backwards from the bedroom.

Think about the different steps throughout the date and how they will all work towards her coming back to your place... eg:

- A drink at a local bar.
- A second drink at a different bar a little closer to your place
- Buy some icecream, pizza, whatever
- Invite her over to show her that youtube video you were raving about earlier...

Well... then you're in bed. That's a pretty broad example but it's something I've used dozens of times to great effect.
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