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| Author: | good101 [ Fri Oct 14, 2011 2:39 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Should I say that I like her? |
Theres a girl in my scool that i like. Actually i dont care about a relationship, i just want to say i like her so i can get all my thoughts out of my head. U guys think I should say it? Cheers |
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| Author: | VietnameseProdigy [ Fri Oct 14, 2011 5:21 pm ] |
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Usually I would say no, but since you are new, do it. You will learn a lot. I won't reveal anything else. Just go for it. |
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| Author: | poeticlyskuac [ Fri Oct 14, 2011 7:01 pm ] |
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Personality and especially confidence really govern whether you can get away with saying things like that to girls. A good instance is last night, I seen a girl I hadn't seen for a long time. I said "Wow! Where ya been? I was just beginning to gain a crush on you and you disappeared and stopped coming." To explain: I seen her at a poker tournament, she use to play a lot of tournaments and stopped playing. She got shy a little, smiled and showed some submissive signals(turned her head down, shoulders up). In this situation she ended up all over me, flirting and wrapping her arms around me. Closing the distance, preening, submitting, she showed her attraction to me in a lot of ways, and at the end of the night she made me take down her number. There was more to my behavior then that but the point was to show that you can show you like them and be fine. However if I was to walk up and say with zero confidence "I really like you", it would be like the guy who comes over and is just another guy saying your better then me(we say it out loud with our body language and women can smell it almost). A good example was back in the day when I was 18, I walked up to a girl and said "You are really gorgeous and I think that you are really beautiful, and I'd really like to take you to dinner." It was pathetic when you looked at my body language. I was super AFC. Now I could say something similar and still have the upper hand, because my confidence is high, and I just say things like that. A lot of how we perceive ourselves is readable from the outside(our body language) how we perceive ourselves is how others will perceive us. That is why confidence is so important, we show our value everywhere we go without speaking a word. Women excel at reading body language, so they see it. It's not what you say, it's how you say it more often then not. So keep that in mind as you walk up and tell a girl at school how much you like her. |
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| Author: | JJaySBK [ Sun Oct 16, 2011 7:26 pm ] |
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Haha, yes, you can get away with it, but like others have said, it's about how you say it. I had a first night lay just by taking a girls hand, telling her that I have an urgent message, then taking her into a secluded hallway and holding both her hands saying "I think you're just gorgeous" and went in for the kiss. She submitted, and I got layed before the party was half way through... She gave me some IOI's before hand, and I gave her some back.. we were at a casual friend party, and she was a friend of a friends. And don't say she must've been a slut, because she said it was her first time having sex without having a boyfriend (which says a lot in todays world). Noticed how I didn't say "I like you" but it shows the same thing. |
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| Author: | Aprovato [ Mon Oct 17, 2011 6:16 am ] |
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I personally wouldn't say "I like you" in this situation. I say, (after talking to her for at least a little bit or more, enough to form an impression of her) "I think you're pretty cool". But only if I actually DO think the chic is cool. And I figure out if the chic is cool by talking to her and taking her out somewhere (invite her to come to a ballgame with you, coffee, juicebar, whatever) You're still giving her an IOI (the words both convey an IOI), however refrasing it this way is more effective at conveying that she has earned your IOI and you are complimenting her on something other than looks. (in this case, her personality/your first impression of her) |
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| Author: | arishorts [ Mon Oct 17, 2011 9:14 am ] |
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Tell her, and expect what you think will happen. You will learn from it. You will grow stronger from it. That is what PUA is about. |
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| Author: | Stand Up [ Mon Oct 17, 2011 12:12 pm ] |
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yes |
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| Author: | KingBling [ Mon Oct 17, 2011 12:38 pm ] |
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I always tell them that there is something about them that makes me want to know you better. |
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| Author: | good101 [ Mon Oct 17, 2011 3:13 pm ] |
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Thanks guys, But if I say to her in scool then wouldnt it be a weird relation towards her if she rejects me or tells her friends? And for some reason i have this beliefs that it isnt "manly" to be open with your feelings?? |
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| Author: | Vanazzul [ Mon Oct 17, 2011 7:10 pm ] |
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It isn't manly if you go and say "Uh... Hi.... haha, hum yeah, so I wanted to tell you, hum... I like you..." with your shoulders bent-in like a computer programmer. It's all about the "aura" you display. If you want to tell her, stand up straight, speak loud, be confident and don't worry about others. I would just walk up to her, stand tall, smile confidently (like a smirk or something like that, not a I just got laid smile) and do something like this. Me: "Hey HB_Name" She turns around, acknowledge or respond, w/e, doesn't matter. Depending on her response, I would either grab her hand, put my hand on her shoulder, or neither of. (Now why do you like her? Is it because she is cute? Not a good reason. If that's the case, just replace "I like you" by "I think you're kinda cute" Me: "I like you." Pause "And I would like to get to know you" Pause "So how about we go for lunch/dinner/coffee/drink/justplainoldsex sometime?" Pause (gauge her non-verbal/verbal) "I gotta run for class, but give me your #, I'll text you later this week so we can meet up". # close, then proceed. If it fails, like she turns you down, just eject and answer with something polite while maintaining confidence/stature. "Ok, well I'll see you around then, have a nice day" and smile. |
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| Author: | arishorts [ Mon Oct 17, 2011 8:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should I say that I like her? |
Quote: Theres a girl in my scool that i like. Actually i dont care about a relationship, i just want to say i like her so i can get all my thoughts out of my head.
I'm going to reframe what i said earlier. Here's what you could do instead if you value your friendship. I'm not treating you as a child when i tell you this, only as someone who's been in the same situation, but NEVER feel forced to say anything EVER. Actions speak louder than words ten-fold, and show confidence (an attractive quality) U guys think I should say it? Cheers Optimally, You guys should be talking comfortably with just the two-of-you (if you're such good friends), in a closed setting (e.g her house, your house). Then, there will be a moment when you two will lock eyes right next to each other. IF IT FEELS RIGHT (and you will know if it does, this is the one thing i can promise you), lightly smile, pause, and slowly go in for a kiss. If she rejects you, you just brush it off and say, "i've wanted to try that for awhile." Be genuine. DONT REACT NEGATIVELY TO ANYTHING SHE SAYS. She'll say something like, "well, i only see you as a friend." Then, you say "ok," that's it, life goes on, change the subject. I suggest having one ready just in case, like a funny youtube video. Or say youre hungry, lets go get lunch, etc... On the other hand, telling her you like her risks a lot more... In short: -Making the move (Kissing her)= shows you're interested, not needy -Telling her you like her= shows you're needy P.S. I take it you two are friends. If not, that's the first step. Hope this helps P.P.S. This very same situation is what got me into PUA. We all start somewhere, with some rejection. |
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| Author: | haso50 [ Wed Oct 26, 2011 10:09 am ] |
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yes, u should say it....but it is the hard thing to do.... i've the same experience, I know it sucks to have a crush on someone, I know I have to tell the girl that im crazy on her... but still, im just too chicken to say it.... so for u, hope u have a better mental strength than I do... |
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| Author: | Lambert [ Thu Nov 24, 2011 11:51 am ] |
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NO. for god sakes no |
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