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Epiphany!! Recording it for my own memory, may help others.
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Author:  Slip n Slide [ Mon Oct 03, 2011 4:28 am ]
Post subject:  Epiphany!! Recording it for my own memory, may help others.
Hey guys!

So I'm having a really successful night of facebook chatting/texting old contacts (when I start to get on a roll with this, I like to continue, it seems to only get better) and I realized something that I think has the potential to really help my game, if I can remember it accurately. So I'm here recording it, to give myself a better shot.

In my openers, I've found the best things to say are exactly what you feel. It's stupid to think about the most clever thing to say, or how to get her to respond with a long answer, when instead you can explain your thoughts and motivations immediately. Here's some examples.

With one girl, we've been texting for a while, but haven't gotten a solid day 2. I've tried, but she flakes or makes excuses. I also text her occasionally with no response, and that's frustrating. Tonight, I contacted her with
"Hey you. It seems like we haven't really been meshing lately.
That makes me sad.
Maybe we'll be friends someday."
I got an immediate, positive response, and after a brief conversation, the situation has never looked brighter.

Another girl, I think is adorable. She's really positive, sweet to everyone, but in any contact we've had, she seems distant and hard to connect to. I'd really like to be closer with this girl, but it's hard to build momentum when her answers are so short. For her I said
"Hey gracie! I'm procrastinating right now, I really need to get back to work.
But I just wanted to say that you have a beautiful spirit."
She was happy, of course, and I had an easy way to pull out of the conversation before her responses grew stale, leaving her with "Gotta work, see you soon!"

In general tonight, I've found that if I can verbalize my feelings toward someone accurately, without blaming them or focusing on the negative parts of the interaction, they see the truth in what I'm saying and react positively. I hope this can stay with me, as a way to have powerfully positive and honest game.
Author:  khuram [ Mon Oct 03, 2011 8:15 am ]
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it's refreshing to see some one who isn't bullshitting. Nice post !
Author:  Slip n Slide [ Tue Oct 04, 2011 4:07 am ]
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it's refreshing to see some one who isn't bullshitting. Nice post !
Preciate it!

There's one girl that I took too long to get comfortable texting after meeting her, so we drifted apart a little too much to get the day 2 in. I texted her saying that I came to the realization that we aren't really friends (risky, but nothing to lose). She replied that yeah, she doesn't know me that well. I replied:
Slip: Exactly, I feel like we're going to just lose touch! It's too bad, you're probably worth knowing
HB: Haha well thanks. Maybe we can hang out sometime to prevent that

I couldn't come up with a good enough answer here, I decided to leave it hanging. I'll be going out of town for a week or I would have invited her out. Anyone have advice?
My current plan is to hit her with one "___ reminded me of you!" contact while I'm in Germany, then go for the meet up when I get home. I don't have many significant conversations with this girl under my belt, should I try to get some, or leave this "we might lose touch" idea going?
Author:  khuram [ Tue Oct 04, 2011 7:10 am ]
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whenever i say something, i think of myself that if i were in that situation, what would i have done? And then whatever comes to my mind, i post. And i always have a lot to post, infact i am getting notorious for having a lot to post. Isn't that great? :D
honestly here is what i would have done
i would have texted her exactly as you did
then
i would have kept texting (in my experience its the quickest way to get the addicted to your presence when you can't meet them. Use it with calibration)
next thing that i would have done is with my texts
1. I would have built attraction
2. I would have qualified
3. I have have sexualised the interaction.
4. I would have set a few frame (i have 14 frames that i set)
5. I would have connected with her emotionally
and my normal format of the text messages is
I KEEP JUMPING AROUND ATTRACTION, COMFORT, CONNECTION, QUALIFIERS, SEXUALIZING, AND COMPLIMENTS
with this girl, i would have emphasized the, "me , her and future" frame
before i get back home, i would have gotten her excited enough to meet me .
Then i would have set a "meet up" at a location close to my house. And during the meet up, i would have refreshed her attraction, comfort and connection. And before i get her to my house, i would have progressed to sexual kino, dirty talk and mixed all this up with other sexual arousal techniques and then a social excuse to get her home,"i gotto show you blah blah"
i hope you know whats next ;D
so that's what i would have done.
Author:  Slip n Slide [ Wed Oct 05, 2011 1:01 am ]
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Then i would have set a "meet up" at a location close to my house. And during the meet up, i would have refreshed her attraction, comfort and connection. And before i get her to my house, i would have progressed to sexual kino, dirty talk and mixed all this up with other sexual arousal techniques and then a social excuse to get her home,"i gotto show you blah blah"
i hope you know whats next ;D
so that's what i would have done.
Everything up til here was really good info, I appreciate the advice. As for the meet up, I knew one couldn't happen because I was leaving so soon, with things to do until I leave. How to approach that? I thought about writing a "well, I'm going out of town, but after!" sort of text, but it didn't feel right.
Author:  khuram [ Wed Oct 05, 2011 6:24 am ]
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if i could not meet up, then i would just not have mentioned "me leaving out of town" or any thing about the meet up.
I would simply kept texting without bringing out the topic of, "meet up" (till i am in a position to meet up)
and with the text messages your purpose should be to
show them how much fun it could be to be with you.
Build attraction and comfort
sexualize the interaction(if you can and like it, go for phone sex)
in my opinion the phone game is to,"build comfort, get them addicted to you and become a regular part of their life" so do it.
Author:  GetFamiliar [ Mon Oct 17, 2011 1:55 am ]
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Slip, I ,too, do much better when I'm being honest. Saying what I'm actually thinking is the only way that I can have confident body language and truly control a room.
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