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Author:  JamesTRN [ Sat Sep 24, 2011 2:52 pm ]
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So... Sexual Tension is that magically dynamic with a girl where you are both feeling very attracted to each other without explicitly stating it. Maintaining the sexual tension is what gets girls into bed within a few short hours of meeting them.

Tension is generated by repeatedly building up and releasing pressure. Releasing pressure is easy, just by talking we are releasing the pressure. Building it is an acquired skill and building it effectively will greatly improve your results.

The absolute easiest way to build pressure is by using silence effectively.

People don't really like silence and will try find a way to fill that void. That's why when at a meeting table if no one is speaking there'll be someone who will rustle their papers or clear their throat or even go so far as giggling. Silence builds tension and people naturally feel the need to break that silence to relieve the pressure.

By using a bit of silence to build the pressure and then releasing it by continuing to talk you will be effectively building tension. When this silence and tension is coupled with eye contact and you will be building sexual tension. This kind of sexual tension can be absolutely deadly.

Here are three easy and very effective examples of using silence with eye contact to build sexual tension during a conversation:

After she asks you a question: hold eye contact and count slowly to three before answering.

After she answers a question from you: hold eye contact and count to three before saying a word. This builds a little bit of pressure and also gives her a chance to say more, just in case she wasn't quite finished talking yet. Given a little bit of space, girls will talk all night. You just have to let them!

When she says something silly or that could be interpreted the wrong way: Give her a funny look, as if you're teasingly accusing her of being childish and count slowly to three before saying anything. She'll almost certainly interrupt this silence because the tension will be too great for her.

Not it's obviously something you don't want to over use... you still need to hold a conversation and being too strong with it can be too intense and too much pressure for girls to handle and you might find them looking for a way to escape to relieve the pressure!

Using silence effectively is a great exercise in being calm and in control of a conversation with a beautiful girl. You'll even find yourself in situations where the beautiful girl you are speaking to is more nervous than you... something every man needs to experience.

Let me know what you think!
Author:  Valdemar1 [ Mon Sep 26, 2011 8:48 pm ]
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Thank you so much if this works! :D seems like a really good idea to practice your sexual tension i will definitely try this out!! have you experienced good result using this?
Author:  JamesTRN [ Mon Sep 26, 2011 11:11 pm ]
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Absolutely dude. It's really easy and really effective. Once I started slowing down more and pausing more when I was talking to girls, I started to notice that they were getting more giggly and schoolgirly. And I find doing it is the best way to go from talking to kissing as well.
Author:  tenonine [ Thu Sep 29, 2011 11:34 pm ]
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I've been experimenting with these pregnant pauses for about a month, and I've gotta say, it's a total gamechanger. That being said, I think it's a much more sophisticated technique than the original post makes it seem.

To really pull this off, you have to be in a very confident state of mind, and displaying that confidence not just with your body language but with the expression on your face. You can't fake it. Because women are very adept at picking up on nonverbal insecurity, especially when you're silently staring at her. Without perfect confidence, you're liable to come off like a stalker.

Also, voice tonality is crucial for that moment when you do talk, because you've built such suspense. Speak from the back of your throat, so that it's deeper, and the sound carries farther without it looking like you've raised your voice. And speak slow.

Being comfortable with silence is the mark of a strong, secure man. In my case, I practiced with women I wasn't very attracted to. This sounds a bit silly, but I practiced smiling with my eyes -- that is, my mind was sending a "smile" signal, but it wasn't showing up at my mouth; only at my eyes. Still, women can totally pick up on this.

A three second silence with eye contact is overwhelming, I think, and too intense for an encounter with a stranger. All you need to do is hold eye contact for a split second longer than you usually do, and to speak a little bit deeper and slower than you usually do. So practice at the restaurant when placing your order, or at the grocery checkout line. Eye contact + pause + slow, deep voice. If you do it right, you'll see her blush, or smile in a surprised but genuine way. And if you keep talking to them, you'll notice that her eyes begin to get this faraway look: because she's imagining a makeout session.

It's pretty hilarious. Since doing this, I've had friends of girls I've met tell me that so-and-so has been asking about me, and I have to say, "I don't remember her at all." The girlfriend will say, "Really?? She said that you guys had this instant connection." Because that's really how it feels for them. I've become good at doing this with 9s and 10s, but I still give the eye & silence trick to the 6s and 7s, just because I think it's a nice way of giving them a little boost of confidence.
Author:  JamesTRN [ Fri Sep 30, 2011 6:42 pm ]
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I find for me, taking the pauses with eye contact makes me feel more relaxed and confident too. So I'm getting more relaxed and confident while making her more nervous and excited.

That's really cool about the instant connection thing too. A really nice thought.
Author:  Ebomb31 [ Sun Oct 02, 2011 6:10 am ]
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My girl does this and I've gotta say it's damned sexy flowing in either direction :D
Has a lot to do with mood and timing though. Tension magnifies a feeling hugely. That can work massively in your favor or against it, it's all a matter of feeling the flow
Author:  tenonine [ Tue Oct 04, 2011 11:16 pm ]
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My girl does this and I've gotta say it's damned sexy flowing in either direction

Has a lot to do with mood and timing though. Tension magnifies a feeling hugely. That can work massively in your favor or against it, it's all a matter of feeling the flow
Exactly. If you've been seeing a girl for a few weeks and you've already slept together, then you can stare into her eyes with an unambiguous expression of attraction. Being completely comfortable with silence while in your company, that's also a feeling she associates with being with a trusted boyfriend.

Now imagine if you can remind her of those feelings in a minute, as opposed to the weeks or months it may have taken for her to feel that with the last boyfriend. She's liable to conclude that the two of you have a powerful connection, like she's having one of those moments that only seem to happen in RomComs.
Author:  *FlaiR* [ Thu Oct 06, 2011 4:38 am ]
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This is great advice! I always knew pauses + eye contact = sexual tension.. but the thing with 3 sec I really like! I will try this out on my date this saturday! Thanks a lot!
Author:  deltakrisp [ Fri Oct 07, 2011 12:41 am ]
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dumb, if you pause 3 seconds before answering everything she'll think you might be retarded and can't think quickly with your mind.
Author:  JamesTRN [ Sat Oct 08, 2011 10:45 pm ]
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dumb, if you pause 3 seconds before answering everything she'll think you might be retarded and can't think quickly with your mind.
Maybe that's what the girls think when you do it. I know it works very well for most men.
Author:  Ebomb31 [ Sat Oct 08, 2011 10:57 pm ]
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Exactly. If you've been seeing a girl for a few weeks and you've already slept together, then you can stare into her eyes with an unambiguous expression of attraction. Being completely comfortable with silence while in your company, that's also a feeling she associates with being with a trusted boyfriend.

Now imagine if you can remind her of those feelings in a minute, as opposed to the weeks or months it may have taken for her to feel that with the last boyfriend. She's liable to conclude that the two of you have a powerful connection, like she's having one of those moments that only seem to happen in RomComs.
Haha man you don't know the half of it. When we started seeing each other, within the first couple of meetings we realized there was something intense and powerful. Not just dynamic sexual tension that was so strong it was magnetic. But something deeper too. So we busted out my trusty laptop and spent time together watching youtubevideos on Tantra and trying them together.

She sat on my lap, her legs wrapped around my waist and we breathed together, holding deep and powerful eye contact in silence. And tensed each individual muscle in our bodies and released the tension as we exhaled together. Then we alternated breathing so I was breathing in her out breath and vice versa while connected at the forehead. It made my body feel electric and alive and tingly.

Finally she massaged me first, then I massaged her and laid myself to rest on top of her while she was laying face down in relaxation. Our hearts were lined up and we breathed together for a while (5-10 minutes in stillness but it felt like eternity in the best possible way) until literally our heartbeats synced up.

This all happened with clothes on. We went out dancing with each other and for months afterwards could literally feel when the other person was in the room or not. I was sleeping with other women at the time and NOT this girl, and yet just being in the same room with her felt more intimate than actually having sex with others.

That is the power of proper eye contact and presence. Holy shit I got goosebumps just thinking about it
Author:  Kobe Bryant [ Sat Oct 08, 2011 11:42 pm ]
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I find for me, taking the pauses with eye contact makes me feel more relaxed and confident too. So I'm getting more relaxed and confident while making her more nervous and excited.

That's really cool about the instant connection thing too. A really nice thought.
Exactly! It's body over mind. So anytime you feel nervous, slow your roll.

I really like how you went in depth with this technique. I read 60YOC, but he never mentions anything about waiting 3 seconds after she responds to a question. Very nice my friend.
Author:  Velocity! [ Sun Oct 09, 2011 12:26 pm ]
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This is gold !

Will definetly try this out, even if it is just half as good as described it still remains amazing
Author:  tenonine [ Tue Oct 11, 2011 11:12 pm ]
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Got a new trick that's a variation of what we've discussed in this thread.

I was out on Sat night with a girl and was having trouble keeping eye contact -- she kept looking away as I was talking to her. As a result, we weren't generating sexual attraction.

So what I did was insert pauses in the middle of sentences, as opposed to at the end, which is the natural thing. If you pause in the middle, she looks into your eyes, compelled by an instinct to look for cues that will explain why you're departing from the usual customs of conversation.

Now this creates tension, but you have to make sure it's the right kind of tension, so it's imperative to have that playful twinkle in your eye that shows you're in control, you're comfortable.
Author:  'Ot' [ Thu Oct 13, 2011 11:23 am ]
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Good post, this!
I think what 'tenonine' stated in the previous post, pausing mid-sentence can work an absolute treat when you find the woman you're talking to is arguably struggling to retain eye contact.

I used to find it increasingly hard to create sexual tension with these sort of women, but by performing a mid-sentence pause makes it a certainty for her to again make eye contact, allowing you to progress with your game.

@ 'deltakrisp' ... I could honestly say that perhaps one in say two hundred women would ever even have that thought cross their mind. Maybe you're just find it hard to make the slow three count on top of thinking what to say as your answer? I honestly don't know, but I find this very useful.
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