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Author:  Shadow55 [ Sun Aug 21, 2011 2:42 pm ]
Post subject:  having problem in a normal conversation with anyone! HELP
Awkward situations like when you know you should say something in a conversation, but there is absolutely nothing in mind; leaving a long awkward silence. I'd been having this problem for the past few months. I would open a set, but then realize that i have nothing to say. As a result, i jump from one topic to the other, or i battle a long awkward silence until i hit the eject button. In short, I am having problem having a normal conversation with anyone! I thought that it was the lack of energy or motivation, but i get the feel that its more then that.
I know a sense of humor is hard to develop, but how can i keep a conversation engaging and interesting?
Author:  kenstheman01 [ Sun Aug 21, 2011 4:47 pm ]
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Women’s Top Ten Favorite Conversation Topics
1. Hopes and aspirations
2. Hobbies/interests in general
3. Music
4. Dreams
5. Romance
6. Friends
7. Travel
8. Vacations
9. Movies
10. Entertainment Women’s Top Ten Least Favorite Conversation Topics
1. Politics
2. Other dates
3. Past relationships
4. Science fiction
5. Religion
6. Celebrities
7. Science
8. Antiques
9. Money
10. History


Women’s Top Ten Date Picks
1. Restaurant
2. Taking a romantic walk
3. Park
4. Coffee shop
5. Live music
6. Comedy Club
7. Zoo
8. Bowling or Playing Pool
9. Amusement Park
10. Movies Top Ten Restaurant Types for a Date
1. Casual dinner
2. Pub
3. Retro bar with live music
4. French cuisine
5. Ethnic
6. Pizza place
7. Western
8. Salad bar
9. Sushi bar
10. Family dinner


Women’s Top Ten Favorite Ways to Have Someone Flirt with Them
1. Talks about things she likes or dislikes, making comments and showing interest
2. Displays concern for her, her feelings and well-being
3. Shares jokes or amusing anecdotes with her
4. Compliments her on her screen name, attitude, personality and appearance
5. Sends her special/cute email messages
6. Makes an effort to contact her in some form most every day
7. Chats with her when you are online at the same time
8. Discusses seriously the traits she desires in a partner
9. Shows her your daring or mischievous side
10. Emails her greeting cards, gifts, pictures songs or fun attachments
Author:  Kobe24fan [ Mon Aug 22, 2011 2:51 pm ]
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Women’s Top Ten Favorite Conversation Topics
1. Hopes and aspiration
2. Hobbies/interests in general
3. Music
4. Dreams
5. Romance
6. Friends
7. Travel
8. Vacations
9. Movies
10. Entertainment
Further to that if you find a girl giving brief answers and topics are dead ending, flip it back around on her and neg her about it "come on, you have to do better than that...!" "Is that all you have to say on that topic?" "You look the part but you don't say much ;)"

We all have anxieties and it's likely she's just as nervous, boring or socially awkward as you are. I've struggled with this a lot in the past but I came to the realisation, hey maybe it's not entirely my fault there are long pauses in conversation, it takes two to tango.

So long as you frame it so you're the dominant one in charge you can get away with saying very little, get her more comfortable sharing and probe deeper with your conversation and start developing rapport.

The more you go out and have experiences you will start to build up stories and become more natural telling them. A useful tip is to write out some interesting stories about you in advanced. You're not expected to memorise them word for word but just putting pen to paper will help you recall it on the fly when you need to later on. It's at this stage you can try and plan out which areas you can pause and emphasise. It should stop you from talking too fast if that's a problem for you (it is for me.)
Author:  Dr.Joyful [ Mon Aug 22, 2011 4:23 pm ]
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hey shadow i had the same problems as you about a few years ago. conversations with almost anyone was usually a painful expierence for me. even if i was talking about a topic i knew the other person was intrested i felt like i just couldn't keep up with the conversation and when it was my turn to talk i had nothing to say.
the reason for that was i sucked at carrying a conversation. the only way to get better is by talking to anyone and trying to keep the conversation going as long as you can. the best way to learn is by trying.
Now their are techniques and tips out there that can help you move foward and keep a conversation going. one technique i like to use is while the conversation is going on i try to think up in my head replies or questions based on what i hear. honestly this sounds so simple you would think it's bullshit. but i shit you not, this is probably the most important technique i used that helped me turn into a above average conversationalist. over time i was able to think of three diffrent ways to reply after one statement.
If you suck at conversations girls will pickup on it in a heartbeat. That is because most girls are great conversationalists. think about it when we were boys at school, during recess we would all play tag or do something physical, while the girls hung back talking. Guys went out and developed the physical skills and knowledge like hand eye coordination and so were better at that then women. while women on the other hand developed the conversation skills. thats why just 2 girls can go on talking for hours about anything.
Author:  SQDiablo [ Wed Aug 24, 2011 1:57 pm ]
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If you're talking to a girl about her likes/dislikes (for example), you've already done the hard work - getting her attention. Now it's about keeping the conversation exciting. A combination of pre-practiced routines (must be interesting stuff), negs (to keep her on her toes) and Kino (in search of IOIs) should keep her interested in talking to you. Listen well to what she's saying and see if you can turn some of it into a neg (but not an insult).

Learn some facts to throw into conversation. There's on on a post when the pua says:
"Did you know that 93% of women masturbate in the shower?",
she replies "No, really?",
"yes, the other 7% sing. Do you know what they sing?",
"no?"
"Well, That puts you in the 93% then"

Remember, rejection is all part of the learning process. We've all been there and learnt from our mistakes.
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