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| Author: | germanpoet [ Wed Jun 22, 2011 1:26 am ] |
| Post subject: | Got the woman interested in me, but then she... WUT? |
Hello! I have this really difficult problem with a girl, I hope you guys can help me with it. I met this really hot, dreamy like girl on a poetry workshop and she immediately showed interest in me, I think because I was the only guy and I do show a lot of confidence in social groups. On the weekend she chatted me up on facebook and proposed that we should meet to practice our poems together for the reading we were having tonight. The meeting went really good and we almost got this magic moment lying on the grass in front of her place, but I screwed it, because pulled back and told her I need to take some rest for the reading. Then on the reading, she was gorgeous and used to smile at me and kinoed me a bit and I was so totally mr. sociable. However, I did not seperate her, hoping for the end of the evening, when everybody would say goodbye... AND THEN? She took one of her girl friends with us!!! WTF? Chatting more to her than me. We ended up watching a movie us three and when I tried to do some kino, she giggled and pulled back. So thats how we parted: kiss on the cheek. Let down. What went wrong? What can I do to save the situation? |
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| Author: | TheFreshPrince [ Wed Jun 22, 2011 2:38 am ] |
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Well, first off, don't worry about her pulling back on the kino when she was with her friend. Especially if she was responsive the other times. She may just not want to appear to her friend to be going too easy. Second of all, don't be so quick to sell yourself short on her liking you only because you were the only guy in the group. And I wouldn't be discouraged by the kiss on the cheek when she had her friend there. That's still a (small) positive sign! Now, what you should have done when you were with her and her friend was show more interest in her friend, and jump into the conversation, speaking mainly with the friend. If she does this again (which she probably will) try that. Honestly, though, from your post, it seems all mostly positive. You just need to be more assertive, and jump in there a bit more, both with conversation and kino. Really focus on demonstrating that confidence you're talking about, and prove it to her both physically, and conversationally. |
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| Author: | germanpoet [ Sat Jun 25, 2011 10:42 am ] |
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Thank you for your late reply, FreshPrince! I see the reason for her pulling back, but why did she want to bring her friend? Did she? Do you think I had had any chance after saying good bye to her friend, if I went back to her door? Your tip is worth trying the next time. I think the problem was basically that they were talking about how hot they find their English teachers whom I do not know.. Do you have a tip for how to deal with a situation like this? Unfortunately she's moving from my city today, but the best thing about life is that it is foll of lessons! |
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| Author: | TheFreshPrince [ Thu Jun 30, 2011 5:49 am ] |
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Something that I think a lot of us forget (definitely including me!), is that these are girls tat we have just met. We may game so many girls and get k-closes and f-closes that signify closeness, that we forget about real trust, and that technically speaking, people shouldn't feel comfortable with one another after a 5 minute conversation. I think that her bringing her friend after having such limited contact with you is reasonable. She doesn't know what to expect. You could be some sort of serial killer for all she knows. So, while what she did is probably uncommon when gaming, if it happens, just go with it. You want to make the woman feel comfortable with you. As for going back afterwards, that just depends on her. I don't think you can tell whether that would have been the best decision you made tat night, or whether she would just think it was creepy. Who knows? Different women would go different ways with that one. In your case with her leaving soon, you will probably never see her again, so what I would have done (personal choice) would be to go for it anyways, and see what happens. If she blows you off/thinks you're creepy/etc. who cares? That memory by now would be behind you. But I don't think you did anything wrong the way you went either. As far as talking about teachers... I would pull some sort of joke (ie. pretending to be super-gay and talking about how "hot" one of your male teachers was (works even better if you're describing some 60 year old bald guy)), or else call them out on being "just like 16 year olds", and tell them how the girls in your high school were constantly doing the same, and they have clearly not grown up. Make sure this is done jokingly, not condescending in any way. And congratulations! You passed the real test, which is learning every time you do something -- regardless of whether it's done well or poorly. |
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| Author: | Themagicalone [ Thu Jun 30, 2011 4:03 pm ] |
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Quote: Well, first off, don't worry about her pulling back on the kino when she was with her friend. Especially if she was responsive the other times. She may just not want to appear to her friend to be going too easy.
Exactly
Second of all, don't be so quick to sell yourself short on her liking you only because you were the only guy in the group. And I wouldn't be discouraged by the kiss on the cheek when she had her friend there. That's still a (small) positive sign! Now, what you should have done when you were with her and her friend was show more interest in her friend, and jump into the conversation, speaking mainly with the friend. If she does this again (which she probably will) try that. Honestly, though, from your post, it seems all mostly positive. You just need to be more assertive, and jump in there a bit more, both with conversation and kino. Really focus on demonstrating that confidence you're talking about, and prove it to her both physically, and conversationally. |
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