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Author:  paolo1 [ Thu Jun 16, 2011 5:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Girl just told me "im to pushy and obnoxious, need to relax"
What do I do at this point? Is this pursuit dead?

I know I haven't given any backround info.... New to the board BTW. Thank you
Author:  TheZebra [ Thu Jun 16, 2011 6:00 pm ]
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Nice background info :lol:

From the sounds of it if she thinks you are being really pushy then you are obviously coming on too strong for her. You need to step it down a notch or two and try doing push / pull that way, and work your way up. Are you just pushing her by flirting non stop?
Are you negging her?

Could use more info on what you are doing

Cheers
Author:  paolo1 [ Thu Jun 16, 2011 7:37 pm ]
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Been talking to this girl for about 2 months now. Shes opened up to me tremendously after having a massive wall up. She grew up with no father around just her and mom and I think this is why shes the way she is as far as being closed with trust issues. Also she is a control freak and avoids confrontation at all costs. If I ask her a question shell respond with a question or avoid it at all costs.

Right now im trying to figure out where i stand with this girl. When I am around her she puts her hands on me, gets jealous of other woman talking to me and brings up other girls she knows I talk to.. When we talk on the phone she sounds shy or nervous. However she is master chess player when it comes to texting and is very confusing and difficult. I do compliment than neg her. Push / Pull.. I am brand new to this and unfortunately i went about this all the wrong way from what I am reading. I've asked her if she is interested in me and she avoids the question. Im not sure what to do here with this situation. I am thinking about walking away and using it as a learning experience of how not to do things haha.. But at the same time i feel like i've come pretty far. .. Very confused
Author:  paolo1 [ Thu Jun 16, 2011 7:44 pm ]
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Also she will never contact me first. I always contact her first.
Author:  fastj83 [ Thu Jun 16, 2011 8:35 pm ]
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Freeze out. Give her a week minimum of no contact what so ever. It sounds lame, but send a "mistake" text to her. Make it sound like you're going to see another girl or whatever and when she responds just say it was meant for someone else. Trust me, I did this once and it worked amazingly well. It sounds like you've given her too much value and you need to gain some back for her to be interested. Right now you're just a toy to her. Also, you've made yourself too available. She knows you'll contact her before she'll ever want to talk to you. It's not guaranteed to get her but it will give you a value spike and pique her interest. But like you said, what you're doing isn't working.

That's a start, but it will be no where near enough to get her or keep her. You are in the right place to learn how to so use your week of no contact to learn a few things.


And for future reference, NEVER ask a girl if they're interested in you. They will tell you with their body language. Words can lie, but the body always tells the truth.

Good luck and happy reading.

J

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Author:  paolo1 [ Thu Jun 16, 2011 8:52 pm ]
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Thank you. :]
Author:  Mr. E [ Wed Jun 22, 2011 4:12 pm ]
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Yea i def agree with Fastj86. You gave this girl way to much value. You said it pisses her off when you flirt with girls then do that. Shes testing the shit out of you right now trying to make you her little pawn. But then again the way you described her makes it sounds like she has no idea what she wants so like J said freeze her out. People never know what they have till its gone.
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