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| Author: | Reila [ Mon May 23, 2011 5:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Running out of things to say |
Hey guys, good news. I am able to finally overcome my approach anxiety. However my new problem is that I am running out of things to say to the girl after opening up on her. The girl usually show a slight sense of interest, but I think I've lingered too long or tries too hard to continue the conversation and DLV myself. Anyone know how I can spark up good conversation spontaneously? And what are some good questions to ask? PS i know there is a similar thread, however the suggested questions to ask posted in that thread doesnt seem to fitting to me. Thanks |
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| Author: | kinorc [ Mon May 23, 2011 6:36 pm ] |
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Hey what's good buddy? Glad to hear you are approaching more (although I don't know if I read any of your posts about aa). Anyways...good group questions after opening... How do you all know each other? (Play off that for a min) ie... her:we all go to college together? You: oo that's cool what college? Her:blah blah blah (the leader of them will speak up, if its not your target that's even better) you: oo that's cool, what are you all of you studying? her: blah blah blah (they may bethe same or different) you:(act interested, n maybe u r) describe their major in an exciting way. Ie "your into psychology, I think that's incredible. The mind is amazing n its cool you want to help people. This is also a good time to "I have an intuition about you blah blah blah" Her: omg blah blah blah You: get the group excited, then isolate the target after you have assimilated into the group. I like using the cube as a qualifier once isolated by saying you meet alot of girls n talk to them for 10 min n realized you should've stopped at 2, and you don't like to waste your time, so if I don't like you, I will leave and say nice to meet you. Do you still wanna take the personalitybtest? They always say yes. Basically, just ask questions that get them talking and play off of their responses. Once you have done it a fuckload of times, it will just be normal. The biggest thing tho, is confidently becoming part of their group. Once you open, if their is an open seat, sit down n lean back (power position). Don't ask to sit down, just do it n act like its normal. Do you know what I mean? If you act weird about anything, it will seem weird. If you act like everyting you are doing is normal, it will seem normal. Once you are in the group, TAKE CONTROL! Become the ring leader, isolate your target, and start the real game. Hope this helps buddy. Good luck, and happy hunting. |
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| Author: | Reila [ Mon May 23, 2011 7:24 pm ] |
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Quote: How do you all know each other? (Play off that for a min) ie... . I feel that questions about how they met each other and "you is your day" kind of question vague and dull at times (this might not be true). I feel that it is very hard for me to entertain people around me at times. I am a interesting person and i enjoy talking to people, but sometimes I lose control of the situation and i find myself at a lackluster of what to say next. |
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| Author: | NSM [ Mon May 23, 2011 7:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Running out of things to say |
Quote: Anyone know how I can spark up good conversation spontaneously? And what are some good questions to ask?
From the way you phrased this, I can tell that you don't want to use routines for some reason. What do you have against routines? having a good routine stack is one of the best and simplist ways to avoid those, "What do I say next?" moments.
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| Author: | Reila [ Mon May 23, 2011 8:20 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Running out of things to say |
Quote: Quote: Anyone know how I can spark up good conversation spontaneously? And what are some good questions to ask?
From the way you phrased this, I can tell that you don't want to use routines for some reason. What do you have against routines? having a good routine stack is one of the best and simplist ways to avoid those, "What do I say next?" moments.your partially right. I dont use routines because I feel that its not really myself and i feel that some routines are, in my opinion, overly used and somewhat obvious to girls especially if its an HB10 that get hit on often. However, there are routines which I do feel comfortable with which are somewhat more subtle. The ones I am comfortable with are more of the funny/cocky/interesting ones. I find it difficult to transition because I make it seem mechanical, even with routines such as "how did you all meet each other" it feels too mechanical. |
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| Author: | NSM [ Mon May 23, 2011 8:45 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Running out of things to say |
Quote: hey,
Thats a very common set of limiting beliefs you have about routines. Many guys feel that way at first about routines. And while there is nothing wrong with more natural game, it works best when you already are a good conversationalist, have confidence, and have had enough sexual experience to have a sexual edge about you. If you are not yet to this point, then I highly suggest giving routines a fair shot.your partially right. I dont use routines because I feel that its not really myself and i feel that some routines are, in my opinion, overly used and somewhat obvious to girls especially if its an HB10 that get hit on often. However, there are routines which I do feel comfortable with which are somewhat more subtle. The ones I am comfortable with are more of the funny/cocky/interesting ones. I find it difficult to transition because I make it seem mechanical, even with routines such as "how did you all meet each other" it feels too mechanical. You will be uncomfortable with them at first and they will feel unnatural because your just not used to them and they are outside of your comfort zone. Develope a routine stack that includes an opener, DHV, qualification, comfort building, kino escilation, kiss closing, and number closing Pick routines you like the best and practice them untill you are comfortable with them. Think about how best to smoothly transition, maybe post your routine stack and ask for advice on transitions. And don't freaking worry about getting called out. The odds of that happening are so rare. And if you do get called out, if you stay cool and roll foreward, it won't matter. The more you use your stack, the more natural it will become, the better you'll get at delivering it, and the more consistent your results will be. |
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| Author: | vrblasasn [ Tue May 24, 2011 2:02 am ] |
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okay i'm in no way a expert,(and this may sound stupid) go in with a goal in mind, and don't make the goal not to run out of things to talk about! going in with the goal of keeping the conversation interesting, and it'll just happen naturally. talk about her earing, comment on her shoes. women spend a lot of time on their physical appearance, take that and apply your cocky funny to it! i hope that helps! |
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| Author: | axtion [ Tue May 24, 2011 2:10 am ] |
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Great stuff man you got over AA. The game is a process, learn each step one at a time... 3 things to talk about, -things you find interesting that you heard about the past day/week - apocalypse -things you might not think she would want to talk about/what ever is on your mind - that shirt your wear is nice, is it your sisters? my brother always is stealing my clothes... -learn some games, I've heard mystery and style both say, what ever was funny in 2nd grade is funny at a bar - PEN 15 Club |
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