Quote: This girl I'm seeing is always banging on about she hates living at home and wants to find a place but can't afford. She knows I'm at home aswell and I'm 27 but I also can't afford. One week she was kicked out and complained about how she had nowhere to go and it was easier when she had a boyfriend. Then I didn't hear from her for a week.
I felt she expected me to invite her over but the thing is if she lived hear with my mum things wouldn't be any better. I would of suggested just to keep things smooth but her phone always cuts out.
Last night she was moaning to me about not being able to find a place and how when she was with her ex it was easier even though he was a douche but it was alright because his family didn't mind and now if she mentions to him she wants to stay somewhere he laughs.
I just said to her I didn't know what to say and told her she has to start small and work her way up instead of expecting the huge house. I wasn't sure what to say when she said it before but now she LJBF me a few weeks ago I just told her I didn't know what to say. Shit test from her do you think?
I wouldn't mind her staying for a few days but living at my mums house isn't really practical. Is she just testing or what? I like her alot but she doesn't seem ready to date me and just goes out with friends and gets drunk. We work together so we get to chill on the train or she gives me a lift in her car.
No, you handled this well. You shouldn't feel obligated to take anyone in, especially if you're not comfortable with the idea. The fact she wasn't asking either, I wouldn't look too far into it. Now the fact that she was bringing up her ex: I would have said "listen, I know you want a place to live, but don't keep venting it to me, especially about your ex-boyfriend." If you two really are seeing each other, she'll get it. It's not your job to play therapist, and if it were the other way around, she'd treat you the same way.
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