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Author:  prepwanab [ Mon Apr 04, 2011 1:52 pm ]
Post subject:  How to get a day 1 w/ this chick? (first date)
Small story, I met her while I was out during the job, apparently she does full-time work/full-time school. We've been texting back and forth and a couple of calls here and there for about 2 weeks now. Apparently she's been really busy.

We were supposed to hang out last night and she bailed on me only saying "Im so sick". She texts me in the morning. So my first text back is 5 hrs later in the afternoon. Here is our short convo yesterday:

Her: "Heyy"

Me: Hey whats up? How have you been feeling??

Her: "Hey! Im so sorry about last night. I was insanely drunk...and blacked out! It was awful and I threw up all night...my parents had to pick me up, lol. Sorry I didnt even get to meet up with you!

Me: It seems like we never have luck hanging out..

Her: dont say that. when schools over ill have a lot more free time! its just hard to right now! dont be mad..

Me: danng you must've had a good time out yesterday

Her: "I didnt..i think i was extremely dehydrated. my mom thought i had alcohol poisoning. i shouldve met up with you! You mightve kept me in line!

Me: so sorry..well we're 0 for 3 right now hanging out..just like joey shooting last night lol "reference to final four game"

Her: hahah ouch. im gonna tell joey you said that!

Me: lol well im not hatin...just bummed over you and our school losing

her: haha. im kidding, idk joey, lol. and me too, im sorry we WILL hang...its just hard to with school and work!

me: no big deal...but if you can pencil me in that'd be great

Her: i will i will. we'll have to eat at mexico soon!


So now I'm planning not to text her back for another couple days. And I was planning on saying what I said in the first post, referencing to her being drunk. What should I do with this chick from here and what should I text back?
Author:  SkyGroove [ Mon Apr 04, 2011 8:07 pm ]
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Never ever talk to her about how you guys don't go out, how she bails on you, all that shit has to fade away.

this girl might really be interested in you, and she seems fun as well,

you need to show her some value you know, telling her "oh, we never go out" it's not really gonna make her want to go out with ya you know

for example, when she said "i shouldve met up with you! You mightve kept me in line!" you should've replied with something along the lines of "Idk.. i don't think you would be able to bear with my awsomeness either you know... you wouldn't throw up all night, that's for sure... but... hahaha"

make her want to be with you by being interesting and careless and fun, this girl seems to really be interested in you
Author:  prepwanab [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 4:28 am ]
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Thanks sky...I know this is bad but I texted her back today, but it turned out for the better! I didn't ask about hanging out and we talked for awhile! I'll bring up the convo soon but thanks for the help
Author:  SkyGroove [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 10:00 am ]
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alright, good to know

cheers
Author:  prepwanab [ Mon Apr 11, 2011 1:39 pm ]
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Hey guys, just wanted to give you a quick update. She's been busy with school and all that I know of her schedule is that most of her work is due by wed. I've been busy this past week and my schedule has opened up to be available this weekend.

This past week I invited her out to one of our games, she came and went with one her friends. We've been back and forth texting everyday since I saw her when I invited her. Apparently she won a prize at one of our games and here are a couple of excerpts from our text convo's

:Sent her a pic of her prize:

me: what's that you say? your taking me on a date to _____?!? aww...how thoughtful of you ;)

:she sends me a pic of her and a thumbs up:

her: haha thumbs up! and yes we can use that gift card together! joint effort in getting it ;)

then we go on about how she gets off work earlier then me...

me: its ok, your pic should hold me off for awhile haha : )
her: haha...that sounds kinky, haha
me: it can go both ways haha

so the next day comes and shes at work and im at work as well..

me: well text me when your bored, i gotta be running around the game

her: :sends me a pic of her outfit:

me: im digging that smile : )

her: thank you, hehe : )

me: :send her a pic of our game:

her: blehh, jealous!

So there's been a lot of flirting and it was her idea to send me a pic of her twice while she was at work back to back days. I'm getting good vibes so far and since she's busy with school we haven't been able to hang out. Should I bring it up again this week if she's available to hang out? Like sky said in his earlier post I don't want to keep asking her out, or should I wait for her to bring it up?

Also, I haven't responded back to her text since yesterday afternoon, I didn't want to bother her while she was doing her work and I didn't want to seem too available. Should I say something to her today or should I still wait? Thanks guys!
Author:  prepwanab [ Tue Apr 12, 2011 4:31 pm ]
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Ok so here is another update,

I left her a vm saying I hope she finishes her work before wed. and that my schedule has opened up because we don't have any games for the week, and asked if she was available within the next week to hang out. She responds to my vm with a text laughing at one of my comments in the vm and that she has a test coming up and that she has a class until 9:40 and that she will call/text me after.

Around 8:30 I get a call and vm b/c I was busy at work, she left me a vm saying that her teacher let her early and that she has a lot of work to do before wed. She said we we might not be able to hang out for another 2 weeks or until school is over b/c she has limited free time bc of school and she might have to be at her job this weekend but she says we'll definitely hang out. She concludes the vm saying that sorry her vm is long and that she will talk to me later.

Around 9:30 I call her back and she didn't answer, I left a vm and a txt and she hasn't responded since. I said in my vm that I hope she finishes her work and that I'd thought I'd ask since my schedule opened up but I completely understand that she is busy, I told her to call or text me back when she can and said bye.

Alright guys what should I do next? I know she's not lying about her work and school, she's been playing that card ever since I met her and I believe her. But is it that hard not to get together with me so we can go on a date?
Author:  prepwanab [ Tue Apr 12, 2011 8:42 pm ]
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**Update

She texts me around noon saying,

her: just passed ____(place I work) :) and thought of you, have a good day!

me: thanks for thinking about me : ) have great day too !

Do you think she's genuinely interested and she's just busy? I want to lower texting because the last few days we've texted a lot and we have yet to go out together. I don't know what to think please help me lead me to some conclusions. What should I do next, wait for her to text back again or text her within the next day or so?
Author:  J_Rye [ Tue Apr 12, 2011 11:35 pm ]
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I'm actually going through a very similar situation with a college girl. She's busy with school 5-6 days a week. We had plans one night, but she didn't pick up when I called her. ONCE. I punished her by not making any contact with her for two days because she needed to be more interested in me than I am her. Then i get a txt from her and suddenly she was all flirty again.

My advice to you: Make plans doing something she rarely gets the opportunity to do.

To find out when she is free, think about what day of the week you met her and try to shoot for around that day/time. chances are that she has a regular schedule b/c school.

Here's what I did:
Me: Nobody studies on fridays, unless you're the only one?
her: lol no actually im completely free on friday!
Me: We're taking the boat out that afternoon. Come bring a friend :)
her: I don't get out of class until 2:30, that okay? :/
Me: Perfect. We weren't planning on leaving until 2-3ish
her: :) okay, ill txt you when I get out of class friday!

In and out. Do what you need to do and cut the crap. no fluff. fluff is to fill voids in convo's not to try to get her to come out w/you.

I'll keep an eye out for ya bro.
Author:  prepwanab [ Thu Apr 14, 2011 12:57 pm ]
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Thanks J_Rye, it seems that I got her able to hang w/ me on her busy schedule, I just dont know if I should take it...here is an updated convo from last night, she initiated the convo btw..

her:Hiii!
me:hi there cutiee : ) ..nice hearin from ya
her: you too! sorry, i've been busy! when do you have off until?
me:sry to cut it short, i'll call/text u after...at the gym : )
her: its okk..text me lata!
me:heyy
me:sucks we keep catching each other at the wrong times lol
her:hey! i know
me:hows your schoolwork coming along? if you didn't ..well..uhh..you shouldve haha ;)
her:hahaha. yes dad, i did and im so happy its over! how was the gym?
me:just trying to keep you in check lol..good 2 be back its been soo busy haven't been in a week!
me: glad you finished :)
her:thanks!
her:and i know, when do you have off until?
me:well i still have work, but i dont have another game until thurs.
me: y?
me: what's your schedule lookin like?

like about an hr later no response

me:danng girl you must have a big ass planner haha..
her:haha sorry...
her:i wanted to know if maybe you wanna do lunch wed?
me:that should work..i think you bein busy is an understatement lol
me:i did forget tho that finals are comin up soon
me:we'll still have to play it by ear tho, wed is a long way away ha


She hasn't texted me back since. So what should I make of this? I wanted a real date but it seems she only has time to do lunch next wed. Should I take it? Or take my chances on waiting for her to be available so I can take her on a real date? Again, she initiated the convo so it seems like she's interested, but what all can I make an impression in an hr? Let me know what I should do..
Author:  J_Rye [ Thu Apr 14, 2011 7:20 pm ]
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Everything in bold that you said, I thought was done well. It shows you're interested but you still have better things to do. Since Wed is almost a week away, you should just give it time. Seth rogan put it well: "You planted the seed, and when the seed grows into a plant, you FUCK the plant." lol Once in awhile you water it, but not too much and by the time it comes around you got it. I'd only do this if I actually liked the girl.

Lunch is kind of a friend-ish thing if you ask me. No girl is really THAT busy, shes probably starting to forget what is was to be around you and could be a little reserved to go out with someone she barely knows.

My advice:
Preferrably wait and let her contact you. Make her laugh. Don't talk about hanging out. This is to show that you're interested in talking to her and not just hanging out with her. Leave the convo so that she's the one on the cliffhanger waiting on you.

Pick up the same routine one last time a couple days before you have lunch to get her excited to see you on Wed.

Note: if its a phone convo, tell her from the get go that you're about to meet up with some friends so you can't talk long. Get it done and get off that phone. This proves to her you've been truthful about being busy and gives her only one option: to actually see you in order to get the chance to talk to you.
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Thanks J_Rye, it seems that I got her able to hang w/ me on her busy schedule, I just dont know if I should take it...here is an updated convo from last night, she initiated the convo btw..

her:Hiii!
me:hi there cutiee : ) ..nice hearin from ya
her: you too! sorry, i've been busy! when do you have off until?
me:sry to cut it short, i'll call/text u after...at the gym : )
her: its okk..text me lata!
me:heyy
me:sucks we keep catching each other at the wrong times lol
her:hey! i know
me:hows your schoolwork coming along? if you didn't ..well..uhh..you shouldve haha ;)
her:hahaha. yes dad, i did and im so happy its over! how was the gym?
me:just trying to keep you in check lol..good 2 be back its been soo busy haven't been in a week!
me: glad you finished :)
her:thanks!
her:and i know, when do you have off until?
me:well i still have work, but i dont have another game until thurs.
me: y?
me: what's your schedule lookin like?

like about an hr later no response

me:danng girl you must have a big ass planner haha..
her:haha sorry...
her:i wanted to know if maybe you wanna do lunch wed?
me:that should work..i think you bein busy is an understatement lol
me:i did forget tho that finals are comin up soon
me:we'll still have to play it by ear tho, wed is a long way away ha


She hasn't texted me back since. So what should I make of this? I wanted a real date but it seems she only has time to do lunch next wed. Should I take it? Or take my chances on waiting for her to be available so I can take her on a real date? Again, she initiated the convo so it seems like she's interested, but what all can I make an impression in an hr? Let me know what I should do..
Author:  prepwanab [ Thu Apr 14, 2011 8:23 pm ]
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thanks j_rye for your input, as far as lunch, that is my only concern...I def don't want lunch to turn into a friend zone type of thing..is there any way to turn it around so it feels more like a date? maybe do a picnic or something and get her a small gift i dunno, I def am interested in her tho....I haven't thought about where we're goin yet bc i won't ask about it until sun/mon to make sure we're still on...but yeah lunch is my only concern thus far, at least its better than nothing bc I've only seen her twice in the past like 3 weeks due to our busy schedules and by seeing her twice i mean the first time i literally just met her and the other time i invited her to a game...but I would love more inputs guys!
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