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Author:  zookmaster [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 8:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Should I ask her out in this situation?
We work together and had a date a month ago I've tried meeting with her but she flaked four times but tells me how much she likes me and feels we have a connection. I was sending her flirting txts alot and have gotten away with alot of sexual txts and she loves them. She was calling everyday up intil about Sunday morning and then went all quiet.

I tried contacting her all Mon/Tues and couldn't get through and then got a call from her Tuesday night. She told me all this crap about her getting pissed off with her mum so her mum kicked her out.

I asked her what she had been doing because I tried contacting her and said I was worried about her and I also asked if she had thought of me but she said she was just so stressed at the moment and got sick of her phone messing up.

She said she can't believe it's been nearly a month since we saw eachother. I didn't bother saying anything because I always tell her when I'm free and try to do something.

She was drunk and ranting and whatever I said didn't seem to make any difference. She was hinting I think about staying at mine because she doesn't really have anywhere to go when her mum is going crazy(weird I can't even get her on a date) or maybe it was a **** test.

She said how she was driving to her sisters and she doesn't like it there because of her sisters boyfriend and she said that things were easier when she was with her boyfriend(one minute I am bf then I'm phonebuddy) and mentioned for like the 50th time her ex and how once he even said she could chill with him but she declined.

Then she mentioned how some other guy asked her aswell, anyway she was upset about money problems and all this and was moaning to me ALOT and even said "if we worked hard for 2 years we still wouldn't have enough"

I thought I should of asked her to stay with me but she told me she was going to her sisters and she was drunk and so was I so I never really got around to it but also I couldn't even get a word in anyway. So the phone cuts off for the 50th time and I try to ring back and it rings and then goes off as if she turned it off. I thought wtf but later on gave her a little txt just saying "hope you're more relaxed"

I tried phoning today and she never answered which isn't unusual but I'm thinking of txting her letting her know I'm free tommorow and wondering what she is doing. Should I? If I don't even mention it another week will have passed.
Author:  Don Suave [ Fri Mar 25, 2011 1:01 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Should I ask her out in this situation?
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We work together and had a date a month ago I've tried meeting with her but she flaked four times
I stopped reading here.
I only let a girl flake me once, and then she's out.
4 times...
You need to boost your self-confidence my friend.
Somebody who flakes you 4 times is not taking you seriously whatever her reasons might be...whether they are justified or not, you are definetly not one of her priorities!

Try to see it this way. If a homeless guy comes and ask you for change and you tell him no once, will you give him the change after he asks you the 4th time?

And if you did would it be out of sincerity or because you pity the guy?
Forget about this girl, move on.
Author:  zookmaster [ Fri Mar 25, 2011 1:29 am ]
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I know what you are saying but we really clicked and this week she just went cold. She called me sunday and we had a alright conversation and if we wanted to could of spoke for two hours.
Author:  Johnyhex [ Fri Mar 25, 2011 2:21 am ]
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First, let me tell you something if that girl flaked on your 4 times and sorry to tell you this but she does not have any respect for you. She was calling you everyday ? seriously why are you answering ? The ball was on your side and you HAD THE CONTROL OF THE SITUATION. Don't call/text a woman unless you have something interesting to propose her or otherwise you will end up in the friend zone. This is actually what happened to you, it kills attraction when you are eating in the palm of her hand. She knows that whenever she have a problem to call "the guy" (you) who is always available. Obviously you are an option for her so tell me why should she BE A PRIORITY FOR YOU? You are busy and have a lot of thing to do. If she spends time with you it's because she deserves it. Be a man and open your eyes, stop answering her calls and stop calling her all the time. I don't care if you guys had a alright conversation you know why? because that's what FRIENDS DO. HAVE ALRIGHT CONVERSATION. Now it's up to you to see if she worth your time or not.

Johnyhex
Author:  zookmaster [ Fri Mar 25, 2011 4:34 am ]
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I know what you mean she will drop hints of friendship on one hand and then on the other its talking about us doing things together in the summer etc.

She even mentioned last week about some guy phoning because her friends gave her number to him. I said "That don't sit well with me" and she was like "I'm single and like to keep my options open and am not looking to rush into anything. I know that I have a connection we you though."

She's been talking to me abouts kids and stuff and asking me when I would get married etc and our sexual escalation as gone through the roof in the txts and the phone it's awesome and I miss it. :?

One thing, this might of annoyed her tell me what you think, last week my douche sister and boyfriend pissed me off by questioning me. I mentioned to the girl what it was about and they were asking me about my woman and comparing themselves and I said it wasn't a competition.

The girl was like "I don't think they meant it that way" I was like "Oh just there faces you could see" andshe sighed deeply and she was like "thats sisters for you" and she could tell I was annoyed at them and asked me "if they had seen her pics" I said they did and thought you are pretty.

She called back a bit after and we had about three LOL moments and then her phonecut off as usual. Afterwards I thought she would of lost attraction because I was really negative in the conversation trashing alot of people but then I thought why would she laugh after being pissed off.

Then I got the whole dilema two days later when I asked if she was ok and that I was worried about her (bit needy) of her being kicked out and she said that she couldn't be bothered with her phone.
Author:  HighTide [ Sun Mar 27, 2011 3:08 am ]
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Zooh you're upsetting me man. Drop this chick youre being super needy. As the other poster said if you're an *option* why would she need to make you a *priority*. I'm not trynna tear you down or anything but you ain't going nowhere with youre relationship with her.

But you're too in to her to realize that you're being played
Author:  Boosted Jay [ Sun Mar 27, 2011 3:53 am ]
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Zooh you're upsetting me man.
Ditto. This is definitely you being in the friend zone. I straight up and respectfully tell girls that i'm not a psychologist and that I have my own problems and don't need to hear anybody else's.

Shes already made her decision about you and she see's you as safe. She knows that your there if everything goes to shit but your clearly not a priority in her eyes.

Trust when I say that you will build a strong connection with someone else if you put yourself out there bro.
Author:  Feller [ Sun Mar 27, 2011 9:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Oneitis
Oneitis. Be pissed about the four flakes (GOD DAMN), so let her go, and unless she comes crawling to you, leave it alone.
Author:  zookmaster [ Wed Mar 30, 2011 8:10 am ]
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After 8 days of no speaking and 2 days of me not bothering I just recieved a txt for her with about 20 kisses. WTF
Author:  Spaceballs [ Sun Jul 10, 2011 5:11 am ]
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IMHO
LOL... 20 kisses is too much...you are not a bunny nor a baby...

imo... you are at the end of the line... like the other said... f*ck it....
treat her like she was just a annoying & boring puppy... with respect of course...

UNTIL you sleep with at least 2-3 women... why 2 or 3? because only after that you'll be a bit of man... and she'll come to you... as if you are a man and not a friend.

good luck!
Author:  Slip n Slide [ Tue Jul 12, 2011 7:56 am ]
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I haven't read any other posts, this is my opinion straight on. Who cares about this girl? She sounds like tons of trouble, if she isn't forthcoming about contact, stop talking to her, don't wait around to hear all her problems. Lay off the attention and sarge elsewhere.
Author:  Slip n Slide [ Tue Jul 12, 2011 8:03 am ]
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Read everything. I'm sorry man, but you should get out and explore your surroundings a little more, really see what there is to offer, then if you choose to allow this girl back into your life (give it TONS of time) you'll have a better sense of what you need to do to woo her. I have a feeling there's much better left to be found though.
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