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Author:  GWhizz [ Sat Mar 12, 2011 12:35 pm ]
Post subject:  EX HARD TO GET?
well, ive had a girlfriend for a year and a half. I was the most AFC known to mankind, so eventually she broke up with me (also because of a lot of fighting)
I did a lot of research about PUA, inner game en how to handle chicks, so i think i'm ready to make it really work.

Now, like 5 months later, i texted her to come get something useless, and she agreed. She came over and was all happy and stuff, so i think i tried to look a bit too cool. I said i had to go to the gym so she left. She didn;t even took her useless thing.
The second time i went over to her place to deliver the useless thing, and he was happy again, and i thought i recognized a loving look. But i didn't want to seem so easy to get, so i left fast again. Thing was delivered this time.

Then i thought well, if youre so happy, you probably want me, so i wanted to deliver my last useless thing. I called her and she reacted like i dont care, so i texted her: why so weird? she responded with blabla you still havent changed.
I thought I HAVE CHANGED, so the third time i went over to her place again her stepfather was around. A nice guy, and didn't interfere with us, but stayed in the same room. I asked her if she wanted to talk or something, and pointed to her room upstairs. She just said if you want to talk we can talk here. I said well okay never mind and left. Outside in the car i texted her:" i thought the thing didnt really matter and you wanted to talk. Guess i was wrong."
And then i kept thinking and thinking and got no response so 10 minutes later i texted again: well too bad, i thought you and me could get along really good these days. And got no response.

So now i really dunno what to do, the first times she was really happy, but then she suddenly changed. Should i still go after her of just say FUCK IT?

Thats a load of my chest :)
greetings Whizz
Author:  Rethnu [ Sat Mar 12, 2011 7:20 pm ]
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Well, the inner core of PUA is self confidence, and to gain self confidence you'd have to improve yourself and your live completely, that can't be done in 6 months.

And, PUA isn't a way to get a certain girl.
Because once you understood PUA entirely you truly wouldn't mind anymore about THAT certain girl, and THAT again would be the moment when you'd be truly ready to get her.

My tip, learn, practice and understand PUA for your own benefit, and not to get a certain girl...
Author:  Mr. Steal Yo Gurl [ Sat Mar 12, 2011 7:38 pm ]
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Welcome to the forums!
Author:  GWhizz [ Sun Mar 13, 2011 10:47 am ]
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I know that it i maybe have a little one-itis, but that's more because her eyes sparkled when she saw me again. I was sort of completely over her.
What i was thinking is that she is playing a sort of push-pull, this girl is extremely clever. The problem now is, should i try to gain her attention again, or because i sent a pull-text message, should i let her go? Because i know it's the best for her to chase me, but it's just impossible because she broke up with me xD... ive changed alot and know we can have a healthy relationship now.

There must be something you guys know that could help me?
Author:  HunterH [ Sun Mar 13, 2011 12:06 pm ]
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I think texting her twice in a row was a mistake bro, comes across as needy.
Author:  GWhizz [ Sun Mar 13, 2011 6:22 pm ]
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yeah i know.. guess i was caught up by my emotions.

There are times where you think yourself, why can't i just say what i feel for her. At that moment, you need to slap yourself and come out of the pwussy mode.

Her breaking up with me has lead to her rejecting me again and again. Then i studied PUA, and saw what ive done wrong in my relationship. The bad part is that she doesn't know that ive changed, so how can i show it to her? Another side of the story could be that a real man must not change for a woman, although i 'mistreated' her.

I know that when a woman keeps rejecting you that she's clearly not interested in you, but you guys are PUA's, the pro's, so there's gotta be something (magic?) that can give me the power in this whole situation back?
Author:  blessy [ Thu Mar 17, 2011 6:32 am ]
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i think you should give her a break,funny thing is were going through a similar situation,accept i haven't got rejected,but i believe instead of going to her house,you should've made an arrangment to hang out,also could be since she was giving you loving looks,she was probably dissapointed that you didn't make a move,give it time,like month then show her how you've changed,of course in that time study and practice your pua,but who know's,by then you may not even bother with her :)
Author:  ZannyUK [ Fri Mar 18, 2011 3:31 pm ]
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I agree with Blessy,

Do a freeze out on her. To be honest, when you sent two texts in a row, you just proved that fundamentally you haven't changed (you came across as waaaay too needy). That's not a judgement, just an observation.

She is your one-itis as you said and you really do need to move on. Get out sarging and you'll feel a whole lot better - trust me on this!

As Mystery said "It's easier to get a new woman, than repair a broken relationship"

Zan
Author:  GWhizz [ Sat Mar 19, 2011 11:53 am ]
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But this one-itis is my ex. We had sex and although I wasn't a sexbomb, I think it or I means something to her as it was her first time. And those feelings can't just go away like that.

Oh, it was her birthday yesterday so I texted her a little tease about her birthday and got no response. I just don't get it, last year I first-timed her at her birthday, and this year she doesn't even respond to my text lol.

But my sarging really sucks, I guess I was too much into her instead of other girls.

In clubs I always dance around looking for chicks. And another fun fact: I never got rejected in my life, because I have never tried anything. Sometimes they start grinding me, so I'm like okay... But I never have the balls to make more of it, during the grind i just walk away to a buddy and start dancing again.

And today, I'm going to the boulevard/beach where there will be tons of chicks, but I have absolutely NO idea how to make a conversation and keep it one. My friends are also really unsocial, they just want to chill or only look at chicks, but they never make a move.

Since the break up affected me in a great way, the only cure for it is to find another girl. I believe I'm at least a 7.5 so I won't repel chicks, but in the effort scale I might be a 0.5... Which makes it an average of 4.0 according to GunWitch(?)'s theory.

Lol, as I was saying all of this I still kept thinking about my ex. I just KNOW that there is a way to get her, but maybe I first have to bang ten other bitches.

Are there ways to get that done quickly?
Author:  Coldman [ Sat Mar 19, 2011 2:27 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: EX HARD TO GET?
Quote:
I did a lot of research about PUA, inner game en how to handle chicks, so i think i'm ready to make it really work.

i texted her: why so weird? she responded with blabla you still havent changed.
I thought I HAVE CHANGED
Sometimes changes on the inside won't affect the actions you take (and how others perceive you), just because she hasn't seen that you've changed, doesn't mean you haven't. Don't let this fool you.

Whether I feel shit, or whether I feel amazing I still do the same actions (give or take).
Author:  ZannyUK [ Sat Mar 19, 2011 10:28 pm ]
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Hmm... You really sound into this girl. Until you can get over that fact, you're not going to have the right mindset for this stuff.

And I'm not loving the way you're referring to women as "bitches", when you talk about shagging 10 other women.

I'm pretty certain that she's not crying over splitting up from you - women don't do that as much as you may think.. because usually, they have alot more options than men.

If you're not good at sarging.. just read up some stuff like MM just to get some theory, then start simple to get over your stumbling blocks. You don't have to rush it! It's your own journey... enjoy it!

Zan
Author:  GWhizz [ Sun Mar 20, 2011 11:55 am ]
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well as we speak im talking to her online.

I just cant PU her, it's like everything depends on it, there's so much pressure. My hands are even shaking xD I hate myself.

Okay still talking and still wanting to suicide.

OMFG!!!xDDD
Author:  ZannyUK [ Sun Mar 20, 2011 12:04 pm ]
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You're putting too much pressure on yourself... you need to chill out! All of this will come across to her in the things you say, the way you say it etc.

I'm guessing you're quite young. Give it a few years and you'll start to learn stuff about this. The less you care, the better you get.. but this doesn't usually happen over night! It takes experience and practice.
Author:  GWhizz [ Sun Mar 20, 2011 12:21 pm ]
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Yeah i know...

I just don't know how to create the connection. I want a sexual vibe between us, but through online chatting it isn't gonna work i guess.

There is no other way i can initiate contact with her so this is like a final chance...

Just hate it.

edit; OMFG shes now showing me all these photos from our past and laughing the whole time blabla online shiit man

re-edit: OMFG it says let's remove the space between me and you, in her comment thing...

I dont know if its too soon so ask her out again, because that's another pull, which will result in a push from her side. But on the other hand, without pulls you can't ever get together...
What to do man...?
Author:  ZannyUK [ Sun Mar 20, 2011 10:41 pm ]
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I know that you really want her.. but from what you're saying, I'm not getting that vibe from her.

You've made it perfectly clear to her that you like her ALOT (too much!) You don't need to "ask her out".

Really dude.. you need to freeze her out for a while.. at least a week. If she re-initiates contact after that.. don't get all excited, but play it cool.

Start doing your own stuff and going out and doing hobbies and stuff. You're dwelling too much on her.

Trust me... when you get a great connection with the next woman, this one won't even cross your mind!
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