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Author:  seansmc [ Mon Nov 29, 2010 5:27 pm ]
Post subject:  No reply after texting, help please
For me the most annoying thing that can happen when your trying to pull a hb is when they decide not to text back....like if your not interested just fukin say!! wud much rather that.

Here's the situation i'm in anyhows,

I was texting a hb i met awhile back...it was going great she was laughing, responding quick..askin me q's...and giving me x's. I send another text and booom got no reply, it's just gone dead.

I reviewed the texts and only thing i can see that i might have done wrong is staying on the same subject for too long when i should of moved on....but still it was goin so well i didn't want to change

I don't want to send her a text because then i'll come across as needy but at the same time I don't won't to lose this hb, she's actually kwl to talk to and seriously hot....so whatcha think i should do guys....text her back? if i should hw long ya think i should wait...?

I know people will say she might have a gd reason not for textin back...but i can't accept that she was replyin instantly and i know she wasn't busy.Usually if this happened I would just say fuk it nd text someone else but I like this hb dn't want to lose her...Any advice would be appreciated...i'm deffo goin to text her back actually, how long should I leave it...and can you's think of somethin smart for me to say?

wud appreciate help on this.....thanks
Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Mon Nov 29, 2010 5:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: No reply after texting, help please
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1. if your not interested just fukin say!! wud much rather that.

2.I was texting a hb i met awhile back...it was going great she was laughing, responding quick..askin me q's...and giving me x's. I send another text and booom got no reply, it's just gone dead.

I reviewed the texts and only thing i can see that i might have done wrong is staying on the same subject for too long when i should of moved on....but still it was goin so well i didn't want to change

3. I like this hb dn't want to lose her...Any advice would be appreciated...i'm deffo goin to text her back actually, how long should I leave it...and can you's think of somethin smart for me to say?
1. Have you actually shown her YOU'RE interested in being anything more than a friend? If not, you can't blame her about not being honest about HER intentions.

2. Texting back and forth a lot is a fantastic way to keep building more and more rapport. You know what that does? Puts you in the friend zone. You want to fuck her? Risk BREAKING rapport by teasing, being sexual, or disagreeing with her. You know the BEST time to change topics? When things are going WELL. You know the best time to break kino? When she's complying fully. Get it? Push-pull. If you keep just giving her what she wants and stop being a challenge, she gets BORED.

3. Wrong attitude. Fuck her. If she wants to play ball, great, if not, who cares? You can meet 10 women just as hot and actually into you TOMORROW if you want to. There is no one silver bullet hilarious thing to say for every situation. She got bored of texting you. Wait a few days and see if she gets back in contact. If no, ping her interest with a random funny text about something, see if she responds. If so, reply after 2x as long as it took her, and invite her THE FUCK OUT ON A DAY 2 ALREADY. If she still doesn't respond, put her on your list of people you invite out to clubs/bars with other friends on the weekend. She can then choose to come or not and it's no pressure.
Author:  PeteNana15 [ Mon Nov 29, 2010 6:12 pm ]
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I have the same problem.. I just dont know how to show im interested without showing it too much...

Also to your response #3.. where would be a good place for a day 2? coffee? dinner? happy hour at bar?
Author:  seansmc [ Mon Nov 29, 2010 6:57 pm ]
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Thanks for the reply,

I've actually been using alot of push and pull...and teasing her.Some times when i tease her she gets pissed off about it like tells me to fuck off, i just say i was only playing and make a joke and then get on with it...then she likes me again.
think you might of got it spot on when you said make a day 2...i should of done that by now...fuck.

I Know I have the wrong attitude, it's not just her good looks-there's just something about her and honestly I don't know what it is.I have other contacts that are better looking, still doesn't make me feel better and it usually does.
Only thing i can do is wait for a response...then if not i'll send her a text saying "Don't tell me you've gone shy on me....or wait you didn't go and join one of those crazy religious cults did ya? :)"
Author:  Legit_ [ Mon Nov 29, 2010 8:01 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: No reply after texting, help please
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Texting back and forth a lot is a fantastic way to keep building more and more rapport. You know what that does? Puts you in the friend zone.
Sounds like a public service announcement. I LOL'ed pretty hard.
Author:  Mdog [ Wed Dec 01, 2010 6:56 pm ]
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I think most men can relate to having experienced this problem. I feel that a lot of technological advancements can actually be a hindrance to seduction if used inappropriately i.e. Facebook, texts.

Remember that you're the catch, not her! Try getting some other girls numbers that aren't dead wood numbers, that way you won't get down as you won't be stuck thinking about one girl all the time. I've suffered exactly the same problem in the past but am trying to learn from previous mistakes. Now I only send texts to arrange date time, places and make sure everything is on. It's better avoided generally. I think flirting and communication is better done face to face.

I'm a novice to the PUA community but I hope my words hold some sort of comfort. You never know mate, maybe she'll text back tomorrow wanting you to go over and f*#k her. Good luck anyway
Author:  seansmc [ Fri Dec 03, 2010 1:41 am ]
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yeah cheers mdog I understand what your saying.I do agree that the likes of facebook, aim/msn and texting can be a hinderence.But nowadays they're essential as alot of the time the hb won't agree to a day 2 until she feels a certain level of comfort.

Basically you need to text to build rapport and gain comfort between yourself and the hb.This is easier said then done because at the same time you have to maintain attraction and not lose it....which is tricky at times, one bad text/msg can fuk up everything as we all know!

Anyhows an update of this girl, I sent her a text, she replied and the Day 2 has been arranged, the game is back on :D

I went against what alot of "guru's" say by texting her again...but i got the girl I really like back so well worth it!
Author:  Mdog [ Fri Dec 03, 2010 11:24 am ]
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Nice one seansmc .

Good luck with the date
Author:  Voodoo.Fresh [ Sat Dec 04, 2010 9:40 pm ]
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If you have one, read the texts to a trusty pivot.
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