Today, we're going to discuss and I would like your feedback on this. I've been reading this book called Psychology Of Persuasion and other books that discuss of NLP. Those that are interested in NLP will like this thread alot.
Since dating is persuading the girl into dating you, some may say how do you do this? How can I persuade a girl to date me? How could I make a girl like me? How can I make a girl trust me enough to sleep with me?
Think of yourself as a product on a self - you're basically selling yourself to the girl...how you sell yourself to the girl is another topic! Think of how the top leading marketers sell their products to people. Would you buy their product if they said, "We suck and we're not good enough!" Of course you wouldn't!
So, how do you make women like you in order to give you their number or have sex with you?
Let's first start with:
Mirroring Physiology
While talking with her, mirror her body posture and body language, her breathing rate if you can. This will make her unconsciously think to herself, "Hey, this guy is just like me!" Continue mirroring even though she changes position. To see if she's in sync with your body language just change your body posture or body language and if she follows suit then she likes you and feels in rapport.
Conversation Mirroring
By using the same dialog she is projecting she will think that you and her have the same beliefs, attitudes and values in life.
GIRL: I hate vacuuming it's so yucky!
GUY: Vacuuming is yucky i can see why you hate it! Is there anything you rather do besides vacuuming that you love?
She's working on a AWAY Meta-Program. We'll discuss about Meta-Programs in a bit later. If a woman is in a AWAY Meta Program, then she will avoid pain and want to be around pleasure.
Eye Accessing Cues
You can communicate and find what the person is thinking by reading the person's eye accessing cues. For instance:
GIRL: I was at the park [Looks in upper right] and heard [looks to the right] my child playing on the swing set [looks at lower left] and had a great time!
GUY: So, just by imagining yourself at the park with your child puts you in a happy moment, huh?
We'll discuss about different Meta Program's that people run on. There are 23 or more Meta Programs that people run on but for now we'll only discuss a few.
What are Meta Programs? Meta Programs are programs that guide your mental processes. The mind have filters and within the filters are Deletion, Generalization and Distortion and after the filters are Meta Programs that will let us process the information therefor making us react in a certain way.
TOWARD \ AWAY Meta Program
Towards is when a person moves towards pleasure. A person with an AWAY will push away or avoid pain. To communicate with these type of people you want to make sure while talking with a TOWARDS person that you keep the conversation about Goal Orientated. Talking to an AWAY Person they will avoid pain at all cost and now enjoy anything that might be pleasurable because they're unsure about it. So, dealing with AWAY person - using the words avoid, pain, reject or anything that make them feel they are in rapport with you. To Determine if the person's an TOWARD or an AWAY just ask them, "What do you want in life\relationship\career?" If they respond with words like, "Happiness, money, love" or anything that is pleasurable then they're working on a TOWARD Meta Program. If they respond with avoidance words or any of that sort they're running on a AWAY Meta Program.
INTERNAL \ EXTERNAL Meta Program
Internal are the people that depend themselves of knowing they did a good job. Their locus is in themselves for validation whereas EXTERNAL people look outside for validation. Building rapport with these type of people like an INTERNAL person you want to say, "You know you did a good job!" with an EXTERNAL you want to say, "I said you did a good job!" To determine if the person's a Internal \ External Metal Program just simply ask, "How do you know if you did a good job at work?" or ask them, "How do you know if you're beautiful?" An EXTERNAL person would respond like, "Because other men told me so!" and an INTERNAL person would respond like, "Because I am!".
SELF \ OTHERS Meta Program
Would she rather be by herself or by others? To determine this just ask her what type of activities she likes doing when she's not busy. If she responds, "Being at home and watching a movie" then she's operating on an SELF meta program and if she says, "Out with friends" then she's working on an OTHERS Meta Program. Pretty self explanatory, huh?
We'll also discuss about using a person's representative system to build rapport with them.
A person's language they speak is in terms of their five senses they are primarily use. I am more auditory and Kinetics. So, I learn by hearing and by feeling or doing. I learned how to make my visual representative system stronger along the road.
So, how do you determine if the person is using Visual, Auditory or Kinetics?
Visual Representative System
They will use words like, "See, look, saw" anything that will do with sight. For instance, "See the big picture?"
Auditory Representative System/b]
They will use words like, "Hear, sounds" anything that will do with sound. For instance, "Sounds like a good plan to me!"
Kinetic Representative System
They will use words like, "Feel, intuition, work, get" any action words that deal with doing something physical or feeling something. For instance, "I just knew that he didn't feel right to me!"
So, you successfully build rapport and made them like you more! Leave comments if you guys wish and any feedback you guys would like. Thanks!