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Author:  adonis_boy [ Fri Nov 12, 2010 10:27 pm ]
Post subject:  how to restore attraction
Things were perfect with this girl until I screwed it up. Her attraction was very high. Stupidly, I invited her to a party with lots of people and loud music before having an individual date and building comfort. I end up not being able to talk to her because there are always other people around entering the convo. Then the loud music stars, I try to escalate kino but since there is not enough comfort, she is scared and asks me if I am wanting her for sex.

I try to act cool but become a wussy and end up following her all night and she is bored, going next to other guys, ignoring me. As I am leaving, I admit to her I was boring, I wanted to get to know her better and a party was definitely not a good setting for that. She says "See you next week." and gives me a hug but I feel that the attraction is gone.

What is the best way to recover her interest level?
Author:  ryhi [ Fri Nov 12, 2010 10:48 pm ]
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Lol back to square 1 lol you shouldn't be chasing her aha make sure you're the one that's leaving I suppose what you have to do next time you see her is turn into mr sociable you have to set all eyes on you speak to everyone at the party !!!!! Make sure you are the prize . Sounds like oneitis to me , try speaking to other girls when at partys, before speaking to her , and after. As soon as you make a good impression in her set leave , and talk to some other girls, shell be watching you lol. REMEMBER you're the prize and afc thing to do by apologising for being boring shouldnt of done that :(
Author:  adonis_boy [ Sat Nov 13, 2010 7:00 am ]
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Do you think if I should try asking her out one more time before nexting?
Author:  ryhi [ Sat Nov 13, 2010 8:44 pm ]
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:lol: lol your not nexting her your just showing that youre an interesting guy and that people like to hang around with you and that you have alot of offers on the table.
It shows that you are the prize.
I struggle with nexting too quickly :(
heres a tip never say "But" always say "WHY NOT?"
Author:  adonis_boy [ Sun Nov 14, 2010 12:03 am ]
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UPDATE: A friend invited me to play a board game with 5 other people and guess who was also there.

I acted totally non-clingy, teased her, made people laugh, acted the same towards every people in the room (not chasing her or showing affection towards her) and it looked like she enjoyed it. Then we had to catch the metro and it was only me and her. A perfect chance for isolation and the time I have been waiting for.

No physical escalation because last time, she told me she is not the girl to take home so I wanted to show her it's more than physical. I built some comfort with DHV and fun stories, made her laugh and really enjoyed my time with her without thinking about the outcome. It was actually what I have been expecting for the whole time.

On the other hand, she received texts from someone else twice through the evening and when she saw the message, she told me "Oh, someone likes me.". I took that as a jealousy test and did not react like an AFC. I just replied "Oh, it's good you have someone to call you. You told me you had no one to call you before. That's an improvement! ;)". There was this one guy who was hitting on her at the same time so I guess I have a competition.

As we were leaving, I suggested that we meet one hour before the birthday party and she agreed unless a friend might need assistance with the party and she does not know her exact schedule. I said "Cool, then I will give you a call during the week and see." and then we left with a hug again. (I'm also afraid that too many hugs will leave me in the friend zone.)

I appreciate if you provide comments on this. They actually help a lot for me to improve.
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