Magic Bullets is actually by Nick Savoy, CEO and co-founder of Love Systems. Sinn used to be an instructor there (and I think may have helped write/edit some of the book) but now does his own thing with Captain Jack down in Texas. Good book though, for sure.
Aaanyway, if you're having trouble getting conversations to flow, I would start working on it in low-pressure situations. For example, go shopping and talk to the girls working at the shops. They HAVE to be nice to you and continue the interaction because they want your £££.
Ways to make conversations more interesting:
1. Opinion openers. They're the go-to method for indirect game because they WORK. Good opinion openers start debates and get information and views out of those involved. You can then pick the material you want to neg them about, or ask a question about, to continue the interaction and maybe open a new thread. Topics involving sex/dating/relationships/psychology are all good because women ALWAYS have opinions about them. For example, "is it ever ok to break up with someone via text message?" You will get girls who have done this, or thought about it, or it's been done to them, etc. and you very quickly have info from them to work with.
2. Questions as statements. Instead of "what do you do" or "where are you from" which are boring interview questions, you can say "I can tell you're one of those lawyer types" or "omg that's such a New Yorker thing to say!" Not only do you get the information, but she's qualifying herself to you and thinking/saying "what about me made you think that?"
3. Storytelling. Of course, at the start of any interaction you often have to provide the initial energy to move things forward. Having a bunch of funny, interesting DHV stories in your back pocket that you can trot out will take away some of the anxiety and make you more comfortable. Think back over the events of the past year or so and find 2-3 stories, random things that happened to you, adventures you went on, surreal coincidences you can't explain, or something like that. Tell them as if they just happened to you recently, and try and use them to show attractive characteristics about yourself such as preselection, leader of men, wealth, power or status, protector of loved ones, confidence, humour, and so forth.
Good storytelling is about using vivid descriptions, describing how you felt in the situation, creating tension, pausing for effect, speaking clearly and modulating the tone of your voice, and have some kind of punchline at the end. Try to fit in a few pauses where you can fit in a little question, like "do you have a friend like that?" or "have you ever been in that kind of situation?" or "has anything like that ever happened to you?" to allow her to opportunity to start a conversational thread of her own. Then you can either keep running with hers and open new threads from that, or go back to where you were with yours and continue it.
4. Transition phrases. If a thread's ended and you want to avoid saying "um, so...this place is pretty crowded huh?" You can use a transition phrase like "that's really funny because it totally reminds of this time when..." or "so the craziest thing happened to me the other day" or "that's just like when...." and then you have a few seconds to grab a story or something and run with it. Remember, it doesn't have to logically follow from the last thing, she just has to be having fun!
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