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Author:  xander92 [ Thu Oct 28, 2010 7:38 pm ]
Post subject:  The girl at the bus stop
Hey! I am new here so i will introduce myself briefly before asking my question :)
I live in a city near Paris and have only had one relationship (2 years) which ended recently...
In general I am not shy and I often hang out with girls and have no real difficulty to open up.
But for some reason I find it very difficult to deal with girls when I am attracted to them...and I dont approach them not because I dont know how to open but because I am scared to lack of things to say afterwards.

So there is this girl I see every evening when I go home from work. She is sat at a bus stop I walk past at around the same time...She has nothing in particular but she looks cute and I am sick of missing opportunities so I thought this time I must talk to her and try a number close :)

The problem is that I really dont know how to structure it. I am not spontaneous when I talk (probably because I think too much) so I must prepare what I am going to say...

Here is what I thought about (any feedback is appreciated)
(obviously I will talk in French lol)

Me-(Stopping by in front of the girl) Hey! I always wondered, where does this bus go? (I thought about that in order to disarm the "bitchshield")
Her-/.../

Me-Cool...oh apparently it doesnt go where I want to go. But thanks anyway, what is your name?
Her-/.../

Me-My name is (name). Actually, you know what, I just asked you that because I wanted to talk to you, you look like a nice girl (smile)
Her-/.../ I am scared of what she is gonna say at this point ...and I dont know how to progress to get her phone number (I have never done that before)
///
Me - (leaving with a time constraint)

Do you guys think it lacks of something critical such as some kino or comfort building routines and should I try and tease her?
Author:  Mr Magic [ Fri Oct 29, 2010 4:19 am ]
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This is easy. You see her everyday, so there isn't any rush to do anything big. Just say to her "hey, I noticed that I see you everyday at this bus stop. What's up" and let it go from there. No rush to get the number. No rush for anything, because you will see her again.
Author:  tommygray [ Fri Oct 29, 2010 8:15 am ]
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xander, you are doing a lot of things right, and I hope you are successful in your quest.

I would personally do a few subtle things a little bit different, and here is what and why.

1. Asking her name?? Nope. It is telegraphing far too much interest. Instead just say 'I'm xander by the way', that way it is about you. If you really want to step it up, say 'I'm xander, you probably recognise my butt because I am an ass model' etc.

2. Telling her she looks like a nice girl? Nope. Tell her that she looks like trouble and someone you don't want to get involved with. Otherwise, if you want to go with the nice girl line, tell her that you are far too much of a badboy for her. Saying 'you look nice' is again telegraphing too much interest and will scare her away.

3. Scared? Please don't be scared!! She is just one person, and you owe her nothing. This is the xander show, not the 'strange girl at bus stop' show, right? If you act like getting an email/phone number is a big deal, it will scare her. I like something easy like 'hey do you have email?' or 'gimme your email, I MIGHT write to u sometime'...

4. ALWAYS go for kino, from the first moment, you don't need a reason, just do it. Most guys never do this enough.

5. Find something, anything, to tease her about. Pf... perfume, shampoo, hair dye, stockings, handbag, make up ... go easy, maybe even compliment her on it, but in a teasing way.

Best of luck xander, let us know how it goes.
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