Brotherz... javascript:emoticon(':D') this might be a useful case lesson for some of you. I think I've started to make a recovery. I've got her talking to me again, and even laughing a bit (at least writing lol in the message). After I calmed down from the initial disappointment a few hours later I wrote:
subject: misunderstanding
Hey ***, about before, I was thinking that whole fantasy thing - might have made you feel pressured - like "What if I don't live up to the fantasy?" - But you don't need to worry - in my dream you were a dud...
[disarming with humour] no, seriously though, i think everything just got a bit blown out of proportion... I was fooling around with you, flirting... I mean I DO find you irresistably attractive, but I was exaggerating things for effect. I mean I DID go and do some manual labour (because i'd arranged to help a friend) but I didn't really have a cold shower or change into tighter underpants. And the fantasizing thing, I mean I imagined kissing you, kissing your neck... it's not so bad is it? I was just trying to wind you up. [damage control]
Let's get things back on track, and I'll promise not to be SO over the top
(No exaggeration in the romantic part though, the flowers, the colours, my feelings... that was all as is) [sweet talk - Cinderella types go for it - hey don't get me wrong here guys - I did mean all this stuff - I've got feelings for her]
reply:
Lol...really made me uncomfortable. Not used to being spoken like that about. We'll chat soon
Fucking great!!! Trust is being re-established. She's back in communication with me... and I've actually turned things around so that (as long as I'm gentle and ease back into it) I can go back to the expression of my overwhelming desire for her - which was a main attraction tool. It just has to be a bit more moderate now.
Let you know how it goes.
