Firstly, I am very good socially, I can be funny, witty, charming, sincere, and I have been told I generally leave a good first impression. It has taken a long time to get my self-esteem to the point where I can admit that so try not to hate *chuckle*

However all of this is 'reactive', I mean I let other people talk, tell stories, share opinions, and let others generally direct the conversation. I am a good listener and can add to conversations well (make witty comments, give advice, offer empathy), and will certainly keep these skills, (I have seduced HBs this way).

But now I want to kick it up a notch, instead of always riding conversations as a passenger, I want to direct them. Some of my friends are excellent at this naturally, they can have huge groups of people listening and reactive to them and I am observing them carefully, but I was wondering what thoughts you guys have here.

This is the next step for me because I don't always want to be seen as soft and reactive (or even worse, lacking personality), and because being directive in conversation will give HBs the impression that I can be directive, dynamic and take control in other ways, which I assume they will find very attractive.

I understand that less passive body language and tone of voice are important and I will be doing a lot of mirror work for this, also working on my story telling and facial expressions. But any thoughts you can offer will be greatly apprechiated!