PUA Forum :: Flaking: how to follow up?

I number closed this Chinese girl. It wasnt a cold approach, we have met before once, our social circles overlap a bit and she lives close to me. She was definately interested previous time we met. When she gave me her number, she gave me her email and MSN as well on her own initiative. I texted her (the day after) and added her to MSN (a week after). She flaked on me. The next week, I went to her flat together with a friend of mine that was there when I got her number. She lives on the campus and the door was open, just for you to get the picture. She was playing a game together with like 8 other Chinese ppl. I showed confidence, talked a bit with her and her best friend, invited both to go out and left before stuff got uncomfortable. They responded really positive, but obviously they didnt contact us.

Now, I want to give this a last shot. I know things look bad and I do not care what happens, so risky stuff is totally fine with me. So basically she flaked on me and I got her email, her MSN, her phone number, I got her as a friend on facebook and she lives very close to me. Hardly anyone is left on campus and after summer holidays, I move to the city and wont ever see her again. What would you do?

Thank you for your help in advance!

Author:	RedThirst [ Sun May 30, 2010 1:09 am ]
Post subject:	Flaking: how to follow up?
I number closed this Chinese girl. It wasnt a cold approach, we have met before once, our social circles overlap a bit and she lives close to me. She was definately interested previous time we met. When she gave me her number, she gave me her email and MSN as well on her own initiative. I texted her (the day after) and added her to MSN (a week after). She flaked on me. The next week, I went to her flat together with a friend of mine that was there when I got her number. She lives on the campus and the door was open, just for you to get the picture. She was playing a game together with like 8 other Chinese ppl. I showed confidence, talked a bit with her and her best friend, invited both to go out and left before stuff got uncomfortable. They responded really positive, but obviously they didnt contact us. Now, I want to give this a last shot. I know things look bad and I do not care what happens, so risky stuff is totally fine with me. So basically she flaked on me and I got her email, her MSN, her phone number, I got her as a friend on facebook and she lives very close to me. Hardly anyone is left on campus and after summer holidays, I move to the city and wont ever see her again. What would you do? Thank you for your help in advance!

Author:	Patrick_Bateman [ Sun May 30, 2010 2:35 am ]
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chinese girls are just very weird in general, wish i could help, but they have literally no idea what theyre doing with guys half the time. i can never read them and thus will never game them

Author:	RedThirst [ Sun May 30, 2010 3:49 pm ]
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Quote: chinese girls are just very weird in general, wish i could help, but they have literally no idea what theyre doing with guys half the time. i can never read them and thus will never game them Yes, I couldnt agree more on this! Bad thing is... I really like Asian girls lol. Oh well, I still want to at least get a crash and burn out of this!

Author:	El Hombre [ Sun May 30, 2010 8:38 pm ]
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Quote: I number closed this Chinese girl. It wasnt a cold approach, we have met before once, our social circles overlap a bit and she lives close to me. She was definately interested previous time we met. When she gave me her number, she gave me her email and MSN as well on her own initiative. I texted her (the day after) and added her to MSN (a week after). She flaked on me. The next week, I went to her flat together with a friend of mine that was there when I got her number. She lives on the campus and the door was open, just for you to get the picture. She was playing a game together with like 8 other Chinese ppl. I showed confidence, talked a bit with her and her best friend, invited both to go out and left before stuff got uncomfortable. They responded really positive, but obviously they didnt contact us. Now, I want to give this a last shot. I know things look bad and I do not care what happens, so risky stuff is totally fine with me. So basically she flaked on me and I got her email, her MSN, her phone number, I got her as a friend on facebook and she lives very close to me. Hardly anyone is left on campus and after summer holidays, I move to the city and wont ever see her again. What would you do? Thank you for your help in advance! day 1 run smoothly, very good. after that? just giving my opinion here: would it be better if you call her after a day or 2 instead of texting her? that way you become more transparent. if you call her say: hello this is r.t., just checking my phone book, so it's you! (act like you're having 100 0f girls calling you each day) can we get along sometime this week for a cup of tea or coffee and some stimulating conversation? then set a date. the next week you went to her flat, unannounced? it's very clear that you are pursuing her. she lost her interest in you, boring, no challenge, you are not a prize catch i guess. you ask what to? i dunno! it's very hard to reverse this situation i assume. maybe there's some other guys expert in this situation. don't be so serious with this girl, there's thousands out there, find another prey. i hope this help. goodluck to your game. El Hombre

Author:	RedThirst [ Sun May 30, 2010 9:14 pm ]
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Thank you for your reply El_Hombre. Calling might have been better at day#2, I decided to go for texting because she told me she had to work at a Chinese restaurant that day and I didnt know the hours. I do not regret going up to her, I enjoyed the experience, showed confidence and learned from it although you are right in that I am chasing her there. I dont care about this girl, but I have nothing to lose right? I think Ive read somewhere "make the CENSORED say no". Since I am newb, I have lotta learning to go through.

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Author:	ChairmanMao [ Sun Jul 18, 2010 2:49 am ]
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Hey man, I'm a Chinese guy so I may be able to help a little bit. I think going to her place may be a bad choice, coz you are dragged into her social circle with bunches of Chinese ppl. It's hard for you to DHV. I would say one-on-one date is the best setting to date a Chinese girl, and you should aim at taking her to places where you can DHV. As foreigners we are excited about learning American ppl and American culture. And finding a place that is strange enough to her that she has to rely upon you won't be too hard for you. I guess. Another thing I wanna warn you is that you usually don't get f-close with a Chinese girl on Day 2. You may be very lucky to even make-out close. Virginity is still a big thing in China, and girls were educated in the concept that they should marry the guy who they lost heir virginity to. Now things might have changed a little bit, but still most Chinese girls know that even if they lose v-card or have sex, there should be some benefit coming with it, like a garanteed long-term relationship or sth. This is the culture, and you may have to respect that if you wanna game on chinese girls.

Author:	Mysterious Pua [ Sun Jul 18, 2010 5:27 am ]
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Sounds like you havent built enough up with her to me aka DHV,Rapport, and Kino. Im new here but Ive been in the game and have realised there is a huge online community for this so Ive decided to join this pua forum as well since it seems knowledgable. The problem is if you do not contact her or stay on her mind then your not going anywhere. You have the digits and everything though the fact that she flaked on you shows me shes either not interested enough or had something or someone else who she did something with. I would text her-keep it simple long texts are too needy-and set up something else if your this attached to getting with her. If not no sweat move on. Also does she have any Asian connections?-Asian girls obviously have a great social circle with other Asian girls so if there are any friends to game go for it. Hope this helps and good luck on closing.

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