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Author:  IAmJohn90 [ Thu May 20, 2010 6:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Dancing: Where do you escalate from?

Hey, I've recently started going to University in the UK. Standard part of the student experience is of course going clubbing a few nights every week.

I'd like advice on how to dance with a girl you've just met. I know how to dance, my friends and I do it all the time. Dancing, "intimately," with girls in the past has been with girlfriends so it was always pretty much close, hands on hips, grinding and the like from the minute we start.

So how do you dance at the start, whether it's with a girl you've just met and taken to the dancefloor or one you've opened there? What's the routine? Start facing one another or with her back to your front? Relatively close? What do I do with my hands? I know how to escalate and what to escalate to, but don't know what to escalate from. Any help would be appreciated.

Author:  Ricoshea [ Fri May 21, 2010 1:51 am ]
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your just over thinking it bro dancing is the easiest way to get with a chic its all about body language girls are mad easy to read on the dance floor if they aint feeling you you'll be able to tell and if they are feeling you you will be able to tell dancing is about being primal letting your body do the talking hope this was helpful

Author:  vigilant [ Fri May 21, 2010 5:18 am ]
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just find a girl, go up to her and put your hands on her hips and start dancing. if she blows you off, fuck her. you'll never see her again. girls are there to dance, so just do it!

it makes me shake my head when I go to school dances and mixers and all the guys are doing same old same old hands on hips, back and forth movement. when I'M on the dance floor, I make girls want to dance with me.

I'm constantly changing up my pelvic thrusts(lol) and movements(hands too). If a song is playing that mentions getting low, I'm on the fucking ground, bringing the girl down with me. If you're looking to get into a girls pants, start talking to her while dancing. compliment her (cute hair, youre a good dancer, blah) and the continue on to full conversation. spin her around so she is facing you and just talk. just like you would normally, only you're dancing. keep moving your hands around, going up the sides of her torso close to the breasts, then back down. tease her. my hands are usually never like eachother. I will keep one hand on hip, one on side of her leg, etc etc. some girls even like to be tickled while dancing(perfect kino, has worked for me.)

You: "Are you tickleish?" Her: "Yes." You: *tickle*"
or
You: "Are you tickleish?" Her: "No." You: *tickle*

just do whatever makes you comfortable. I love dancing and am always looking forward to dancing. I bring girls with me dancing, it's just easy fun.

Author:  IAmJohn90 [ Fri May 21, 2010 3:36 pm ]
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Hm, interesting. It didn't occur to me that you could start with that degree of intimacy. Is it wise to open by starting dancing as well? Like if a gril is giving you IOI's on the dancefloor, just full on take her hand, start leading?

Author:  vigilant [ Fri May 21, 2010 9:13 pm ]
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absolutely.

It's kind of like going to your home team's football game and high-fiving total strangers sitting next to you when your team scores. it's just gonna happen.

so yeah you've got the right thought going on, just take her by the hand/hips/whatever and start dancing. another thing I like to do is start a conversation immediately after I start dancing.

Author:  Temptation_205 [ Fri May 21, 2010 10:55 pm ]
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Personally, it is no different dancing than it is chating up the girl. Infact it is slightly more powerful as you are using your body as the tool rather than your mouth.

Your main aim is just to create some sexual tension between you. You can flirt with her by saying shes crap at dancing, and then dance like a geek for a few seconds.This is also perfect for doing the none verbal form of the push and pull. Once there is the initial atraction you can get closer. No need for you to take dancing seriously and dance like usher.

Gamblers stealth seduction videos are very useful in explaining this situation.

Author:  bits [ Sat May 22, 2010 5:57 pm ]
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I've once done a PU (in my pre-PUA days that is) almost without saying anything.
I used some lame opener (didn't care what, she was already interested) and then danced, escalated etc. And I can't even dance properly ;)

Read this: http://www.fastseduction.com/guide/03_A ... slow.shtml
It's gold.

Author:  ajkby52 [ Sun May 23, 2010 5:18 am ]
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I think one of my biggest problems is approaching a set of girls who are circle dancing. What are the best approaches you have if a group of girls are dancing facing each other?

Author:  sebduction [ Sun May 23, 2010 9:26 am ]
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Go stand in the middle and start dancing with one of them :)
you show that you balls if you do that!

ciao!

Author:  jakelambert [ Sun May 30, 2010 12:04 pm ]
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It's all about calibration:

first you start quite neutral: certain distance, doing your thing.

then you take her hand(s) and start leading her

if she's comfortable with that.... leave her hands and keep doing your thing (take away to maintain her comfort levels)

then get closer and see how she responds to that.. if she's comfortable you can put your hands on her hips and get a more intimate dance.

XD

Best of luck dude!

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