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Author:  slimsta [ Sat Apr 03, 2010 7:53 am ]
Post subject:  im away for 2min and shes with a buddy.. wtf
in a party, i made out with a girl for like 10min, got her #, had some sexual touching going and told her ill be back in a bit cuz i needed to get some fresh air and meet my buddy (obviously not for that reason lol but u get the point)
i come back to the dance floor and she is making out with one of my buddies.
now me and this guy dont really know each other but the names.. i mean we hang out like twice maybe but never talked for long to each other. so i see him making out with her and i tell him from his back "come on man.. bro's before hoe's isnt it?", he took of and i really appreciated it, and i got respect to him now. i take this girl upstairs and we having a bit of talk about how i left her for a sec and shes with someone else.. but i wasnt mad at all.
she goes "i dont even really know you, i mean we are here to have fun right?"
me: "yeah, and im not saying dont have fun.. go ahead.. i would love to see you having a good time. but i really felt like there is some chemistry between us."
her: "there is.. i just flirt and u should do the same"
me: "im not like that.. though, and how can i trust you now after you tell me all this?"

anyways.. stupid convo.. i felt like an AFC breaking up with a girl that i thought was 100% mine and realised how stupid i was for even bring all this up.

i end up somehow giving her and her friend a ride home and i asked "will you text me tomorrow moring, first thing when you wake up?"
she said yes and she did! she texted me "blabla.... hope you got home safely blabla.."

now my question is, this guy saw me with her, he saw the whole thing. then as soon as i left he went for it.. how could have i handled the situation better?

and dont get me wrong, i kept on doing my thing.. it just that i want that girl in particular.
Author:  MickCoffee [ Sat Apr 03, 2010 10:08 am ]
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Dude, I think you realised that she just played a jealous shit test on you and she won right?

Or who knows, maybe she wasn't.. she did open up to you that she was only there to have fun, a definate IOI dude I think she was into you. Although, who cares if she was seeing someone, she clearly contradicted herself by getting in with you and your buddy, you should have just continued gaming her. Although, respect for getting her to text the next morning man that obviously means something, the game.. is on :twisted:

But the buddy situation, there's no "how should you have handled it" we all have our different opinions how people should handle situations there's no objective answer. My opinion however is that you should have sarged another girl so if there was a jealousy test it would've been reversed on her, making her run back to you.

Also, by running back to her you probably unconsciously gave her the message "you just made out with me then my friend behind my back....good doggy :)" you should have punished her by freezing out and going for another girl. That way she would've felt that she lost all value in your eyes and she would need to work to get another chance. If she does, she'll know not to fuck with you.

However, I have no doubt that somewhere in your mind you approached the situation in the best manner you could at the time. Personally that's all that matters. If the situation was handled with confidence and congruency I doubt there would've been anything to worry about just don't give off the impression that you're needy.

Good Luck man
AFCCoffee :twisted:
Author:  omans02 [ Sat Apr 03, 2010 10:21 am ]
Post subject:  Re: im away for 2min and shes with a buddy.. wtf
Quote:
in a party, i made out with a girl for like 10min, got her #, had some sexual touching going and told her ill be back in a bit cuz i needed to get some fresh air and meet my buddy (obviously not for that reason lol but u get the point)
i come back to the dance floor and she is making out with one of my buddies.
now me and this guy dont really know each other but the names.. i mean we hang out like twice maybe but never talked for long to each other. so i see him making out with her and i tell him from his back "come on man.. bro's before hoe's isnt it?", he took of and i really appreciated it, and i got respect to him now. i take this girl upstairs and we having a bit of talk about how i left her for a sec and shes with someone else.. but i wasnt mad at all.
she goes "i dont even really know you, i mean we are here to have fun right?"
me: "yeah, and im not saying dont have fun.. go ahead.. i would love to see you having a good time. but i really felt like there is some chemistry between us."
her: "there is.. i just flirt and u should do the same"
me: "im not like that.. though, and how can i trust you now after you tell me all this?"

anyways.. stupid convo.. i felt like an AFC breaking up with a girl that i thought was 100% mine and realised how stupid i was for even bring all this up.

i end up somehow giving her and her friend a ride home and i asked "will you text me tomorrow moring, first thing when you wake up?"
she said yes and she did! she texted me "blabla.... hope you got home safely blabla.."

now my question is, this guy saw me with her, he saw the whole thing. then as soon as i left he went for it.. how could have i handled the situation better?

and dont get me wrong, i kept on doing my thing.. it just that i want that girl in particular.
I would advice u to stop making an issue from this situation, this girl have told u point blank that both of u were there to have fun of which u are one of the victim of her fun fest, she also made it clear that she don't even really know u to be comitted to u alone in her fun fest, she made it abundantly clear that she is an independent woman and have the right to do whatever she want with whomever she chooses even if he's your buddy and advice u to go flirt (sarge) with other girls, are u getting the point here?. If I were u I would'nt contemplate the AFC mind set of having a convo that seems as if both of u are already in LTR, maybe she was trying to get u jealous or just want to make out with every guy that come's her way of which u were one of them :) . At that point u would have considered either to do your best to add her to your long list of girls u lured into your bed or someone u considered a girlfriend material or not. U were in a party, go sarge other targets to signal that she is not your only choice.

U further goes super needy AFC by dropping her and her friends off after her undecorous behaviour, u only could have let her into your car if she was going home with u to cement the night, man. don't go that silly road next time, please. U are not responsible for her and she did'nt show a better attitude to want to be responsible for her. Well, nice u learn your lesson and handle it right next time.
Author:  Nex [ Sun Apr 04, 2010 7:47 am ]
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Someone previously pointed out that she was giving you the jealous guy test. I think he nailed it.

She knows that by making out with you she's getting an emotional investment from you - and by kissing another guy the next second she wants to see how invested in that you are. If you're a high value guy with lots of women (or if you're trying to cultivate that mind set), it doesn't affect you much. You failed the test she gave you, but I don't think it's something irredeemable.

As an outsider looking in on the situation, I think the best thing you could have done would be to smile at them, and then freeze her out, as you were previously advised. Make her work for your attention, reward her when she does what you want, and freeze her when she doesn't.

Actually, since she EXPECTS you do be hurt, you might even experiment by trying to push her into this other guy's arms. I hear stories on here a lot where guys say that they go into a set and ask the girls if they want to dance with his friend (his wing) but instead they want to dance with the guy with the balls to ask. Treat them both like they haven't harmed you, and if by some chance you ended up talking to her later, DHV the guy she was kissing behind your back. She expects you to be jealous.

That's how I'd play it, anyway.
Author:  slimsta [ Sun Apr 04, 2010 7:34 pm ]
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okay. thanks a lot of all the great answers!
i just didnt see the 'shit test' so thats why i went too far. now i know :)

ps. that same party, i still banged a girl in the washroom so its all good lol ;) i was just asking cuz i really had to work for it to get something and i want it to come easier 8)
Author:  30Lays [ Mon Apr 05, 2010 8:43 am ]
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Definitely the jealousy test.....In the end you got your balls drained anyway so who cares :)
Author:  MickCoffee [ Mon Apr 05, 2010 10:29 am ]
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Definitely the jealousy test.....In the end you got your balls drained anyway so who cares :)
Oh yes and in the process he also fell for a blatant shit test which made him appear incongruent and inconfident in his own inner game. These are mistakes that he should not be making whilst sarging however you, like others in the seduction community are so closed minded on the results that you care not about the incongruent mistakes that were made. Sure he got his "balls drained" but he could have got his "balls drained" with that girl he put investment in with.

Slimsta, please note that what I wrote is not an attack on you. Respect that you got some sex in the end but I think you should focus more on how to turn a shit test around rather than closing. You don't want to end up lowering your social value in such a way that it will lower your general social status.

AFCCoffee :twisted:
Author:  suavaye` [ Mon Apr 05, 2010 2:10 pm ]
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she sounds like a hoe anyway, you were gone for how long? and she's already on some other guy, you shouldnt have talked about the situation, just got some head or something, she was obviously just having fun so she's not LTR material, just a booty call nothing else
Author:  thebigtone [ Tue Apr 06, 2010 5:39 am ]
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Personally would not have spoke to her again,

maybe if she passed by I would say hi,
If she stopped to chat then so be it but no way would I chase that.

TT
Author:  MickCoffee [ Wed Apr 07, 2010 1:02 am ]
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Quote:
Personally would not have spoke to her again,

maybe if she passed by I would say hi,
If she stopped to chat then so be it but no way would I chase that.

TT
Yeah I second that.

AFCCoffee :twisted:
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